Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 02:21     Subject: Miffed my dad
Anonymous wrote:What's with wearing socks on the beach vacation? Is this beach in Canada?


Asking the serious questions! I don’t think my DC even took socks the last time he went to the beach.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2023 15:40     Subject: Re:Miffed my dad
Great job, OP, for completely missing the real thing you should be focused on - how to change your anxious and controlling ways. Your son will soon rebel if you don’t get it together.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2023 15:16     Subject: Miffed my dad
Op, you do not know if the socks have been washed. You chose to assume the worst.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2023 14:47     Subject: Re:Miffed my dad
If I would have made the request, my mom would have made sure my son had clean socks on going forward, no problem. My dad would have had the same reaction as your dad but going forward would have made sure my son have on clean socks.

But I know this before if I would decide make such requests because I know my parents.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2023 13:25     Subject: Miffed my dad
OP here - oh my goodness, I am surprised this thread is still going on. My dad and I are all made up after I apologized for asking about the socks, they had a really fun trip, the additional socks were found in my son's luggage and he changed them going forward.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2023 12:04     Subject: Re:Miffed my dad
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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who is team OP? I don't see anything wrong with suggesting her son change his socks after a few days and since she didn't talk to her son directly to suggest to her dad to remind the son. What's the big deal?


I am with you. I posted that I would’ve done the same


I agree. OPs dad had an outsized response which could mean more about how they relate to one another than the dirty socks, but that's for OP to decide. Kid's 13, not 4.


How exactly was the response outsized? It was 2 short statements. OP is now miffed. That's the overreaction.


The way I'm reading the title the OP upset her dad, not the other way around.

Here's what she says her dad said: My dad responded that he was taking good care of my son and I should stop micromanaging.

IMO, the bolded is an outsized reaction to saying that a 13 year old needs to change their socks. Instead of just passing along the message, it sounds like her dad took it as an affront to his care for her son. If this were a 4 year old, that's one thing, but the kid is 13. Dad overreacted.


Maybe she said it in a snottier tone than she indicated here. She said she tried to say it in a nice way. Who knows how it came across. And nothing is worse than doing something nice for someone, checking in, and then they nitpick or find something to criticize. Maybe he's right to be "miffed" but the title is so unclear we don't know who is miffed and who isn't.
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Post 06/23/2023 12:02     Subject: Re:Miffed my dad
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What's with wearing socks on the beach vacation? Is this beach in Canada?


They are both sporty (well, for my dad, relatively so for an older guy), so they are doing athletic activities, not just hanging out on the beach. I apologized to my dad, he accepted and determined that the issue was that my son packed socks but could not find them in his bag (I have no idea how this is possible, it is not a large bag). It's all resolved. Thanks.


But I'm guessing your control issues and anxiety are not resolved. Way to put a damper on what was supposed to be a bonding time for your Dad and son.


This is so melodramatic. By telling her kid to change his socks, she’s ruining bonding time with grandpa? That’s ridiculous.


+1. OP asked grandpa to remind her son to change his socks. NBD. the way my kids are going they’ll probably still need reminders to change their underwear at 13. Kids need reminders. Calm down people.


And Grandpa responded that everything was under control. Only OP didn't like that.


Not only did OP not like that, but regrets the fact that she didn’t insist on pulling her son to the phone, when he was trying to enjoy time with grandpa, to insist that he change his socks. And then she feels the need to continue fretting about it on DCUM. Does that sound normal to you people?


Again you are being melodramatic. OP only said she should have said it directly to her son after other posters said she should tell her son not her dad. OP did nothing wrong. Her dad did nothing wrong. Everything is fine. You need to chill.


Why did OP feel the need to tell everyone this tale if nothing is wrong? Not her, not her dad. Why are we even talking about it? Because she feels "miffed my dad" whatever that even means.


The same reason anyone posts here. For a sanity check.


And she's being told she needs to let it go. We're talking about socks. She mentioned it to her dad, he said don't worry about it, and she's wants to worry about it. Socks. Not worth any drama with grandpa.