Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 16:44     Subject: Re:When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.


Or drown in poverty


Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 16:44     Subject: Re:When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:Met my DH in college when I was 20, engaged after a year and married at 22 the fall after we graduated college. Still together, will be 23 years this fall.


I also met my husband when I was in college, but we didn't get engaged until I was halfway through grad school, which I went to after two years of working. Got married at 27. Glad we waited.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 16:44     Subject: When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked that so many posters think that going to med school is a sign of maturity.


How is it NOT?


Lots of people didn’t get into med school & can’t contain their jealousy to this day when they hear of those who did.

Whatever doctor’s wife or mother. Stop using your husband or kid’s accomplishments to flex on others. Anyway, not everyone believes that going to med school is the end all be all.


It at least shows that they were committed to getting good grades and completing pre-med work experience. They both have a common goal of finishing med school. It’s better than many situations that a 22-year-old could be in.


Or they cheated through school and have skid by on mommy or dad's connections.

Most UMC 22 year olds have completed an undergrad degree and are committed to a postgrad program and whatever that requires.
Your kid isn't special


Yeah some cash cow one. Not med school.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 16:43     Subject: Re:When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.


Or drown in poverty
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 16:42     Subject: When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked that so many posters think that going to med school is a sign of maturity.


How is it NOT?


Lots of people didn’t get into med school & can’t contain their jealousy to this day when they hear of those who did.

Whatever doctor’s wife or mother. Stop using your husband or kid’s accomplishments to flex on others. Anyway, not everyone believes that going to med school is the end all be all.


It at least shows that they were committed to getting good grades and completing pre-med work experience. They both have a common goal of finishing med school. It’s better than many situations that a 22-year-old could be in.


Or they cheated through school and have skid by on mommy or dad's connections.

Most UMC 22 year olds have completed an undergrad degree and are committed to a postgrad program and whatever that requires.
Your kid isn't special
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 16:27     Subject: Re:When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Exactly.

As well as abject boredom.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 14:28     Subject: When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked that so many posters think that going to med school is a sign of maturity.


How is it NOT?


Lots of people didn’t get into med school & can’t contain their jealousy to this day when they hear of those who did.

Whatever doctor’s wife or mother. Stop using your husband or kid’s accomplishments to flex on others. Anyway, not everyone believes that going to med school is the end all be all.


It at least shows that they were committed to getting good grades and completing pre-med work experience. They both have a common goal of finishing med school. It’s better than many situations that a 22-year-old could be in.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 14:27     Subject: Re:When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Exactly.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 14:21     Subject: When is too young to get engaged?
I got engaged at 23 and married at 24, and while I look back and think I might have been too young, I cannot imagine having a better partner than the one I have now.

Also, my MIL didn't want my husband to marry me, and he is still bugged by her comments. They have a good relationship but kids are going to do what they are going to do and the best thing you can offer to an adult child is your support (baring something like addiction or abusive behaviors or something).
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 14:20     Subject: When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:My DD (F22) recently got engaged to her boyfriend (M22) of two years. She had a very limited dating history before this (he was her first everything), but met in college and got engaged this spring (one year after graduating college) after living together for a little under a year. I'm apprehensive because they seem so young, but they're a sensible couple who have similar life goals (finishing med school and starting a family together) and who clearly support and love each other dearly. But, I'm concerned she still has so much room to grow and change and that the stress of medical school (They're both M1s) will break apart their relationship. I know I can't interfere, but two years doesn't seem like enough time to know if someone's the "one". The family does think he's a perfect match for her (smart, good family, kind, listening, and extraordinarily patient), so no concerns on either side there.

Wow. You’re a control freak. Back off.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 14:15     Subject: When is too young to get engaged?
So they dated for a year, have lived together a year, and will probably we engaged several months to a year before getting married. While yes, it is young. It seems to be thought out and not rushed.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 14:07     Subject: Re:When is too young to get engaged?
Met my DH in college when I was 20, engaged after a year and married at 22 the fall after we graduated college. Still together, will be 23 years this fall.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 10:08     Subject: Re:When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told my kids 25 is the absolute youngest.


They can legally marry at 18, and even younger in some states, without your permission. Nobody cares what you think.


I raised my kids to care what I think .


My kids care what I think too but they also know that I care enough about what they think to not dictate life decisions to them as adults.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 09:49     Subject: When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked that so many posters think that going to med school is a sign of maturity.


How is it NOT?


Lots of people didn’t get into med school & can’t contain their jealousy to this day when they hear of those who did.

Whatever doctor’s wife or mother. Stop using your husband or kid’s accomplishments to flex on others. Anyway, not everyone believes that going to med school is the end all be all.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2023 09:45     Subject: When is too young to get engaged?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked that so many posters think that going to med school is a sign of maturity.


How is it NOT?


Med schools are far left these days.