Anonymous wrote:I guess it depends on what you consider a “high earner.” My H makes around 750-850k depending on bonus. But he’s still the same person he’s always been. He’s a very caring, generous, patient person. He’d never expect me to look or act a certain way just because he makes a decent amount of money.

Interestingly, once he made it to senior management, his hours went way down. WFH helps as well with that. He has time to be a very involved, hands on parent. He’s always doing home improvement projects around our house in his spare time. Right now he’s retiling our master bathroom.

This stereotype that high earners are never home, absent fathers, or cheat on their wives is just that - a stereotype.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know, OP. Do you also feel jealous that my husband married rich?

X100. It’s so annoying that these threads imply that these dynamics apply to rich husbands vs. rich wives; there is an exploding population of rich people of both sexes.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am. But it's not marrying "rich' I'm specifically jealous of, it's marrying someone who makes enough for the other parent to have a more flexible, part-time career or SAH. We live in a nice, MC to UMC neighborhood in a desirable school district. DH and I both have great jobs that pay well enough to live where we do and be able to save (which honestly, is anywhere around here). We would have to have one of the following factors in order for one of us to stay home or go part time: family money, early or lucky real estate investment, much more lucrative career. So I am jealous of the SAH moms (because it's all moms) in our neighborhood who leave the bus stop in the morning for their workout or morning dog walk, have time to pursue hobbies or homemaking during the day, are active at the kids' school, are home when the bus gets back, shuttle kids to enrichment or activities, and have flexibility for days off and summertime. Yet still seems to have nice clothes for themselves and their kids, take great vacations, have beautiful homes - so obviously aren't making sacrifices in order to stay home. Our family would really benefit from that and we have a lot of extra stress from trying to accommodate schedules and catch up on life stuff on the weekends.

Anonymous wrote:It could be worse. You could be a single earner parent. Grass is always greener.

Anonymous wrote:Just one period of time. I was crazy envious last year when my friends whose kids were in private school got in person learning.

So jealous. My kids in public school were stuck with Fairfax County’s terrible online learning. I work in a hospital (ICU nurse) and really couldn’t help them much. It was the lowest period of my life.

[Have to add - I now have almost no respect for public school teachers after seeing their disgusting behavior during the 2020-21 school year. My child’s teacher “taught” remotely while taking her two daughters to tennis tournaments around the country. So even when my kiddo went back to school, she learned almost nothing. F-teachers.]

I’m in a better place now. Taking care of people who are dying gives you a different perspective on money and happiness.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess it depends on what you consider a “high earner.” My H makes around 750-850k depending on bonus. But he’s still the same person he’s always been. He’s a very caring, generous, patient person. He’d never expect me to look or act a certain way just because he makes a decent amount of money.

Interestingly, once he made it to senior management, his hours went way down. WFH helps as well with that. He has time to be a very involved, hands on parent. He’s always doing home improvement projects around our house in his spare time. Right now he’s retiling our master bathroom.

This stereotype that high earners are never home, absent fathers, or cheat on their wives is just that - a stereotype.

....stereotype for a reason.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess it depends on what you consider a “high earner.” My H makes around 750-850k depending on bonus. But he’s still the same person he’s always been. He’s a very caring, generous, patient person. He’d never expect me to look or act a certain way just because he makes a decent amount of money.

Interestingly, once he made it to senior management, his hours went way down. WFH helps as well with that. He has time to be a very involved, hands on parent. He’s always doing home improvement projects around our house in his spare time. Right now he’s retiling our master bathroom.

This stereotype that high earners are never home, absent fathers, or cheat on their wives is just that - a stereotype.

I bet you haven't either...

This is not “rich”

Rich = making millionS a year

I think 750-850K is rich...

UMC comfortable

I bet they’ve never even flown private.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess it depends on what you consider a “high earner.” My H makes around 750-850k depending on bonus. But he’s still the same person he’s always been. He’s a very caring, generous, patient person. He’d never expect me to look or act a certain way just because he makes a decent amount of money.

Interestingly, once he made it to senior management, his hours went way down. WFH helps as well with that. He has time to be a very involved, hands on parent. He’s always doing home improvement projects around our house in his spare time. Right now he’s retiling our master bathroom.

This stereotype that high earners are never home, absent fathers, or cheat on their wives is just that - a stereotype.

This is not “rich”

Rich = making millionS a year

Anonymous wrote:I guess it depends on what you consider a “high earner.” My H makes around 750-850k depending on bonus. But he’s still the same person he’s always been. He’s a very caring, generous, patient person. He’d never expect me to look or act a certain way just because he makes a decent amount of money.

Interestingly, once he made it to senior management, his hours went way down. WFH helps as well with that. He has time to be a very involved, hands on parent. He’s always doing home improvement projects around our house in his spare time. Right now he’s retiling our master bathroom.

This stereotype that high earners are never home, absent fathers, or cheat on their wives is just that - a stereotype.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess it depends on what you consider a “high earner.” My H makes around 750-850k depending on bonus. But he’s still the same person he’s always been. He’s a very caring, generous, patient person. He’d never expect me to look or act a certain way just because he makes a decent amount of money.

Interestingly, once he made it to senior management, his hours went way down. WFH helps as well with that. He has time to be a very involved, hands on parent. He’s always doing home improvement projects around our house in his spare time. Right now he’s retiling our master bathroom.

This stereotype that high earners are never home, absent fathers, or cheat on their wives is just that - a stereotype.

This is not “rich”

Rich = making millionS a year

I think 750-850K is rich...

Little doubt this is rich -- in any even little doubt that this was the type of husband OP was talking about.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess it depends on what you consider a “high earner.” My H makes around 750-850k depending on bonus. But he’s still the same person he’s always been. He’s a very caring, generous, patient person. He’d never expect me to look or act a certain way just because he makes a decent amount of money.

Interestingly, once he made it to senior management, his hours went way down. WFH helps as well with that. He has time to be a very involved, hands on parent. He’s always doing home improvement projects around our house in his spare time. Right now he’s retiling our master bathroom.

This stereotype that high earners are never home, absent fathers, or cheat on their wives is just that - a stereotype.

This is not “rich”

Rich = making millionS a year

I think 750-850K is rich...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I guess it depends on what you consider a “high earner.” My H makes around 750-850k depending on bonus. But he’s still the same person he’s always been. He’s a very caring, generous, patient person. He’d never expect me to look or act a certain way just because he makes a decent amount of money.

Interestingly, once he made it to senior management, his hours went way down. WFH helps as well with that. He has time to be a very involved, hands on parent. He’s always doing home improvement projects around our house in his spare time. Right now he’s retiling our master bathroom.

This stereotype that high earners are never home, absent fathers, or cheat on their wives is just that - a stereotype.

This is not “rich”

Rich = making millionS a year

I think 750-850K is rich...