Anonymous
12/01/2022 04:44
Subject: Re:Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Anonymous wrote:I would only stay in it with very specific actions and agreements. A certain amount that will cover all household expenses. A certain amount out in your retirement every year. College fully funded for children and his money in a trust to children. Oh a certain amount of money non negotiable and if he files for divorce before 6 yeats( or whatever) he would agree to a larger settlement of Xxoo. I would look at it with a lawyer. If the end result is that you sock away enough to support yourself well then if do it. Since you make
Close to 200k and he makes close to 500k there plenty to go around.
OP and it’s just incredible how many people here have no reading comprehension. Separate means separate. It is the opposite of “he provides for my every financial need prospectively.”
Anonymous
11/30/2022 18:40
Subject: Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?
Post nuptial agreements are to make the less wealthy spouse feel MORE secure, not less.
NO WAY should anyone agree to a post nup that gives them LESS than they would get automatically.
That said, I feel for you OP. Our finances are technically merged/shared (all accounts are joint, home is owned jointly) but husband still controls all major spending decisions (house and car budgets, when and even if we buy those things, when/if we do home renovations etc. I basically don't have any say unless I can "talk him into it" which usually doesn't work and yes it sucks.
NO WAY should anyone agree to a post nup that gives them LESS than they would get automatically.
That said, I feel for you OP. Our finances are technically merged/shared (all accounts are joint, home is owned jointly) but husband still controls all major spending decisions (house and car budgets, when and even if we buy those things, when/if we do home renovations etc. I basically don't have any say unless I can "talk him into it" which usually doesn't work and yes it sucks.