I also didnt read all the posts, but have you tried pull-up over underwear so they can feel the wetness and potentially wake up?

I haven't read all the responses, but I had a child who had nighttime accidents until about 9 years old (the pediatrician was not worried)

for a while we used "peejamas" but TBH they often leaked

+1 to double-making the bed

good luck! it will end one day

Same situation, except our 7 year old is 99% for height and weight, so the pullups just literally don't hold it all in. We double make the bed and wash the sheets almost every single day.

It's frustrating. Pediatrician says it's normal and there are no health issues. He does have ADHD which I've heard is related. Also my niece and nephews wet the bed until about 10 and i know it's genetic.

He day potty trained early right after turning 2 so the night pees are like extra annoying because we could have been done with diapers 5 years ago at this point!!

Pp here. Like other posters here we tried getting rid of the pullups at age 7 so my kid could feel the wetness and wake up. Didn't happen. Dd got used to sleeping in wet pj's. The only thing that worked was the waking up and going to the bathroom. She was in pullups yet I woke her up. The following week she started getting up even before my alarm. Then we got rid of the pull-up. There were occasional accidents but she learned to wake up when she needed to pee. I think it has to do with training the brain

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Anonymous wrote:This was life-changing for us. https://www.bedwettingtherapy.com/

I think once you get past a certain developmental window and continue to wear pull-ups it takes FOREVER to stop wetting the bed bc you don’t have natural consequences of actually feeling the discomfort of wetness. My oldest FINALLY outgrew pull ups but it took forever. My second (8) used this with great success so I then used it on my third (4) also with great success. I’m talking completely night trained in under a week. My fourth I was smart enough not to start using pull-ups at night and he was night trained by 3. Good luck! I have no affiliation with this product but it was life-changing for us. Totally worth the frequent waking for under a week - stick to the program and then you will be free of pull-ups forever!

I just re-read this and it totally sounds like an infomercial but you can find it on Amazon - read the reviews if you want to hear others’ experiences!
TheraPee - The World's #1 Bedwetting Solution https://a.co/d/giwX2yb

OP, you do not need to buy one of these marketing gimicks. Again, it's not that they're heavy sleepers, it's just that the brain needs to be trained to send the signal to the bladder to slow it down. For some reason, the alarm lays the pathway for this. YOu can spend $30 for it...not $200 for all that extra garbage. What a scam.

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Op you could try setting an alarm on your phone for every two hours and wake him up and make him sit on the potty even if he doesn't pee. After a week, it should help train his brain.

That is cruel! Waking me up and my kid up every TWO hours? Do you not realize that tired kids are MORE likely to pee the bed?

It may sound cruel to you but the brain gets trained. And when this waking up becomes an annoyance bed wetting would stop. Yes, you all lose sleep for a week but it's something to try before saying it will not work and it is cruel etc

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Anonymous wrote:This was life-changing for us. https://www.bedwettingtherapy.com/

I think once you get past a certain developmental window and continue to wear pull-ups it takes FOREVER to stop wetting the bed bc you don’t have natural consequences of actually feeling the discomfort of wetness. My oldest FINALLY outgrew pull ups but it took forever. My second (8) used this with great success so I then used it on my third (4) also with great success. I’m talking completely night trained in under a week. My fourth I was smart enough not to start using pull-ups at night and he was night trained by 3. Good luck! I have no affiliation with this product but it was life-changing for us. Totally worth the frequent waking for under a week - stick to the program and then you will be free of pull-ups forever!

I just re-read this and it totally sounds like an infomercial but you can find it on Amazon - read the reviews if you want to hear others’ experiences!
TheraPee - The World's #1 Bedwetting Solution https://a.co/d/giwX2yb

OP, you do not need to buy one of these marketing gimicks. Again, it's not that they're heavy sleepers, it's just that the brain needs to be trained to send the signal to the bladder to slow it down. For some reason, the alarm lays the pathway for this. YOu can spend $30 for it...not $200 for all that extra garbage. What a scam.

+1

Op you could try setting an alarm on your phone for every two hours and wake him up and make him sit on the potty even if he doesn't pee. After a week, it should help train his brain.

That is cruel! Waking me up and my kid up every TWO hours? Do you not realize that tired kids are MORE likely to pee the bed?

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Anonymous wrote:This was life-changing for us. https://www.bedwettingtherapy.com/

I think once you get past a certain developmental window and continue to wear pull-ups it takes FOREVER to stop wetting the bed bc you don’t have natural consequences of actually feeling the discomfort of wetness. My oldest FINALLY outgrew pull ups but it took forever. My second (8) used this with great success so I then used it on my third (4) also with great success. I’m talking completely night trained in under a week. My fourth I was smart enough not to start using pull-ups at night and he was night trained by 3. Good luck! I have no affiliation with this product but it was life-changing for us. Totally worth the frequent waking for under a week - stick to the program and then you will be free of pull-ups forever!

I just re-read this and it totally sounds like an infomercial but you can find it on Amazon - read the reviews if you want to hear others’ experiences!
TheraPee - The World's #1 Bedwetting Solution https://a.co/d/giwX2yb

OP, you do not need to buy one of these marketing gimicks. Again, it's not that they're heavy sleepers, it's just that the brain needs to be trained to send the signal to the bladder to slow it down. For some reason, the alarm lays the pathway for this. YOu can spend $30 for it...not $200 for all that extra garbage. What a scam.

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Op you could try setting an alarm on your phone for every two hours and wake him up and make him sit on the potty even if he doesn't pee. After a week, it should help train his brain.

Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old still pees every single night as well. She uses a washable incontinence mat on top of her sheet and I just wash it along with her wet pjs in the morning. She started refusing to wear a pull up 2 years ago.

Boys are tough though. My 7 year old boy only has rare accidents, but when he does the pee somehow gets everywhere!

10 yr old boy still having 1-2 nighttime accidents per week. We cut the liquids early enough and have him go to the bathroom right before bed. We've also talked to the Ped. He was fully trained (took forever) around 7 with the occasional nighttime accident. He slowly started having more and more accidents. Its likely due to multiple moves and school anxiety. We no longer stress about it and neither does he. I bought multiple really good mattress protectors, sheets, blankets, and large incontinence pads. If he wakes up wet in the middle of the night, the bed supplies are stored in the laundry room, which is right outside his door. He can take care of it quietly without bothering anyone. When he wakes up in the morning it is his job to wash/dry whatever is wet and remake his bed. Often times, this is just the blanket, incontinence pad, pj's, and undies. I only monitor if there are issues like a rash from urine being on his skin too long and the state of the mattress if somehow things leaked all the way through. I see no reason why this shouldn't be his responsibility at this age. He's been taking care of this for a few years. Good luck Op.

We finally tried an alarm at age nine and it worked pretty quickly. Start on a weekend because you’ll be up with the alarm—the first couple of times my DD would have slept through the alarm if I hadn’t been there. We did it during quarantine in 2020 since nobody had to be up and out of the house early.

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone. Lots of us are going through the same thing every night. I agree with the others that said at this time pull-ups aren’t what he needs. I would switch him to a tab diaper. The pull-ups just don’t hold enough. But if you want to try one more thing with the pull-ups try adding a diaper insert. They will boost the absorption. Here is a link.

https://www.amazon.com/Adhesive-Overnight-Nighttime-Protection-Pull-ons/dp/B07V391N14/ref=pd_lpo_4?pd_rd_i=B07V391N14&psc=1

But if that still doesn’t work, I would just put him in a diaper at night. How much does he weigh? Chances are he can still fit in a size 6 or 7 regular diaper, if not move to a xs youth diaper. Diapers hold so much more than pull-ups. My son, who is 8, didn’t like the idea of diapers at first but after getting a good night sleep and not waking up covered in pee he is fine with them.

One other tip I will give is to have him double void. I have my son go before his bath, again about 10 minutes before bed, and then try again right before he gets in bed which is when we put his diaper on.

Like someone else posted my son does have the bad habit of peeing in his diaper when he wakes up instead of taking it off right away and going in the toilet. Especially now that school is out and our schedule is more relaxed. I get upset with him for that.

My 11 year old does this but mostly when someone else is in the bathroom so it doesn't bother me.

You are not alone. Lots of us are going through the same thing every night. I agree with the others that said at this time pull-ups aren’t what he needs. I would switch him to a tab diaper. The pull-ups just don’t hold enough. But if you want to try one more thing with the pull-ups try adding a diaper insert. They will boost the absorption. Here is a link.

https://www.amazon.com/Adhesive-Overnight-Nighttime-Protection-Pull-ons/dp/B07V391N14/ref=pd_lpo_4?pd_rd_i=B07V391N14&psc=1

But if that still doesn’t work, I would just put him in a diaper at night. How much does he weigh? Chances are he can still fit in a size 6 or 7 regular diaper, if not move to a xs youth diaper. Diapers hold so much more than pull-ups. My son, who is 8, didn’t like the idea of diapers at first but after getting a good night sleep and not waking up covered in pee he is fine with them.

One other tip I will give is to have him double void. I have my son go before his bath, again about 10 minutes before bed, and then try again right before he gets in bed which is when we put his diaper on.

Like someone else posted my son does have the bad habit of peeing in his diaper when he wakes up instead of taking it off right away and going in the toilet. Especially now that school is out and our schedule is more relaxed. I get upset with him for that.

My older DD wore pull-ups to age 8. It just stopped all of a sudden (we let her go without pull-ups when she had a week dry.) She wanted to stop but just couldn’t do it. (She was daytime toilet trained around her 3rd bday. Her younger sister took longer to daytime train but night trained at the same time - around age 4.)

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Anonymous wrote:You have to toilet train for nighttime, did you just skip that part of the process?

WTF are you talking about? I did nothing to toilet train my kids at night. We toilet trained them, and then they naturally stopped peeing at night. Which is what happens as most bodies mature a bit. For some kids, it's takes a long time. There is no "training", only mitigation straegies. The kid is asleep. It's not a conscious choice that they are making. Shame does not fix it! Surprise!

Thank you. My kid is younger than OPs but I am gearing myself up for being in the same boat because I had nighttime accidents into middle school and pediatrician said there's a strong genetic component.

My parents night trained me, by the way -- I still had nighttime accidents because my body simply would not wake me up to go. My parents absolutely did shame me -- I got used to stripping the bed and washing the sheets myself, making it back up myself, before going to bed, sometimes while my parents angrily watched over me saying stuff like "see, this is what happens, we should all be asleep". Even these "consequences" did not help me. In fact, I feel pretty confident they made it worse because I think in retrospect I was so anxious about sleeping and using the bathroom at night that this went on for years longer than it would have if my parents had simply been understanding and used a different solution.

That’s called bad parenting, do better for your children and nighttime train them the right way. Accidents might still happen but it won’t be every single night and you won’t need pull ups for years on end.

You get that my parents nighttime trained me "right away", right? Like exactly what you are suggesting. And I still had accidents all the time. And as it went on they got frustrated and tried to shame me into not wetting the bed. Which is what happens when people get it in their heads that if a child is wetting the bed past age 3 or 4, it must be a choice they are making and just need to be broken of.

When you tell parents "just train them right away and then they won't have accidents, or not that often, and it will be done," you are setting up parents whose kids will continue to have accidents regularly, for year, for failure. You are telling them "oh you must not have done it right."

What you don't understand is that your kids trained quickly and easily and there were few accidents. Not all parents have your experience. Stop acting like an expert based on your experience with 1-2 kids. It's tiresome.

OP here.

I don't have the slightest idea of how to 'train' DS to not do this. Our youngest simply started staying dry at night about 2 months after we finished daytime potty training, and that was the end of that.

ODS however, sleeps like the dead, and seems to have zero clue of when he's actually peeing. In fact, we found out he pees multiple times each night still. I'm not sure training is something that would be effective for him. He's just a heavy sleeper, and a heavy wetter.

have you ever tried?

I posted above that we trained out son at 3. I only tried it because people on here told me to in order to get him to poop train him. We committed to giving it 2 full weeks of no diapers. It was a pain waking up to change his sheets, but sure enough after 2 weeks he was trained and never wet the bed again. He is now 12 and a very solid sleeper. He didn't even wake up when a fire alarm went off in his room once.

Please stop. You don't know what you are talking about. Your child's body was ready. OP's child's body is not ready. Don't talk about things you don't know anything about.

OP - my child was a heavy sleeper and grew out of this around 7. Hang in there.

how was my child ready? he woke up with a soaking wet diaper every single night. Had I waited for a dry diaper he may still be in on.

Not saying it works for every kid, but I do think that you don't know until you try. Give it 2 weeks.

I also gave the example of my nephew who magically stopped wetting the bed once he was no longer sleeping on the top bunk. Did his genetic suddenly change or maybe he was too lazy to get up when he was on the top bunk.

YOUR CHILD WAS THREE YEARS OLD. HOW DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND THIS IS A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT SITUATION? PSYCHO PSYCHO KNOW IT ALL FIRST TIME MOM.

Mine wet the bed every night until 9 also. We tried the therapee alarm first and had very slight improvement after a couple months. We switched to the Malem alarm and within a week he had quit wetting the bed. I have no idea if it was the alarm or total coincidence.

His dr told us the alarm would likely only help if it was something our son really wanted to try. We brought it up when he was 8, but he wasn't ready to try for another year.

Mine stopped at 9, OP. I finally resorted to bribes once she had a dry night or two or three in one month. One dry night, one prize. Then two nights, one prize. Then three, and so on. Either she'd been scamming all along, or the biological timing was right.