Unecessary drama.

My friend has been dating a separated guy for 4 years and they haven’t gone public because he doesn’t want it to mess up his custody or whatever (this is what he says). I can’t imagine being a secret gf in your thirties.

My dad had a friend who was separated for like forever and had a girlfriend. And then the dude died and the wife was front and center at the funeral while the gf had to basically skulk around in the back.

Do they have kids? That makes the divorce process take longer and be a lot more complicated. I wouldn't want to be with someone who was going through that just because of the toll it would take.

No kids, it's six months being separated in VA. It is technically a crime to commit adultery, which you are doing if you are still legally married, but they haven't prosecuted anyone for it in basically forever.

I started dating my current husband when I was only separated from my first husband. A month or so in it was finalized. No kids, easy divorce. Obviously I was honest about it, which it sounds like your guy was, too.