Anonymous wrote:You used the word “ Apparently” 3 times to describe the situation. You are being dismissive and not respectful of the boundaries they are setting.

l noticed that too. Kind of shocked how dismissive she is of their desire to get a proper sleep.

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll

It is.

I recognize the sappy writing style.

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I hope this guy gets banned.

Somewhere there is a DIL asking how she can gently avoid the usual bothersome adjoining room situation with her MIL.

Anonymous wrote:"apparently son and DIL want to sleep and want the kids to sleep and want quieter rooms."
Re-read this part. Who doesn't want this on vacation?

This really shouldn't be an issue outside of sleeping hours. Make your plans with to hang out with the kids during non-sleeping hours.

THIS. OP, how are you aware of what you yourself wrote (the bold above) yet you're unaware that it's perfectly reasonable on your son's family's part to want this?? Their kids as they get older may be sleeping more lightly. Or are needing more sleep overall as they grow. This change is not a "hill to die on" here, OP. If you make this into A Thing you are going to be rightly thought of as selfish and you'll see less of the whole family. Get a room next door that's not adjoining. You still travel with them and do things with the grandkids on trips -- do you just not understand how lucky you are that they want to travel with you, and that many grandparents would kill to have that kind of positive relationship and interaction?

My ILs love nothing more than adjoining rooms or rooms right next to each other. We don't spend enough time in the rooms for this to really be an issue, but I once really have had it on a trip and probably spoke a bit louder and harsher than intended. I've noticed significant reduction in the behavior that was driving me up the wall since then. I think rooms next to each other work better than adjoining because they still get to be "close" but there is more privacy. My parents take a kid for a special sleepover.