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Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a troll.

+1 Reading the OP, it looks like it was written by a woman, not a man. Too much detail gives away that you are a troll OP.

+2. She came over from Reddit Am I The A**hole sub-forum. The writing style matches.

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Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a troll.

+1 Reading the OP, it looks like it was written by a woman, not a man. Too much detail gives away that you are a troll OP.

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Anonymous wrote:“ your brother is 100% correct that your wife was insane to ask for this. However, his response even if totally honest and in the nose, was gratuitously harsh and not conducive to family harmony or respectful of your new spouse, family or situation. Your wife totally got what she deserved. But, your brother by disrespecting your wife also disrespected your family and that is not okay. You should say something to him to the effect of, I agree that her request is inappropriate but so was your reply.”

His response was not gratuitously harsh - she tried to bully him into spending thousands of dollars on her awful brats. She is the one who destroyed family harmony by making unreasonable demands, and I have no doubt she did so in an obnoxious way.

In any case the bridge she burned is not going to get rebuilt.

+1. But has anyone looked on reddit to see if this is a copy paste from there. This is so troll-y.

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a troll.

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a troll.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I would never be in a relationship with step kids involved. I am not putting my kids through this chaos.

I am the kind of person who would treat all kids in a house exactly the same regardless of whether I love them or not.

But I know few people will. So my kids would never be in that scenario. Their home will always be their sanctuary, and anyone who does not like them is not welcome here.

Your BIL does not get to say that he does not like your wife's kids. Thst part is going too far. I wouldn't blame her for not wanting him in her house.

Yes, your wife was being unreasonable. And her kids were wrong, but jealousy dies happen with children living in the same house.

There are way too many single parents these days that you have to be elite in the dating market to be able to get people without baggage

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife isn’t entitled to have her children taken on trips by your brother.

But you’re truly naive to think that one child in a household being raised as the princess is going to go without comment by the other children/adults in the home. Your wife’s daughters are going to expect to be taken on trips— on your wife/your dime— that their stepsister is excluded from. I hope you have budgeted accordingly. I hope you are ready to answer to your daughter as to why she’s not welcome to go on your next family vacation.

You should have waited a few years until all of these children were in college before marrying.

Kids are only entitled to room , board, tuition expense for 4 yrs in in state public college. That is all. They are not entitled to anything that their parents do not want to give them.

A trip is a reward. Neither the mother, nor the kids are deserving of a reward.

It doesn’t sound like his daughter is getting this because she’s “deserving”.

Kids are people. Raising three daughters as less-than their stepsister without taking steps to make sure they get similar if not equivalent experiences is setting up a lifetime of resentment, and the mother is probably aware of this. Hope OPs daughter is planning to take care of her dad and step mother in their old age because I foresee a lot of missed holidays and visits from the daughters being left behind.

Nope. We are talking an adult (18). Not kids.

She doesn’t have to play “sister” to them.

Anonymous wrote:You've posted this before or a similar one. Yes they should take all the kids.

This is why I hope this is a troll. Children of a single mother would have gotten financial aid. Meanwhile these three get a lifetime of debt because their mother couldn’t wait four more years to marry the guy she’d been sleeping with for seven years already

Anonymous wrote:This post raises a question of how to blend step families and how differently difficult it must be for each family.