Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 14:02     Subject: married by 30
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/nulliparous#outlook

Many old myths and studies have been busted, some are not.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 14:02     Subject: married by 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Where do you live? And in which century?


If PP were from a previous century he’d know having kids in your 40s is incredibly common. How do you think all those women had 12 kids?

I wish people would stop throwing this out as if that wasn’t grandma’s 3rd-12th child not her first in her forties. There is a huge difference between already proven fertility in years post 35 within strict monogamy from never-been-pregnant-before post 35 and years of multiple sexual partners.

It’s not only incredibly cavalier to advise young women to wait so late on purpose, it’s also callous to those of us in the devastation of infertility. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:59     Subject: married by 30
Anonymous wrote:As a doctor and medical professional we need to stop the false hope about natural and ivf pregnancy over 35. It's a disservice to our young women


I wish you weren’t full of crap. When I had my 3rd kid over 35 I thought I’d score some special treatment in pregnancy. Nope. They told me they actually wouldn’t do any different interventions until over 40.

I wanted an elective induction before 40 weeks but they made me go to 41 weeks. Because there is nothing to worry about at all between 35 and 40 according to them.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:57     Subject: Re:married by 30
Better to struggle TTC than to settle down too early with a mediocre man.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:57     Subject: married by 30
I understand that every person and their situations are unique so there is no one size fits all formula. I only wanted an anthropological discussion of the pros and cons behind it as I hear it all the time from people of different cultures and geography.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:56     Subject: married by 30
Anonymous wrote:

Where do you live? And in which century?


If PP were from a previous century he’d know having kids in your 40s is incredibly common. How do you think all those women had 12 kids?
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:55     Subject: married by 30
Anonymous wrote:As a doctor and medical professional we need to stop the false hope about natural and ivf pregnancy over 35. It's a disservice to our young women


“Our”? Do you own us?
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:55     Subject: married by 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It strikes the right balance. You get to enjoy college, grad school, couple years of work and citu living and going out a lot and getting some work / life / relationship experience in your 20s. Meet someone in your late 20s, get married at 30, have a few yrs to travel and enjoy before kids by/around 35 so you aren't that old at the start and duration of the parenting journey. Hope grandparents are retired so have time to help but not too old to be able to do so.

I am 40 and most of my friends got married between 30-33. Those were the peak years of weddings for us. We are lawyers and all our friends are professionals, most went to grad schools, live in major cities etc.

Honestly from friends who are single longer, it gets a lot less fun. In your 20s being single is the norm and you meet a ton of ppl and it's easy to date.


35 is too old for the woman as it's advance maternal age, the guy can wait but the woman can't, 30 is the latest for woman to start according to science

My grandmother had three children in her 40s. And this was in the 40s and 50s. My MIL had a child at 37. It's possible.


It's possible to win the lottery it's probable not to


Actually, pregnancy in one’s 30s is very probable. DH & I learned that the hard way!
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:55     Subject: married by 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It strikes the right balance. You get to enjoy college, grad school, couple years of work and citu living and going out a lot and getting some work / life / relationship experience in your 20s. Meet someone in your late 20s, get married at 30, have a few yrs to travel and enjoy before kids by/around 35 so you aren't that old at the start and duration of the parenting journey. Hope grandparents are retired so have time to help but not too old to be able to do so.

I am 40 and most of my friends got married between 30-33. Those were the peak years of weddings for us. We are lawyers and all our friends are professionals, most went to grad schools, live in major cities etc.

Honestly from friends who are single longer, it gets a lot less fun. In your 20s being single is the norm and you meet a ton of ppl and it's easy to date.


35 is too old for the woman as it's advance maternal age, the guy can wait but the woman can't, 30 is the latest for woman to start according to science

My grandmother had three children in her 40s. And this was in the 40s and 50s. My MIL had a child at 37. It's possible.


It's possible to win the lottery it's probable not to

You are an absolute freak.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:55     Subject: married by 30
As a doctor and medical professional we need to stop the false hope about natural and ivf pregnancy over 35. It's a disservice to our young women
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:54     Subject: married by 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It strikes the right balance. You get to enjoy college, grad school, couple years of work and citu living and going out a lot and getting some work / life / relationship experience in your 20s. Meet someone in your late 20s, get married at 30, have a few yrs to travel and enjoy before kids by/around 35 so you aren't that old at the start and duration of the parenting journey. Hope grandparents are retired so have time to help but not too old to be able to do so.

I am 40 and most of my friends got married between 30-33. Those were the peak years of weddings for us. We are lawyers and all our friends are professionals, most went to grad schools, live in major cities etc.

Honestly from friends who are single longer, it gets a lot less fun. In your 20s being single is the norm and you meet a ton of ppl and it's easy to date.


35 is too old for the woman as it's advance maternal age, the guy can wait but the woman can't, 30 is the latest for woman to start according to science



Where do you live? And in which century?
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:54     Subject: married by 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It strikes the right balance. You get to enjoy college, grad school, couple years of work and citu living and going out a lot and getting some work / life / relationship experience in your 20s. Meet someone in your late 20s, get married at 30, have a few yrs to travel and enjoy before kids by/around 35 so you aren't that old at the start and duration of the parenting journey. Hope grandparents are retired so have time to help but not too old to be able to do so.

I am 40 and most of my friends got married between 30-33. Those were the peak years of weddings for us. We are lawyers and all our friends are professionals, most went to grad schools, live in major cities etc.

Honestly from friends who are single longer, it gets a lot less fun. In your 20s being single is the norm and you meet a ton of ppl and it's easy to date.


35 is too old for the woman as it's advance maternal age, the guy can wait but the woman can't, 30 is the latest for woman to start according to science

My grandmother had three children in her 40s. And this was in the 40s and 50s. My MIL had a child at 37. It's possible.


It's possible to win the lottery it's probable not to
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:53     Subject: married by 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women looks and womb go south and fall apart after 30


Let me tell you something that’s going to blow your mind: not all of us live everyday of our lives in pursuit of pleasing men.


You can't de-age your womb


You can do IVF.

And, you can’t fathom that not every woman wants babies.


Ok sure but marriage is overwhelmingly about starting families and ivf is not a miracle it still is a low chance
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:52     Subject: married by 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It strikes the right balance. You get to enjoy college, grad school, couple years of work and citu living and going out a lot and getting some work / life / relationship experience in your 20s. Meet someone in your late 20s, get married at 30, have a few yrs to travel and enjoy before kids by/around 35 so you aren't that old at the start and duration of the parenting journey. Hope grandparents are retired so have time to help but not too old to be able to do so.

I am 40 and most of my friends got married between 30-33. Those were the peak years of weddings for us. We are lawyers and all our friends are professionals, most went to grad schools, live in major cities etc.

Honestly from friends who are single longer, it gets a lot less fun. In your 20s being single is the norm and you meet a ton of ppl and it's easy to date.


35 is too old for the woman as it's advance maternal age, the guy can wait but the woman can't, 30 is the latest for woman to start according to science

My grandmother had three children in her 40s. And this was in the 40s and 50s. My MIL had a child at 37. It's possible.
Anonymous
Post 06/07/2023 13:51     Subject: married by 30
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women looks and womb go south and fall apart after 30


Let me tell you something that’s going to blow your mind: not all of us live everyday of our lives in pursuit of pleasing men.


You can't de-age your womb


You can do IVF.

And, you can’t fathom that not every woman wants babies.


I always hate how people just throw out "you can do IVF!" as if it doesn't take a financial, emotional, mental and physical toll on women and their relationships.