DH makes 600k which is decent money but I work, I make 150k. However, for me it's not so much about the money etc, the structure and routine provided by work is better for my mental health compared to if I am left to my own devices.

I have been fortunate as last 4 yrs I have been going in person once a week, starting Monday I will be going in twice a week (my own decision) but its not bad at all as we live 25 mins from my office. Now, if the commute was hellish and it interfered with giving attention to my kids then I would think twice. Currently, it's a good balance and having my own career works for me.

100%. I love what I do for $ and would do it 'for sport' if I didn't need money.

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Anonymous wrote:I can understand posters who say they wouldn’t quit working because they love their job, but I can’t understand posters who say they wouldn’t stop working because they wouldn’t know what to do with their time or need intellectual stimulation from their colleagues etc. I think that’s really sad.

I haven’t worked for nearly i decade. I quit as soon as I realized that I really could. My worst day not working is better than my best day on the job. I don’t need to fill every waking moment of my day with something to do, and I don’t need “intellectual stimulation” from a bunch of DMV blowhards.

I know. It is astounding.

DP. I don’t think it’s sad or astounding. A lot of people need structure and accountability to feel fulfilled. If you don’t, that’s fine, too. But it takes all kinds.

Anonymous wrote:I don't have to work (meet an above PP's definition of wealthy) - $$ is mine, not coming from DH -- but I still work so I can pass most of the $$ along to my kids and not go batty with all the extra time. I also want to set a good example for my kids who are currently teens. I absolutely will be retiring early though by mid-50s.

What good example are you setting?

No I would not work at my job. I would find something to do but it would bot be this.

Anonymous wrote:I can understand posters who say they wouldn’t quit working because they love their job, but I can’t understand posters who say they wouldn’t stop working because they wouldn’t know what to do with their time or need intellectual stimulation from their colleagues etc. I think that’s really sad.

I haven’t worked for nearly i decade. I quit as soon as I realized that I really could. My worst day not working is better than my best day on the job. I don’t need to fill every waking moment of my day with something to do, and I don’t need “intellectual stimulation” from a bunch of DMV blowhards.

I know. It is astounding.

I don't have to work (meet an above PP's definition of wealthy) - $$ is mine, not coming from DH -- but I still work so I can pass most of the $$ along to my kids and not go batty with all the extra time. I also want to set a good example for my kids who are currently teens. I absolutely will be retiring early though by mid-50s.

I’d quit and devote my time to several charities and do volunteer work.

I’ve been a volunteer since my very early teens.

We have family money. I quit for a few years but got bored and went back part time. It gives me something to do while my kids are in school, and the extra income does add up over time to a significant amount. I don't think anyone can have too much money.

Not for pay. I would quit my job and devote my time to a project I have long tried to do on the side, for no money. I think it’s important, a great service, but I don’t make any money at it. If I could, I would do that full time.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never depend on a man for money, but if I had enough money of my own I would not work. I would foster and adopt dogs.

Same. I wouldn’t quit working if I had to rely on DH but would quit in a heartbeat if I were independently wealthy, emphasis on the wealthy part. I would not quit working if I had enough money to be comfortable but were not wealthy. I’m not sure what that sum would be, but $15M at a minimum.

+1

My dad was the sole breadwinner and died when I was young. My mom made it clear we should always be able to support ourselves. I would never rely on my DH unless he was loaded (millions). But if I had the millions? I’d stop working and travel the world.

I think I could stop working right now and live off of DH’s salary but we’d have to be careful how we spend. We aren’t buying crazy expensive things but I like not needing to worry about money when I grocery shop or grab lunch. I couldn’t do that with just DH’s salary.

I don't have to work, but I do.

Anonymous wrote:I would never depend on a man for money, but if I had enough money of my own I would not work. I would foster and adopt dogs.

Same. I wouldn’t quit working if I had to rely on DH but would quit in a heartbeat if I were independently wealthy, emphasis on the wealthy part. I would not quit working if I had enough money to be comfortable but were not wealthy. I’m not sure what that sum would be, but $15M at a minimum.

yes cause idle hands....

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have to work and I don’t work.
I don’t understand why people would work if they don’t have to.

Because many of our jobs are very meaningful. And, I believe that humans were created to work -- to have a vocation and a purpose. Maybe it's at a paying job, or volunteering, or staying home with the kids. But if someone is just a lady who lunches and does yoga and nothing else...that is a waste of a gift, and I don't think that is ok.

LOL 🤣

I know a bunch of these ladies and they are not wasting anything. By your definition of work they are working too, just not for pay. They travel and spend tourism dollars, they help out with grandkids, they bustle around and do meaningful "vocational" things.

I have some neighbors like this and they are really vapid and shallow. They have been non-working for so long they have lost all persepctive and can't carry an interesting conversation. They just come across as really fake-nice, like almost drugged or something.