I feel for her. I think the red flag there is the way the romance started. It is so inappropriate he just made a pass at her at work. That could have wound up as a sexual harassment case and not a marriage. I hope they had already professed an interest in eachother or something. Also, things moved fast. The whole sweeping off the feet usually has a narcissist attached to it.

I did not see losing 20 pounds as a brad either. I struggle to lose weight, but major life stressors often have me rapidly losing because I have to force myself to eat anything.

I have gone to school with the rich up upwardly mobile and I live among them. I have seen 2 extremes more among thew rich than among the middleclass. They are either the most down to earth and unassuming folks or they have no soul and are a whole different breed of ruthless, self centered jerks.

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Anonymous wrote:The MV house is worth $4.7m apparently, on top of her multi-million dollar NYC apartment. She's a descendant of the Vanderbilt family. And just to keep it current, the Daily Mail notes that she's a Harvard alum whose family has donated a building and lots of $$. Doesn't make her husband less of a jerk, but the story is a bit less compelling when you realize she is an uber-wealthy socialite.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12252243/NYC-lawyer-shares-anguish-husband-20-years-left-woman-pandemic.html

She doesn’t deny her privilege in her article.

Agreed. I think what's she saying is that being rich doesn't protect you from this bad behavior.

Maria Shiver probably agrees. Love Arnold but he definitely did their family wrong. I guessed that she leaked the story if his affair so she could file for divorce without looking like the bad guy.

Anonymous wrote:She is a beautiful writer, and a beautiful person at least judging by online photos. Dont know her. Wish her well. Her husband was a dickhead. It will be hard for the kids to realize their dad was a hologram with no heart.

I had two friends find out around college that their Dads were dick heads. 1) divorced never contacted her again. 2) divorce and used paying for college as a relationship stick. She choose not to play that game and cut him out of her life for good.

People really don't understand how often this happens with men. Literally 15-18 or more years. Poof, never happened.

Anonymous wrote:Come on guys. We need to know who this dude is shacked up with.

He removed himself from social media.

Come on guys. We need to know who this dude is shacked up with.

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Anonymous wrote:This article had everything. Vineyard house. Weight loss. Blueberry bushes. Revenge, served cold in the New York Times. I f$&ing loved it.

Haha me too-could eat this up with a knife and fork!

Yep. Basically a Hildebrand novel setup.

. I am thinking miniseries on Netflix with Reese Witherspoon. Photogenic shots of Martha’s Vineyard. Who are we casting as the philandering husband?.

One of the Chrises (Evans or Pine) or Paul Rudd.

No, Paul Rudd is the guy she meets two years later who helps her get over him.

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Anonymous wrote:Alright I went a little deep on the Davis family. Found the brother's? wedding announcement in the NYT (2002). And I think these white people jumped a broom at their wedding and said it was 100 year old tradition??? The pics are hard to make out, but I think they are all white. What the what??

Please link it!

https://www.nytimes.com/2002/09/22/style/weddings-celebrations-vows-bridget-elias-and-townsend-davis.html

Cringe.

So glad I didnt opt for an overwritten nyt wedding announcement. Barf.

“On Sept. 14 this year, they exchanged vows in front of 75 friends and family members in a setting that would have made Ralph Lauren weep with envy. The site, a collection of cottages with inviting porches along the wooded shore of Long Pond, lies only a few miles from the village of Plymouth, Mass., where Mr. Davis's ancestors settled in 1620. As guests sat out on a deck, a wooden 1950's motorboat cut a stylish swath across the lake and then docked. Out stepped the bride, barefoot and holding on to masses of curls coiled on top of her head.“

That's not an announcement. That's a writeup by the NY Times.

Barf

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Anonymous wrote:This article had everything. Vineyard house. Weight loss. Blueberry bushes. Revenge, served cold in the New York Times. I f$&ing loved it.

Haha me too-could eat this up with a knife and fork!

Yep. Basically a Hildebrand novel setup.

. I am thinking miniseries on Netflix with Reese Witherspoon. Photogenic shots of Martha’s Vineyard. Who are we casting as the philandering husband?.

One of the Chrises (Evans or Pine) or Paul Rudd.

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Anonymous wrote:This article had everything. Vineyard house. Weight loss. Blueberry bushes. Revenge, served cold in the New York Times. I f$&ing loved it.

Haha me too-could eat this up with a knife and fork!

Yep. Basically a Hildebrand novel setup.

. I am thinking miniseries on Netflix with Reese Witherspoon. Photogenic shots of Martha’s Vineyard. Who are we casting as the philandering husband?.

Anonymous wrote:I have a hard time believing that she, a lawyer, did not want *any* details from the other woman’s husband. Really? No curiosity there?

She was probably in shock and still hoping to keep the marriage together.

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Anonymous wrote:Alright I went a little deep on the Davis family. Found the brother's? wedding announcement in the NYT (2002). And I think these white people jumped a broom at their wedding and said it was 100 year old tradition??? The pics are hard to make out, but I think they are all white. What the what??

Please link it!

https://www.nytimes.com/2002/09/22/style/weddings-celebrations-vows-bridget-elias-and-townsend-davis.html

Cringe.

So glad I didnt opt for an overwritten nyt wedding announcement. Barf.

“On Sept. 14 this year, they exchanged vows in front of 75 friends and family members in a setting that would have made Ralph Lauren weep with envy. The site, a collection of cottages with inviting porches along the wooded shore of Long Pond, lies only a few miles from the village of Plymouth, Mass., where Mr. Davis's ancestors settled in 1620. As guests sat out on a deck, a wooden 1950's motorboat cut a stylish swath across the lake and then docked. Out stepped the bride, barefoot and holding on to masses of curls coiled on top of her head.“

That's not an announcement. That's a writeup by the NY Times.

NYT doesn't do those without the consent and cooperation of the subjects.

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Anonymous wrote:Alright I went a little deep on the Davis family. Found the brother's? wedding announcement in the NYT (2002). And I think these white people jumped a broom at their wedding and said it was 100 year old tradition??? The pics are hard to make out, but I think they are all white. What the what??

Please link it!

https://www.nytimes.com/2002/09/22/style/weddings-celebrations-vows-bridget-elias-and-townsend-davis.html

Cringe.

So glad I didnt opt for an overwritten nyt wedding announcement. Barf.

“On Sept. 14 this year, they exchanged vows in front of 75 friends and family members in a setting that would have made Ralph Lauren weep with envy. The site, a collection of cottages with inviting porches along the wooded shore of Long Pond, lies only a few miles from the village of Plymouth, Mass., where Mr. Davis's ancestors settled in 1620. As guests sat out on a deck, a wooden 1950's motorboat cut a stylish swath across the lake and then docked. Out stepped the bride, barefoot and holding on to masses of curls coiled on top of her head.“

That's not an announcement. That's a writeup by the NY Times.

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Anonymous wrote:The MV house is worth $4.7m apparently, on top of her multi-million dollar NYC apartment. She's a descendant of the Vanderbilt family. And just to keep it current, the Daily Mail notes that she's a Harvard alum whose family has donated a building and lots of $$. Doesn't make her husband less of a jerk, but the story is a bit less compelling when you realize she is an uber-wealthy socialite.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12252243/NYC-lawyer-shares-anguish-husband-20-years-left-woman-pandemic.html

I still have sympathy.The person she trusted the most completely blinsided her.

+100 with teens and 25 years together. You can’t even imagine the confusion and pain and shock somebody goes through. It is awful.

I get that but how does this event that has happened since human beings began noticing one another warrant space in a major newspaper. That’s some privilege.

The Modern Love column has been appearing in the NYT Sunday style section for as long as I can remember. Not all stories are like that and not necessarily from the perspective of an affluent person but privilege has nothing to do with the article.

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Anonymous wrote:The humble brag about losing 20 lbs was annoying
Yeah, I don't feel so sorry for her. She'll be fine, he was probably an ass anyway.

I lost 20 pounds on an already size 2-4 body in 3 weeks when something similar happened to me. You can’t eat or sleep and feel constantly nauseous…strung out. It’s not a pretty way to lose it and she’s not bragging.

Same here - 5’8” and was somewhere around 110-115lbs. Devastating.

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Anonymous wrote:The MV house is worth $4.7m apparently, on top of her multi-million dollar NYC apartment. She's a descendant of the Vanderbilt family. And just to keep it current, the Daily Mail notes that she's a Harvard alum whose family has donated a building and lots of $$. Doesn't make her husband less of a jerk, but the story is a bit less compelling when you realize she is an uber-wealthy socialite.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12252243/NYC-lawyer-shares-anguish-husband-20-years-left-woman-pandemic.html

What is it about being rich makes the story less compelling? She was upfront about the many ways she is/was fortunate. That doesn't change how awful it is for her and her kids to be blindsided. Assuming it is true.

What the husband did to his wife and children is still horrible- the grief and pain caused is horrible.

But you cant deny that couples who divorce and have money access and resources make out so much better than couples without those resources. The difficulty and pain is likely just as great- but not having to stress about money- food, housing and getting your kids therapy (or out of trouble) etc. is much easier when you have money and wealthy extended family.