Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but I’m not of the school that thinks a man should leave his family to the tender mercies of psychopaths while he runs outside to hide or make noise and pretend to be the police, who, by the way, are as likely as not to blast him when they see him in the bushes or jumping up and down in the street.

So you think that even though confronting burglars is far more likely to result in injury or death or trauma that the dad should do that because its more manly? I mean I think one parent goes out the window and one parent tries to get to the kid in a normal situation. In THIS situation, the kid has a door in a CLOSET that leads to an attic. The kid has an EXCELLENT protective safety plan. The parents are more likely to expose the kid by going to her.

If this is THAT big an issue what really should happen is some type of communication between rooms, IE, some alarm parents can trigger to alert the daughter that someone might be in the house. There is no safer place for the kid than to use her escape hatch into an attic that is only accessible through a bedroom closet. Unless the burglar knows the house intimately, they aren't going to find the kid before the police come. So in THIS situation, everyone is better off by alerting the kid via phone/intercom/something to get into the attic and parents jumping out the window together. The house appears empty, they can call the police.

Saying dad should go start throwing punches because its more manly is just incredibly stupid. Mom's plan, while instinctually I understand it, is very stupid and increases the likelihood for people to get hurt and for the kid to witness someone she loves get hurt or killed.

I never suggested punches.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would avoid indulging in fantasies about fringe scenarios and focus on helping my family with their actual everyday challenges.

the possibility of a home invasion is very real, even in nice neighborhoods.

My DD is highly anxious, and she talks about what would happen if someone broke into the house. So, I have to go through scenarios with her.

How many people do you personally know have been victims of a home invasion? I know of NONE and I live in a nice neighborhood in West LA. There have been break-ins while people were away, thefts of bikes, outdoor decor and catalytic converters, but no home invasions. I have a house alarm, well-lit home and driveway, and lock up consistently. We do not drive luxury vehicles, wear expensive jewelry, accessories or clothing that would draw the attention of thieves. Maybe the answer to the anxiety of child left alone is to make sure they are alone less?

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but I’m not of the school that thinks a man should leave his family to the tender mercies of psychopaths while he runs outside to hide or make noise and pretend to be the police, who, by the way, are as likely as not to blast him when they see him in the bushes or jumping up and down in the street.

So you think that even though confronting burglars is far more likely to result in injury or death or trauma that the dad should do that because its more manly? I mean I think one parent goes out the window and one parent tries to get to the kid in a normal situation. In THIS situation, the kid has a door in a CLOSET that leads to an attic. The kid has an EXCELLENT protective safety plan. The parents are more likely to expose the kid by going to her.

If this is THAT big an issue what really should happen is some type of communication between rooms, IE, some alarm parents can trigger to alert the daughter that someone might be in the house. There is no safer place for the kid than to use her escape hatch into an attic that is only accessible through a bedroom closet. Unless the burglar knows the house intimately, they aren't going to find the kid before the police come. So in THIS situation, everyone is better off by alerting the kid via phone/intercom/something to get into the attic and parents jumping out the window together. The house appears empty, they can call the police.

Saying dad should go start throwing punches because its more manly is just incredibly stupid. Mom's plan, while instinctually I understand it, is very stupid and increases the likelihood for people to get hurt and for the kid to witness someone she loves get hurt or killed.

Anonymous wrote:I will get my gun first. Won’t hesitate to shoot.

Tough guy

Did you marry a eunuch OP?

Anonymous wrote:The school is in California.

You’re a clown

Sorry, but I’m not of the school that thinks a man should leave his family to the tender mercies of psychopaths while he runs outside to hide or make noise and pretend to be the police, who, by the way, are as likely as not to blast him when they see him in the bushes or jumping up and down in the street.

First, I also have dogs and they are a huge deterrent from an incidental burglary.

Second, your husband is actually far more practical than you are and is far more likely to actually help in this situation. Getting out of the house, calling for help and being able to assess the situation from outside will allow time to think and do things more likely to help. Barging into the burglars and declaring that you will martyr yourself for your kid is reactionary, more likely to cause a confrontation, and makes the likelihood of your daughter witnessing a very traumatic event higher.

A burglar isn't coming into your house to attack you, they are coming into your house to steal. So laying low, hiding and calling the police, even if it takes them 10 minutes, is a far better plan. Also if he is outside he can make some noise/make them think that the police have arrived sooner and hopefully scare them off.

Your daughter is safest if there is NO confrontation, because witnessing an extremely violent episode (including the shooting and killing of a burglar) would be a very traumatic event for a kid.

You want him to match your definition of 'manliness' but in reality his plan is the one likely to help his daughter and your vision of some Liam Neeson type event is completely out of touch with reality and the type of weird fantasy cosplaying that gets people killed in these situations.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a burglar entered my home, my Malinois would "encourage" the burglar to leave.

Same. I don’t encourage people to get dog breeds like Malinois unless they really know how to handle the breed. It’s not a dog for a novice pet owner. You have to be a very careful, cautious owner.

But yes, my dog (a breed similar to Malinois) is a straight up killer. Going after a burglar would be fun sport for him.

Is this breed bullet proof?

Anonymous wrote:I would avoid indulging in fantasies about fringe scenarios and focus on helping my family with their actual everyday challenges.

the possibility of a home invasion is very real, even in nice neighborhoods.

My DD is highly anxious, and she talks about what would happen if someone broke into the house. So, I have to go through scenarios with her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've thought about this, OP.

For the most part, burglars are interested in money, not killing someone. So, I would tell DD to lock herself in the bathroom.

We don't have that luxury because our master bathroom door doesn't lock, even if it did, it's super super easy to break it open. It's one of those pocket doors, which I hate.

I would just give the burglar whatever they wanted in terms of belongings.

Now, if they are intent on hurting someone as well, that's a different story. I'd also lure the criminal away from DD so that DD could escape. If DD were in her room, the only way to escape would be to jump out of the second story window. She might break a leg, but she'd be alive.

Most burglars aren't the kindhearted souls you seem to think they are. Many are on drugs and unpredictable.

? never said they were kind hearted. Stealing your stuff isn't kind hearted. And yes, they will become violent if they need/want to.

But given that most home invasions occur when there is no one at home, it's reasonable to assume that most burglars don't want a confrontation with the owners. They just want to steal your stuff and get out.

Anonymous wrote:If a burglar entered my home, my Malinois would "encourage" the burglar to leave.

Same. I don’t encourage people to get dog breeds like Malinois unless they really know how to handle the breed. It’s not a dog for a novice pet owner. You have to be a very careful, cautious owner.

But yes, my dog (a breed similar to Malinois) is a straight up killer. Going after a burglar would be fun sport for him.

If a burglar entered my home, my Malinois would "encourage" the burglar to leave.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Lol these responses. I hope people are just pretending they’re more woke than they actually are because, if I’m a burglar, man I’m raiding y’all’s homes tonight. A burglar has a gun. Get one or don’t get one, but your “run and hide” plan is…cute.

Someone coming into a house looking to shoot people is called a murderer, not a burglar. Random people breaking into a house looking to an excuse to kill someone is very very rare, even general even burglars are not looking for this to happen and would rather grab some things unseen and exit with no interaction

you should be embarrassed by your idiocy. https://www.statista.com/statistics/251914/number-of-robberies-in-the-us-by-weapon/

Well my friend you should be embarrassed by your grasp of the english language. Robbery BY DEFINITELY is violent. Robbery is taking someone literally off another person - so yes usually some threat and weapon is involved. Breaking into your house to steal your purse off the table while your family is upstairs is NOT the same thing and your stats related to robbery prove nothing.

"Robbery is considered a violent crime, where someone takes something of value directly from someone else. Burglary is considered a property crime, involving entry into a residence or building illegally, without permission, with the intent to commit a crime."

You think someone else should be embarrassed by their grasp of the English language??? Just a tiny bit of proofreading before you hit send and maybe your post would actually say what you meant to say and also make sense.

Anonymous wrote:I've thought about this, OP.

For the most part, burglars are interested in money, not killing someone. So, I would tell DD to lock herself in the bathroom.

We don't have that luxury because our master bathroom door doesn't lock, even if it did, it's super super easy to break it open. It's one of those pocket doors, which I hate.

I would just give the burglar whatever they wanted in terms of belongings.

Now, if they are intent on hurting someone as well, that's a different story. I'd also lure the criminal away from DD so that DD could escape. If DD were in her room, the only way to escape would be to jump out of the second story window. She might break a leg, but she'd be alive.

Most burglars aren't the kindhearted souls you seem to think they are. Many are on drugs and unpredictable.