Anonymous wrote:"Huh, that's cute. You know what, though -- if you had your tummy bare on the playground, it would get all scratched up. What if we put a tank top underneath for protection. It would still look cute but it is easier to play."

Ridiculous. One of the worst scripts I’ve ever seen on DCUM.

As per Lisa Damour’s latest podcast episode: “That’s adult clothing. We can talk about you wearing it when you’re older, but it’s not something I’m letting you wear while you’re this young.”

She doesn’t have to understand it beyond that. Yes, you’re allowed to have rules.

Anonymous wrote:My 10 year old wears the align tanks and I am perfectly fine with it. In school, she will wear them under another layer because it is cold in the building. There is absolutely nothing sexual about it.

Now my 15 year old is the one that is a more concerning situation, not because she shouldn’t be wearing crop tops but a large portion of men in our society are gross. I’ve seen men up to 70 years old staring at her and approaching her, trying to hug her. It’s disgusting. They are the issue, not the clothing that my daughter chooses to wear.

I’m not disagreeing, but by wearing the clothing, it makes your daughter a target of these men. It shouldn’t be that way, but it is. And I can’t stop considering that when my DD is making wardrobe selections.

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Anonymous wrote:It's skin, not a nipple. Stop trying to make this an issue

All mammals have nipples. By your reasoning we shouldn't be concerned about any of it.

Don't be ridiculous. Nobody's 7 yr old should be dressed like a teen.

Well by that token one could argue that nobody's 15-year-old should be dressed like a college student going to a club or a bridesmaid at a bachelorette party in Vegas, but yet here with are with the high school homecoming dresses....

dp.. some of the girls in the MS graduation looked like they could be hookers. The dresses were so short and so revealing, and so gaudy.

Anonymous wrote:Yes that’s fine. Why wouldn’t it be?

Some of you give this stuff way too much power over you

So, where’s your line? Can she wear a thong bikini to school? A micro mini skirt? A bra top? Daisy dukes?

This thread is wild and I don't know why we are shaming a 7-year-old for wanting to dress in clothing. That is obviously the style right now. If someone sexualizes a 7-year-old girl then that is their issue 110% just like if someone's sexualizes any woman for the way she dresses that is their issue not the girl. Woman or girl should have to dress or not dress in a certain way because of men. To make someone feel shame for that is causing far more harm than wearing a crop top ever will

Im sure every fashion trend has had moms who freaked out at their daughters — even pants instead of skirts lol. But be careful some of you — upsetting mom and dad may become the point of it if you are too controlling and judgmental when they’re little and place too much value in how they look.

I let my child experiment with her hair and clothes because none of it is permanent. She knows her value to me *is* permanent.

Do not have time to read all these comments but the ones I did read are crazy. There’s nothing wrong with the 7 year old or the mom. My 7 year old is also interested in crop tops because she likes to be fashionable and she sees women everywhere wearing crop tops. We don’t buy them because they’re not on dress code at her school. But if we did buy them, I don’t think she’d be objectifying herself. There’s nothing sexual about her stomach. She’s 7. I’ve got a baby who wears a lot of bubble rompers — are we objectifying her because she’s showing too much leg? If anyone thought that I’d say they’re sick and same for a 7 year old.

I’ve seen lots of tasteful crop tops on older women too, believe it or not. Pairing with a high waisted jean and a high neck top that shows just an inch or less of stomach looks contemporary and tasteful.

Anyway to the mom who asked for advice, I’d tell her they’re not on dress code and we’re not buying clothes you can’t also wear to school. Or I’d buy her one that just shows a tiny bit of stomach and tell her she can wear with high waisted jeans and only on the weekend because otherwise she’ll feel cold/can’t play comfortably and you’re not buying clothes that can’t be used frequently.

"Huh, that's cute. You know what, though -- if you had your tummy bare on the playground, it would get all scratched up. What if we put a tank top underneath for protection. It would still look cute but it is easier to play."

Anonymous wrote:There is sexualizing children which is obviously disgusting but then there is being aware that a lot of clothing made for women and girls is made smaller and tighter then men’s/boys clothes. Women’s fashion is heavily focused around showing off the female figure and girls clothes are often cut to mimic the style of women’s clothing. This is really unfair to girls who want to be fashionable but live in a world where women’s fashion is so often revealing and intended to have sex appeal.

If a little girl is playing at the playground and her shirt comes up while she is swinging on the monkey bars it is creepy and horrible for an adult to shame her or sexualize her body.

I do feel differently about clothing that is designed for women to show off skin being marketed to kids. It is a is a parents responsibility to recognize that “sexy” trends for adult women are not appropriate for kids. Imo it’s not about policing girls’ bodies, it’s about policing the trends that insist fashion=tight, low cut, short. Parents would do well to explore fashion with their kids that isn’t reliant on showing skin and body to look good.

+1. I have a teen girl with profound special needs. We have to dress her. I shop in the boys department to get clothing loose enough to easily get her arms into, have shorts that cover her diaper, etc. The way girls clothes are designed is just nuts to me. I feel pretty sure that if women had ruled the world for the last two thousand years, we would not have thought “let’s do this stiletto thing and destroy our feet.”

For my typical tween, I don’t particularly police what she wears, but I will point out what might show if she does a cartwheel, etc. she pretty quickly pivots on what to wear. She definitely isn’t trying to be sexy and that doesn’t even occur to her when she points out a cropped shirt.

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Anonymous wrote:It's skin, not a nipple. Stop trying to make this an issue

All mammals have nipples. By your reasoning we shouldn't be concerned about any of it.

Don't be ridiculous. Nobody's 7 yr old should be dressed like a teen.

Well by that token one could argue that nobody's 15-year-old should be dressed like a college student going to a club or a bridesmaid at a bachelorette party in Vegas, but yet here with are with the high school homecoming dresses....

This thread is so strange.
I was completely expecting the "you're the problem for sexualizing a literal child" commenters, but instead nearly every single one of these is stating that this is "too young" or that they would not allow it or that they would be "concerned" about why the CHILD wanted to dress that way, etc.

Um. She wants to dress that way because that is all she sees on the girls that she looks up to and admires! It's all over everywhere. Her babysitter probably sports this midriff bearing fashion, as do the older 6th graders at her school. So why wouldn't she?

DCUM is the most bizarre place. At what point between 7 and 13 did the light go on in your heads where you did the 180 required to find absolutely nothing at all wrong with a 13-year-old wearing bra tops and half shirts and flaming people who object to that--accusing them of sexualizing 13-year-olds? 85% of the girls at my child's middle school cannot seem to find a whole top in their entire closet, so it is not a small number of parents who think this is just fine. Why is it not "just fine" for a seven year old who certainly would have way less interest in appealing to the male libido than a 13-year-old girl would???????

My 10 year old wears the align tanks and I am perfectly fine with it. In school, she will wear them under another layer because it is cold in the building. There is absolutely nothing sexual about it.

Now my 15 year old is the one that is a more concerning situation, not because she shouldn’t be wearing crop tops but a large portion of men in our society are gross. I’ve seen men up to 70 years old staring at her and approaching her, trying to hug her. It’s disgusting. They are the issue, not the clothing that my daughter chooses to wear.

Really? My 7 yr old likes dresses with kittens, bumblebees, polka dots, anything holiday themed. I can’t imagine a 7 yr old wanting to dress like a teen

Anonymous wrote:There is sexualizing children which is obviously disgusting but then there is being aware that a lot of clothing made for women and girls is made smaller and tighter then men’s/boys clothes. Women’s fashion is heavily focused around showing off the female figure and girls clothes are often cut to mimic the style of women’s clothing. This is really unfair to girls who want to be fashionable but live in a world where women’s fashion is so often revealing and intended to have sex appeal.

If a little girl is playing at the playground and her shirt comes up while she is swinging on the monkey bars it is creepy and horrible for an adult to shame her or sexualize her body.

I do feel differently about clothing that is designed for women to show off skin being marketed to kids. It is a is a parents responsibility to recognize that “sexy” trends for adult women are not appropriate for kids. Imo it’s not about policing girls’ bodies, it’s about policing the trends that insist fashion=tight, low cut, short. Parents would do well to explore fashion with their kids that isn’t reliant on showing skin and body to look good.

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