If you're in DC, look into DC 127--they may be able to match you up with a team who can take the kid for respite weekends. I would not get CPS involved unless there is serious violence or risk of harm to himself, you, or others. Yes, reach out to your friends, parents of his friends, your extended family, his dad and his dad's family members, coaches, youth group leaders--anyone who can support him and give you a little break.