Anonymous wrote:After ten years of marraige and a husband who is making good money, they will benefit financially from divorcing. A man is the plan works out if you married a man who now will need to give you 50% of everything they have and that is enough to get you set up for the next phase of life. Far more women walk away from marriages with money and assets they didn't earn than men do.

Men don't benefit financially from divorce and often they also have to fight to get equal access to their kids - since they weren't able to be at home as much due to being out making the money necessary for their family to live on and to build up the savings. Women are seen as the default parent regardless of circumstance and also get 50% of all the assets. So of course women file and men don't.

Anonymous wrote:The title of this post is entirely misleading. 90 percent of divorces are not filed by college educated women. Only 90 of divorces between college educated people are filed by women. It’s not 90 percent of all divorces.

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Anonymous wrote:I think disillusionment is more common in this cohort than in others.

Yes, because:

- they can make their own money, and they know it;

- they dated around more during college, so they know they are desired by many men;

- they know how to access divorce lawyers / more likely to afford one;

- they probably know one or more friends who’ve gotten divorced/ they have support;

- they took feminism 101 and have secretly looked down on men ever since;

- they listen to NPR and/or read the WaPo (or similar) and those sources constantly deride American men.

Next.

Anonymous wrote:Lesbians get divorced at higher rates than gay men. Women have higher expectations for marriage. It's as simple as that.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

There are not less marriages and more divorces with college educated people. This was discussed already with stats to show it. More college women are marrying than non college women. More college women are staying married than non college women. Of those that get divorced which is a smaller group than the non college educated women, 90 percent of the filings are by women. So when these women divorce they are doing so to protect their assets and they have the means to pay. That’s all this statistic is saying

But blue collar men & women aren’t marrying, by and large. Upper middle & upper class men and women are marrying one another.

I married a man who was working on his college degree but did not have one yet. Big deal. I had a masters.

I would not have.

Anonymous wrote:What is up with them? Why can’t they handle marriage?

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Latino couples today don't tend to be as arrogant as other race people may be. My Salvadoran friend has a masters degree but she married a Hispanic guy who only had a high school degree. Her family didn't like him because they thought he was a bum. Same with other Hispanic couples I know. My boss was a Colombian with a masters degree and her husband was a truck driver. Most of my black women friends with upper degrees are single though. My cousin married an Indian woman whose family had tremendous influence on her decisions. They wanted her to be with a man who had money not the high school sweetheart she married. God those people have no heart and are selfish and cruel.

It seems cruel to your Americanized value system.
Whereas to the Indian, allowing their child to marry into financial insecurity would seem cruel and akin to poor parenting.

Wealthy Americans guide their children similarly but the word here is GUIDE - not bash the message over the kid's head when it is too late to influence and mold the child.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

Latino couples today don't tend to be as arrogant as other race people may be. My Salvadoran friend has a masters degree but she married a Hispanic guy who only had a high school degree. Her family didn't like him because they thought he was a bum. Same with other Hispanic couples I know. My boss was a Colombian with a masters degree and her husband was a truck driver. Most of my black women friends with upper degrees are single though. My cousin married an Indian woman whose family had tremendous influence on her decisions. They wanted her to be with a man who had money not the high school sweetheart she married. God those people have no heart and are selfish and cruel.

Why would I marry a man with a high school diploma or one who is a truck driver. He adds no value to my life. I’d rather be single.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is related so bear with me:

Back in grad school, I would watch this show called Love Connection (1980s). This is what I observed:

- when the couple was Afro-American, they almost always decided to go on a second date.

- when the couple was working class, about 75% of the time they would go on a second date

- when the couple was Larry the Lawyer and Mary the Marketing MBA, they almost never picked each other for a second date.

Simple, the higher the education, the higher the expectations. The more divorces, though that 90% seems way too high.

Latino couples today don't tend to be as arrogant as other race people may be. My Salvadoran friend has a masters degree but she married a Hispanic guy who only had a high school degree. Her family didn't like him because they thought he was a bum. Same with other Hispanic couples I know. My boss was a Colombian with a masters degree and her husband was a truck driver. Most of my black women friends with upper degrees are single though. My cousin married an Indian woman whose family had tremendous influence on her decisions. They wanted her to be with a man who had money not the high school sweetheart she married. God those people have no heart and are selfish and cruel.

Those “other race” people are not “arrogant”; it’s called having standards & knowing your options in life. Selfish? Are you under the impression that you’re owed someone’s romantic love?

Anonymous wrote:What is up with them? Why can’t they handle marriage?

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Latino couples today don't tend to be as arrogant as other race people may be. My Salvadoran friend has a masters degree but she married a Hispanic guy who only had a high school degree. Her family didn't like him because they thought he was a bum. Same with other Hispanic couples I know. My boss was a Colombian with a masters degree and her husband was a truck driver. Most of my black women friends with upper degrees are single though. My cousin married an Indian woman whose family had tremendous influence on her decisions. They wanted her to be with a man who had money not the high school sweetheart she married. God those people have no heart and are selfish and cruel.