Anonymous
04/28/2023 15:02
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Ho-lee crud. Some of the replies here are absolutely insane. I think 8 is a bit young for either gender to get piercings, but what's good for the gander is certainly good for the goose. Why is an 8 year old boy getting piercings worse than an 8 year old girl? Genuinely, what is the difference?
Anonymous
04/28/2023 14:49
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think if he's Black, it will look decent and is a natural part of their masculine culture. It's not the same if he's another race TBH.
There's definitely an element of truth to this.
My white son had both ears pierced in elementary school, but it was a very diverse school. Even know, he wears a chain/necklace to school and it looks fine/normal.
I suspect all the people scoffing at the idea go to predomanitely white schools
What? So only black kids can have ear piercings now??!! What about other non-white?
Yes. For it to look right. Black boys and other non-white ethnicities with ear piercing look more natural. If i see a white kid with ear piercing it kind of looks like cultural appropriation.
Anonymous
04/28/2023 12:32
Subject: Re:DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I feel like these questions only arise because our society has lost common sense. Kids are naturally curious and a blank slate and he wants to have what his sisters have. Our job as parents is to guide them and to say no, on certain things, you can't have what your sister has. This is not like getting a doll. this is a permanent alteration to his body and you can't trust young kids to make that kind of decision until he understands the repercussions socially (potentially made fun of, potentially being called a girl, etc.). If it were my son, I would flatly tell him no, he can't get his ears pierced, because in our society, such things are reserved for girls. Might be different in another society and it doesn't say anything fundamental about identity or gender, but that is how it is in our society.
Except it’s not just reserved for girls in our society. Plenty of boys do have their ears pierced. How do you explain that?
I have no idea. Adult men can do whatever they want, but it's customary for girls to get their ears pierced and not boys, which is exactly why OP even had to start this thread. i'm sure boys get them pierced too, but some boys are also changing out their genitalia, so I'm not sure it says anything these days.
Anonymous
04/28/2023 12:15
Subject: Re:DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:I feel like these questions only arise because our society has lost common sense. Kids are naturally curious and a blank slate and he wants to have what his sisters have. Our job as parents is to guide them and to say no, on certain things, you can't have what your sister has. This is not like getting a doll. this is a permanent alteration to his body and you can't trust young kids to make that kind of decision until he understands the repercussions socially (potentially made fun of, potentially being called a girl, etc.). If it were my son, I would flatly tell him no, he can't get his ears pierced, because in our society, such things are reserved for girls. Might be different in another society and it doesn't say anything fundamental about identity or gender, but that is how it is in our society.
Except it’s not just reserved for girls in our society. Plenty of boys do have their ears pierced. How do you explain that?
Anonymous
04/28/2023 10:39
Subject: Re:DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
I feel like these questions only arise because our society has lost common sense. Kids are naturally curious and a blank slate and he wants to have what his sisters have. Our job as parents is to guide them and to say no, on certain things, you can't have what your sister has. This is not like getting a doll. this is a permanent alteration to his body and you can't trust young kids to make that kind of decision until he understands the repercussions socially (potentially made fun of, potentially being called a girl, etc.). If it were my son, I would flatly tell him no, he can't get his ears pierced, because in our society, such things are reserved for girls. Might be different in another society and it doesn't say anything fundamental about identity or gender, but that is how it is in our society.
Anonymous
04/28/2023 09:51
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Earrings look very trashy on young kids. Sorry op.
+1000000000
Anonymous
04/28/2023 09:50
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
There is actual meaning behind piercings in some cultures. Its not just a feminine thing.
Anonymous
04/28/2023 09:50
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Nope listen to your husband.
Anonymous
04/28/2023 09:47
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think if he's Black, it will look decent and is a natural part of their masculine culture. It's not the same if he's another race TBH.
There's definitely an element of truth to this.
My white son had both ears pierced in elementary school, but it was a very diverse school. Even know, he wears a chain/necklace to school and it looks fine/normal.
I suspect all the people scoffing at the idea go to predomanitely white schools
What? So only black kids can have ear piercings now??!! What about other non-white?
Yes. For it to look right. Black boys and other non-white ethnicities with ear piercing look more natural. If i see a white kid with ear piercing it kind of looks like cultural appropriation.
Anonymous
04/28/2023 09:27
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So you're into pushing back on the gender stereotyping Op? Why did your girls, at a young age, get their ears pierced? I woukd think you'd encourage your girls to get buzz cuts instead. You know, gender stereotypes and all.
Did you, by chance, plant the idea in your kid's head he should get his ear pierced?
1000% this. Why are people so blasé about piercing a baby girl who doesn't fully understand what's going on but will balk at piercing a baby boy at the same age? A fair standard would be that no child of either gender gets pierced until they are old enough to really know what it entails and care for the piercing themselves.
I'm old enough that when I was a kid it was the trend for boys to have exactly one ear pierced.
Everyone knows that biological females have thinner earlobes that are prone to infection if they aren't protected by metal ring or stud. Boys however, would catch a pierced ear on a tree branch while hunting a wolly mammoth, and the tribe would starve.
It's basic genetics, er, I mean, it's how God created Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. That's why the Bible says "Thou shalt not pierce your sons flesh, for that is womanly".
Anonymous
04/27/2023 18:52
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Earrings look very trashy on young kids. Sorry op.
Anonymous
04/27/2023 15:35
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Yes. You only get to be a kid once. Who cares
Anonymous
04/26/2023 01:24
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Kids should wear clip ons. A child needs a permanent piercing as much as they need a tattoo.
Anonymous
04/26/2023 01:23
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:So you're into pushing back on the gender stereotyping Op? Why did your girls, at a young age, get their ears pierced? I woukd think you'd encourage your girls to get buzz cuts instead. You know, gender stereotypes and all.
Did you, by chance, plant the idea in your kid's head he should get his ear pierced?
1000% this. Why are people so blasé about piercing a baby girl who doesn't fully understand what's going on but will balk at piercing a baby boy at the same age? A fair standard would be that no child of either gender gets pierced until they are old enough to really know what it entails and care for the piercing themselves.
I'm old enough that when I was a kid it was the trend for boys to have exactly one ear pierced.
Anonymous
04/26/2023 00:02
Subject: DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'd make him wait until he's 11-12 to see if he changes his mind. You can offer him some magnetic studs so he can try them out before getting pierced.
100. Fwiw my 8 yo girl isn’t allowed to get ears pierced until she’s more responsible.