I live with my sweet DH and three beautiful children in a little house that is kind of small, but cozy and clean. I work part-time at a job I love, pick up my children from school and go to pool, playground or arboretum with them. On Saturday mornings we walk to our neighborhood bakery to pick up fresh bread, and they eat warm rolls on the way back. We read books at home and snuggle before bed. My DH cooks dinner and after the kids go to sleep, we watch Netflix but only about 10 minutes because he insists on pausing it every 30 seconds to tell me something (about the show, about his day, about something he read). We go to bed early and everything is calm. That’s my life and I think it’s better than any fantasy I could have!

Anonymous wrote:I live in a cabin on a lake. Someplace remote, maybe in Maine or Alaska, or Canada. We have a Cessna 180 on floats that we use to get into town once every few weeks to socialize and stock up on supplies. We have a few friends around the lake, and kayak over to each other's house every now and then for a game of pinochle or an afternoon quilting together.

I keep a large vegetable garden, and spend most of August and September canning and "putting up for the winter". We hunt and fish. We keep chickens and bake our own bread. We have a couple spare rooms, or maybe a guest cabin, so friends or family can come stay with us for a few days. Our kids bring their kids to come learn to fish and kayak on the lake. We fly our 180 to even more remote lakes where we can hike up into the mountains and camp out. The stars are incredible.

Alaska poster from page 2. I love the idea of having a float plane! I’m adding that (and the lake!) to my fantasy. 😆

I live in a cabin on a lake. Someplace remote, maybe in Maine or Alaska, or Canada. We have a Cessna 180 on floats that we use to get into town once every few weeks to socialize and stock up on supplies. We have a few friends around the lake, and kayak over to each other's house every now and then for a game of pinochle or an afternoon quilting together.

I keep a large vegetable garden, and spend most of August and September canning and "putting up for the winter". We hunt and fish. We keep chickens and bake our own bread. We have a couple spare rooms, or maybe a guest cabin, so friends or family can come stay with us for a few days. Our kids bring their kids to come learn to fish and kayak on the lake. We fly our 180 to even more remote lakes where we can hike up into the mountains and camp out. The stars are incredible.

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Anonymous wrote:I have COVID and napped too late so now I am awake and reading this and cracking up in my basement. You all are the friends I want! The person whose husband keeps bees, who are fond of the lavender…the one whose parents don’t know where they are, so you don’t have to talk to them…you guys know where it’s at.

Too tired to share my own actual fantasy but maybe my fantasy is that I know I’m calling in sick tomorrow and hope to read the rest of this thread.

Lavender farm woman here. I hope your covid passes quickly and that you feel better soon! My beekeeper husband and I would send you plenty of lavender honey to make you feel better if we could. Just fantasize you've got it and you're putting it in some kind of restorative tea....

COVID reader here. I just took your lavender tea, and it had an immediate health benefit! You and your fantasy husband should market that fantasy tea!

Anonymous wrote:In my fantasy life I have never met the people that have hurt my family so badly, or I meet them and recognize them for what they will do to us and I run in the other direction.

And secondly, I don't care where I live or what I do for a living, but I spend it with my soulmate that I met, fell in love with, and had to say goodbye to. We have a life together that ends up the opposite in almost every way from the one I'm living right now.


Everything else would be secondary to me.

Truthfully, my constant long term fantasy is wishing I had known who to keep my distance and not socialize with. It has only been a couple of people so maybe I should count my blessings, but I never knew some people could be so inappropriate.

After seeing this thread I can think of multiple fantasies but I'll go with living on a lush private estate in Bali where I design fabrics, home decor and accessories. I am working on the designs for my second home in Italy which has inspired a new collection. My kids have impeccable manners and dh is insanely passionate about cooking varied and healthy meals. I can't take all the fruits and variety anymore so I sneak off to grab a hamburger which my unbelievably high metabolism requires occasionally.

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Anonymous wrote:My fantasy life: as a child I was interested in math and biology, and I had an aptitude for those types of subjects, and my family encouraged it. I became an accomplished medical researcher and doctor doing the kinds of medical research that’s really feel good. Like pediatric cancer or Alzheimer’s disease. My work creates some breakthroughs and I’m lauded for it and ultimately, some lives are saved or at least much improved. My husband is a tenured college professor in his chosen field. We have 2 great kids and we somehow, through a mysterious source of family money, can have them attend a nurturing, attentive private school. We live in a charming, historical, California-style craftsman bungalow in a fairly walkable inner ring suburb, and we also have a beach cottage or condo in an East Coast beach town that’s somehow low key and still flying under the radar a little. I have a variety of active hobbies like hiking and tennis. Since research and academia doesn’t put as much emphasis on your looks as the corporate world, I let my hair grow naturally and wear vaguely ageless clothes, such that people constantly wonder if I’m 40 or 70 or somewhere in between.

I lived this life for a decade and have no desire to return to academia. I've never seen such illegal and hostile HR behavior, institutionalized pedagogy, and bullying as I have in science. Many of my female colleagues had the exact same experience as me too. I had the ultimate credentials and background yet still fell victim to male suppression. Took a long legal battle to get my degree. Others gave up, many lost money as a result of senior scientists screwing them over, taking credit for their work and lying to them. I also had a patent stolen by a male college.

I've never seen such illegal and hostile HR behavior, institutionalized pedagogy, and bullying as I have in academia.

Fixed that for you.

Anonymous wrote:I have COVID and napped too late so now I am awake and reading this and cracking up in my basement. You all are the friends I want! The person whose husband keeps bees, who are fond of the lavender…the one whose parents don’t know where they are, so you don’t have to talk to them…you guys know where it’s at.

Too tired to share my own actual fantasy but maybe my fantasy is that I know I’m calling in sick tomorrow and hope to read the rest of this thread.

Lavender farm woman here. I hope your covid passes quickly and that you feel better soon! My beekeeper husband and I would send you plenty of lavender honey to make you feel better if we could. Just fantasize you've got it and you're putting it in some kind of restorative tea....

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Anonymous wrote:I have an apartment in the 7th Arrondissement in Paris and I have 3-4 good friends living close by. None of us are married. We meet at each other’s apartments, but also go out to cafes and restaurants a lot. Once a week we have a private cooking lesson together.
My children live down the street with their wives, whom I get along with great and who feel like daughters to me. I see them twice a week.
I live with two cats, but ones that sleep through the night.
I also own a small house in a small town at the water in Normandy. Also maybe a chalet in the Swiss Alps.
I write novels and practice street photography. Somehow I make enough money with this to live comfortably.
I travel to a different country every 3 months and stay as long as I feel like it.

I had a friend that lived in Paris (she tragically died young in a car accident) and I had the privilege to visit her twice in Paris. Her life was like this. Every week a new friend hosted dinner. Or we went to the Eiffel tower for picnic dinner. It was just pure indulgence. Fantasy life as young people.

Oh that is lovely. I’m sorry she died so young though.

Anonymous wrote:My fantasy life: as a child I was interested in math and biology, and I had an aptitude for those types of subjects, and my family encouraged it. I became an accomplished medical researcher and doctor doing the kinds of medical research that’s really feel good. Like pediatric cancer or Alzheimer’s disease. My work creates some breakthroughs and I’m lauded for it and ultimately, some lives are saved or at least much improved. My husband is a tenured college professor in his chosen field. We have 2 great kids and we somehow, through a mysterious source of family money, can have them attend a nurturing, attentive private school. We live in a charming, historical, California-style craftsman bungalow in a fairly walkable inner ring suburb, and we also have a beach cottage or condo in an East Coast beach town that’s somehow low key and still flying under the radar a little. I have a variety of active hobbies like hiking and tennis. Since research and academia doesn’t put as much emphasis on your looks as the corporate world, I let my hair grow naturally and wear vaguely ageless clothes, such that people constantly wonder if I’m 40 or 70 or somewhere in between.

I lived this life for a decade and have no desire to return to academia. I've never seen such illegal and hostile HR behavior, institutionalized pedagogy, and bullying as I have in science. Many of my female colleagues had the exact same experience as me too. I had the ultimate credentials and background yet still fell victim to male suppression. Took a long legal battle to get my degree. Others gave up, many lost money as a result of senior scientists screwing them over, taking credit for their work and lying to them. I also had a patent stolen by a male college.

Anonymous wrote:I have an apartment in the 7th Arrondissement in Paris and I have 3-4 good friends living close by. None of us are married. We meet at each other’s apartments, but also go out to cafes and restaurants a lot. Once a week we have a private cooking lesson together.
My children live down the street with their wives, whom I get along with great and who feel like daughters to me. I see them twice a week.
I live with two cats, but ones that sleep through the night.
I also own a small house in a small town at the water in Normandy. Also maybe a chalet in the Swiss Alps.
I write novels and practice street photography. Somehow I make enough money with this to live comfortably.
I travel to a different country every 3 months and stay as long as I feel like it.

I had a friend that lived in Paris (she tragically died young in a car accident) and I had the privilege to visit her twice in Paris. Her life was like this. Every week a new friend hosted dinner. Or we went to the Eiffel tower for picnic dinner. It was just pure indulgence. Fantasy life as young people.

I'm not unhappy with my current life and in some of these fantasies don't know how my kids would cope. E.g. I live in Honolulu but my kids aren't going to crap schools or getting knocked up by a surfer boy lol!

I loved Oahu as a child and visited some of the most luxurious resorts in the world while my Dad was consulting on them, but I'm not sure I'd love it as an adult.

I don't find being idle as fulfilling.

Ok, ok let me try.

I would live in Italy, have a gardener help me grow most of our food, help select the freshest ingredients, a chef that mentors me to learn how to cook real Italian food. Dabble in making my own wine. Consult at a local museum on preservation and exhibitions. Be a part of a tight-knit community that throws Friday dinners together. All my college friends just happened to retire in this town together. I'd have time to play the sports that I love. Make art in a studio with friends. Travel a few times a year. My extended family lives close (but not too close) lol. The local restaurants and bars all know us by name.

It's a fantasy because everything that makes me happy would all land in the same country and town. People would actually know each other, embrace and love one another. I feel like I don't have a ton of that here.

I have COVID and napped too late so now I am awake and reading this and cracking up in my basement. You all are the friends I want! The person whose husband keeps bees, who are fond of the lavender…the one whose parents don’t know where they are, so you don’t have to talk to them…you guys know where it’s at.

Too tired to share my own actual fantasy but maybe my fantasy is that I know I’m calling in sick tomorrow and hope to read the rest of this thread.

I’m an actress but not a super famous one. Talented and had a few successful and critically acclaimed streaming shows - but not like A list. I’m married to a drummer from a band that’s successful but not hugely successful. At this stage in his life, he doesn’t tour or make albums that often, he mostly produces other peoples music. Like what jack abernoff does for Taylor.

He’s crazy good looking - in my mind he looks like one of my fave actors. We’ve been together a long time and have 2 kids. We have sex 5x a week or so. We do petty regular therapy and couples therapy so we have a healthy relationship.

LOL my fantasy might be kind of mundane but it is what it is. This kind of thread is why I love DCUM because where else am I ever gonna spew this kind of crap?

Anonymous wrote:Well now I want a green velvet couch

That’s what you want? Not a secret apt to meet up with your old boyfriend?

Well now I want a green velvet couch