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Anonymous wrote:When my husband was a senior in college, his long distance girlfriend got pregnant and had an abortion, but she never told him anything about it. He found out years later from someone else, not the girlfriend. It was very upsetting to him to learn that he’d fathered a child who was never born. (To be fair, since they were long distance and only saw each other three weekends the entire academic year, it is possible he was not the father, although he believes that she was faithful to him.)

Interestingly, she broke up with him a month or so after when he now knows she had the abortion.

Guess he should have been more responsible and used better birth control options.

+1. And he didn’t father a child if it was never born.

Anonymous wrote:When my husband was a senior in college, his long distance girlfriend got pregnant and had an abortion, but she never told him anything about it. He found out years later from someone else, not the girlfriend. It was very upsetting to him to learn that he’d fathered a child who was never born. (To be fair, since they were long distance and only saw each other three weekends the entire academic year, it is possible he was not the father, although he believes that she was faithful to him.)

Interestingly, she broke up with him a month or so after when he now knows she had the abortion.

Guess he should have been more responsible and used better birth control options.

Anonymous wrote:Smart

Their bodies will snap back in no time and they’ll have lots of energy to be involved in their kids’ lives through most of it

This is a completely insane response, and I had a kid in my 20s (rare in this area). The brain is not fully developed until the mid-20s. And it's not ideal to disrupt one's higher education with a pregnancy.

Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant at 18 and got an abortion, no regrets. I personally know 3 friends who also got abortions during college. So glad that safe medical options were available to us when we needed them.

+1

Scary that options aren’t available to all women now in 2023. We are going backwards.

When my husband was a senior in college, his long distance girlfriend got pregnant and had an abortion, but she never told him anything about it. He found out years later from someone else, not the girlfriend. It was very upsetting to him to learn that he’d fathered a child who was never born. (To be fair, since they were long distance and only saw each other three weekends the entire academic year, it is possible he was not the father, although he believes that she was faithful to him.)

Interestingly, she broke up with him a month or so after when he now knows she had the abortion.

Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant at 18 and got an abortion, no regrets. I personally know 3 friends who also got abortions during college. So glad that safe medical options were available to us when we needed them.

Um, safe for whom?

Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant at 18 and got an abortion, no regrets. I personally know 3 friends who also got abortions during college. So glad that safe medical options were available to us when we needed them.

Did you have a large friend group?(sorority?) That seems abnormal.

I got pregnant at 18 and got an abortion, no regrets. I personally know 3 friends who also got abortions during college. So glad that safe medical options were available to us when we needed them.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD got pregnant her freshman year of college. She had an abortion.

Did she go to school far away from home? Did you help her find a provider?

Yes and yes. She flew home to the DMV the day after she found out for the medical abortion (the pills, not the surgical procedure).

I am so happy she had you to support her- there is often a certain amount of trauma bonding that occurs between mothers and daughters. I would have liked to skip the emotional and physical health crisis I endured with my daughter in college, but our relationship does feel more deeply intimate as a result.

Thank you! You too!

Anonymous wrote:DD has had several female friends get pregnant while in college but all chose abortion instead. So happy they went to school in a state where that was still an option!

Oh, I will add that 1 of these pregnancies came about after the young woman took Plan B. However, she did not know there was a recommended weight limit for Plan B! It is less effective if you weigh over 165 lbs. If you weigh over 195 lbs. then it's pretty much not effective at all.

DD has had several female friends get pregnant while in college but all chose abortion instead. So happy they went to school in a state where that was still an option!

I got pregnant in college at 19. Had an abortion. Don't regret it at all.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD got pregnant her freshman year of college. She had an abortion.

Did she go to school far away from home? Did you help her find a provider?

Yes and yes. She flew home to the DMV the day after she found out for the medical abortion (the pills, not the surgical procedure).

I am so happy she had you to support her- there is often a certain amount of trauma bonding that occurs between mothers and daughters. I would have liked to skip the emotional and physical health crisis I endured with my daughter in college, but our relationship does feel more deeply intimate as a result.

My sister got pregnant at 19 in college and had an abortion. My roomate my freshman year also got one.

My daughter got pregnant just before freshman year it was a terrifying experience, and we almost lost her.

Now she’s back as a sophomore, and terrified to have children.