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Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t sound like you think you are in any immediate danger.

If I am reading that wrong, and you do believe you are in danger, you should leave your abusive spouse and go stay with friends or in a hotel while you file for divorce.

If you do not believe you are in danger don’t call the police, because their job isn’t to get revenge on your spouse for you, and as you correctly note, there is a solid chance you will be arrested (some localities require the arrest of both parties, and remember by the time the police arrive it is your word against hers and she may have been throwing something because she was in mortal fear of her life…). Initiate divorce proceedings against your abusive spouse.

Throwing inanimate objects is domestic violence. Why are we so accepting of DV when a woman does it?

Because so many of them do it

If you are a man who would really call the cops on his own wife, you should divorce now. That's not going to end well for you. She sounds unhinged for sure but, cops, really? They aren't your private security force.

Documentation will get you the best settlement.

A police report will help you as they will record the incident and take your account down on record.

OP: I think that you are correct that the police will arrest you because you are a man.

Since you have no children, you need to carefully document these incidents and get divorced ASAP.

Contact a divorce lawyer for advice ASAP.

Police blotter (not blogger).

Anonymous wrote:My husband called the police. They took us both to jail. Now we are divorcing. She won't stay with but will wake up and see how bad things are.

That sounds so terrible. I’m sorry. We really should have respite care or hostage type negotiators come in for some marriage fights. If only deescalation was the goal (and not punishment by the person calling police). It’s so wrong but it does happen more than we’d like to admit. If you read the police bloggers, much more than half are domestic disturbance calls. That’s too much!

I don’t understand your last sentence. Rephrase?

My husband called the police. They took us both to jail. Now we are divorcing. She won't stay with but will wake up and see how bad things are.

When you call the police, people with guns and other weapons come to your home, can force their way in because it is a call about a violent domestic situation, and can exercise force, even deadly force, pursuant to a unique and highly favorable standard that gives them nearly unlimited discretion and almost armor plated immunity from civil action or criminal prosecution, against your spouse, you, anybody else in or around the house, and your dog if you have one. The police don’t work for you. If you try to tell them what to do or to interfere with them, they can do pretty much anything they want and get away with it.

If your life isn’t in immediate danger you might want to think very carefully before putting your family’s safety into the hands of such people.

The RN grabbed and tugged at the bike. She would not let go. It’s on the video. She should not have done that.

Did you see the nurse with the bike rental?. She looked nuts. That footage looked close thu

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Anonymous wrote:Scared to death they’ll try to arrest me when I’m the real victim. They’ll almost always go after the man automatically. But it’s getting kind of ridiculous. We cannot have any disagreements whatsoever without my wife turning into a screaming 8 year old toddler who throws things both at walls and at me. Isn’t this unacceptable? Really thinking about calling the cops next time she has a toddler tantrum. I do t think she’d last a single night in jail and it’d set her straight. How risky is this for a man to protect himself using the law?

A friend of mine did that. He took his phone, called the cops and also recorded what was going on. The cops asked her to calm down or they would take her away. She was stunned the cops were on her husband’s side.

Nice friend. Did the recording aggravate her? On YouTube we have seen that people respond negatively to iphone recordings and get more upset. How often did he dispatch law enforcement? Is this something he does?

The Petito affair was a toxic relationship. They should not have been together. Sad.

In mutually abusive relationships, there is a “race to call the police.” They normally ask for the person who called to now they arrive on scene and talk to them first.

Who saw the Gabby Petito tape? She scratched him and admitted it. He was very calm in the recordings when speaking to police.