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Anonymous wrote:Yikes!I would leave if someone said I had to take my shoes off at a formal party. That is incredibly rude and presumptuous. Hard no for me. And I wouldn't want to be friends with anyone that controlling about their OCD. Several of you clearly have OCD issues.

Dont go to Japan i guess.

Or South Asia.

Into Eastern Europe, Russia, Sweden, parts of Africa, Central Asia, nor East Asia.

It’s about doing what is culturally polite in the country you are in. In the US it is rude to insist people remove their shoes at a holiday party.

Obviously it’s not a cultural norm since so many people are telling you the opposite here. We live in downtown Manhattan and if you didn’t step on a surface contaminated with dog poop, it was human poop, or a dead rat before walking into the apartment. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t take off their shoes before entering their homes, and most keep their shoes outside in a vestibule if you are lucky enough to have one. We live in the most expensive zip code in Manhattan and just the other day, my kids notified me that I was unknowingly standing on a flattened rat on our cobblestone street. The whole city is filthy. I have been to many holiday parties in ny for the decade I have lived there and I can only remember one in which we kept our shoes on.

Anonymous wrote:I ask hosts when we arrive if it is a "shoes off" house - that is the polite way to find an answer, OP.

But then you have to prepare for both a shoes-on and a shoes-off home. DCUM posters can't prepare for two completely different situations.

I ask hosts when we arrive if it is a "shoes off" house - that is the polite way to find an answer, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Yikes!I would leave if someone said I had to take my shoes off at a formal party. That is incredibly rude and presumptuous. Hard no for me. And I wouldn't want to be friends with anyone that controlling about their OCD. Several of you clearly have OCD issues.

Dont go to Japan i guess.

Or South Asia.

Into Eastern Europe, Russia, Sweden, parts of Africa, Central Asia, nor East Asia.

It’s about doing what is culturally polite in the country you are in. In the US it is rude to insist people remove their shoes at a holiday party.

“In the US” WTF?! My family is Asian American, we have lived in the US for almost 150 years, and we remove our shoes. You need to think about what you assume is American because your post assumes that certain ethnic groups are foreign when they constitute the US just as much as your family does.

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Anonymous wrote:Canadian here. Shoes off in houses is a universal rule - the pile of boots at the door during a party is a ubiquitous thing.

For a fancy party, people will sometimes bring shoes to change into and wear at the party. Also common to bring slippers to wear at someone else's house.

For work, in winter most people leave or bring a pair of "indoor" shoes to change into, and kids have indoor shoes they keep at school.

Even my dentist asks you to change out of boots in the winter - they provide slippers and those paper booties things.

And apparently that is what is appropriate in Canada. The fact that this is appropriate in many other countries still does not make it polite to insist on in this country.

I'm Canadian. I wear my shoes in the house and don't insist anyone take theirs off.

No you aren't. Canada is a monolith and all Canadians remove their boots. Also, all Canadians wer boots.

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Anonymous wrote:Yikes!I would leave if someone said I had to take my shoes off at a formal party. That is incredibly rude and presumptuous. Hard no for me. And I wouldn't want to be friends with anyone that controlling about their OCD. Several of you clearly have OCD issues.

Dont go to Japan i guess.

Or South Asia.

Into Eastern Europe, Russia, Sweden, parts of Africa, Central Asia, nor East Asia.

It’s about doing what is culturally polite in the country you are in. In the US it is rude to insist people remove their shoes at a holiday party.

Who says? The US is a barely born country founded by immigrants less than 300 years ago. A quarter of the US is either first or second generation. “Don’t ask people to take off their shoes at holiday parties” is not a cultural norm. If it were, there wouldn’t be so much disagreement here.

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Anonymous wrote:Canadian here. Shoes off in houses is a universal rule - the pile of boots at the door during a party is a ubiquitous thing.

For a fancy party, people will sometimes bring shoes to change into and wear at the party. Also common to bring slippers to wear at someone else's house.

For work, in winter most people leave or bring a pair of "indoor" shoes to change into, and kids have indoor shoes they keep at school.

Even my dentist asks you to change out of boots in the winter - they provide slippers and those paper booties things.

And apparently that is what is appropriate in Canada. The fact that this is appropriate in many other countries still does not make it polite to insist on in this country.

I'm Canadian. I wear my shoes in the house and don't insist anyone take theirs off.

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Anonymous wrote:Canadian here. Shoes off in houses is a universal rule - the pile of boots at the door during a party is a ubiquitous thing.

For a fancy party, people will sometimes bring shoes to change into and wear at the party. Also common to bring slippers to wear at someone else's house.

For work, in winter most people leave or bring a pair of "indoor" shoes to change into, and kids have indoor shoes they keep at school.

Even my dentist asks you to change out of boots in the winter - they provide slippers and those paper booties things.

WTF. I’d change dentists.

We have snow/ice/slush/salt on the ground most of the winter - everyone comes in wearing dripping boots (we live in a very walkable neighbourhood and I and I assume many of their patients are arriving on foot). It doesn't bother me but again it's more of a cultural norm here. The gym has shelves by the main entrance to put your boots and also plastic bags to put your boots in if you prefer to keep them in your locker too.

I’m from Minnesota and this is common there too, but at my house in Virginia I’d still never ask guests to take off their shoes. Because it’s not Minnesota.

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Anonymous wrote:Canadian here. Shoes off in houses is a universal rule - the pile of boots at the door during a party is a ubiquitous thing.

For a fancy party, people will sometimes bring shoes to change into and wear at the party. Also common to bring slippers to wear at someone else's house.

For work, in winter most people leave or bring a pair of "indoor" shoes to change into, and kids have indoor shoes they keep at school.

Even my dentist asks you to change out of boots in the winter - they provide slippers and those paper booties things.

WTF. I’d change dentists.

We have snow/ice/slush/salt on the ground most of the winter - everyone comes in wearing dripping boots (we live in a very walkable neighbourhood and I and I assume many of their patients are arriving on foot). It doesn't bother me but again it's more of a cultural norm here. The gym has shelves by the main entrance to put your boots and also plastic bags to put your boots in if you prefer to keep them in your locker too.

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Anonymous wrote:Canadian here. Shoes off in houses is a universal rule - the pile of boots at the door during a party is a ubiquitous thing.

For a fancy party, people will sometimes bring shoes to change into and wear at the party. Also common to bring slippers to wear at someone else's house.

For work, in winter most people leave or bring a pair of "indoor" shoes to change into, and kids have indoor shoes they keep at school.

Even my dentist asks you to change out of boots in the winter - they provide slippers and those paper booties things.

WTF. I’d change dentists.

He probably got a good kick in the teeth, that's why.

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Anonymous wrote:Yikes!I would leave if someone said I had to take my shoes off at a formal party. That is incredibly rude and presumptuous. Hard no for me. And I wouldn't want to be friends with anyone that controlling about their OCD. Several of you clearly have OCD issues.

Dont go to Japan i guess.

Same in a lot of Europe. I've gone to meetings at offices and taken shoes off at the entrance.

Kids in Finland take their shoes off at school/class door.

Anonymous wrote:Canadian here. Shoes off in houses is a universal rule - the pile of boots at the door during a party is a ubiquitous thing.

For a fancy party, people will sometimes bring shoes to change into and wear at the party. Also common to bring slippers to wear at someone else's house.

For work, in winter most people leave or bring a pair of "indoor" shoes to change into, and kids have indoor shoes they keep at school.

Even my dentist asks you to change out of boots in the winter - they provide slippers and those paper booties things.

WTF. I’d change dentists.

Anonymous wrote:You better take those stupid boots off in my house.

“You’d better?” ROFL. Mmkay, Internet Tough Guy/Gal.

Anonymous wrote:Canadian here. Shoes off in houses is a universal rule - the pile of boots at the door during a party is a ubiquitous thing.

For a fancy party, people will sometimes bring shoes to change into and wear at the party. Also common to bring slippers to wear at someone else's house.

For work, in winter most people leave or bring a pair of "indoor" shoes to change into, and kids have indoor shoes they keep at school.

Even my dentist asks you to change out of boots in the winter - they provide slippers and those paper booties things.

And apparently that is what is appropriate in Canada. The fact that this is appropriate in many other countries still does not make it polite to insist on in this country.

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Anonymous wrote:Yikes!I would leave if someone said I had to take my shoes off at a formal party. That is incredibly rude and presumptuous. Hard no for me. And I wouldn't want to be friends with anyone that controlling about their OCD. Several of you clearly have OCD issues.

Dont go to Japan i guess.

Or South Asia.

Into Eastern Europe, Russia, Sweden, parts of Africa, Central Asia, nor East Asia.

It’s about doing what is culturally polite in the country you are in. In the US it is rude to insist people remove their shoes at a holiday party.