Anonymous
03/26/2022 23:41
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get attached to any names you give your kids. Just wait until they are teenagers and declare that you will not call them by their birth names anymore (aka "dead names") and that instead you will use their chosen names and pronouns instead. You will very quickly get over any dislike you might have had for the cute nicknames their older siblings gave them.
I love my nonbinary teens, but I laugh now at how much time my spouse and I spent arguing over their names. I doubt I will ever get to call them by those names again even though those names are beautiful and have family connections.
Honest question -- I am not making fun.
There are some nonbinary kids at my kids' school who have chosen names that are objects. These are not the names, but they are something like Soup. Crime. Ohio. Is this common among NB teens?
PP of this post -- and I have no idea, because all the nonbinary friends I've heard of have picked actual names, but now I'm laughing because now I can look on the bright side, that my kids chose actual names and not objects! Even if I don't much like their chosen names, I guess it could always be worse.
You have more than one non-binary teen? What are the chances?
Every teen in my DD’s class, including DD, are self-described as non-binary.
Ah, so it's some sort of stupid trend and not actual gender dysphoria.
Anonymous
03/26/2022 19:24
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get attached to any names you give your kids. Just wait until they are teenagers and declare that you will not call them by their birth names anymore (aka "dead names") and that instead you will use their chosen names and pronouns instead. You will very quickly get over any dislike you might have had for the cute nicknames their older siblings gave them.
I love my nonbinary teens, but I laugh now at how much time my spouse and I spent arguing over their names. I doubt I will ever get to call them by those names again even though those names are beautiful and have family connections.
Honest question -- I am not making fun.
There are some nonbinary kids at my kids' school who have chosen names that are objects. These are not the names, but they are something like Soup. Crime. Ohio. Is this common among NB teens?
PP of this post -- and I have no idea, because all the nonbinary friends I've heard of have picked actual names, but now I'm laughing because now I can look on the bright side, that my kids chose actual names and not objects! Even if I don't much like their chosen names, I guess it could always be worse.
You have more than one non-binary teen? What are the chances?
Every teen in my DD’s class, including DD, are self-described as non-binary.
Anonymous
03/26/2022 14:26
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
OP you have zero sense of humor
Anonymous
03/26/2022 12:35
Subject: Re:The name we picked took an unexpected turn
My younger son called his older sister Ethan for reasons we can’t fathom. Her name is actually Casey.
Anonymous
03/25/2022 23:03
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get attached to any names you give your kids. Just wait until they are teenagers and declare that you will not call them by their birth names anymore (aka "dead names") and that instead you will use their chosen names and pronouns instead. You will very quickly get over any dislike you might have had for the cute nicknames their older siblings gave them.
I love my nonbinary teens, but I laugh now at how much time my spouse and I spent arguing over their names. I doubt I will ever get to call them by those names again even though those names are beautiful and have family connections.
Honest question -- I am not making fun.
There are some nonbinary kids at my kids' school who have chosen names that are objects. These are not the names, but they are something like Soup. Crime. Ohio. Is this common among NB teens?
PP of this post -- and I have no idea, because all the nonbinary friends I've heard of have picked actual names, but now I'm laughing because now I can look on the bright side, that my kids chose actual names and not objects! Even if I don't much like their chosen names, I guess it could always be worse.
You have more than one non-binary teen? What are the chances?
Anonymous
03/25/2022 16:41
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
My self-declared nickname was Sparky and I wish it had stuck.
Anonymous
03/25/2022 15:22
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
My second child goes by Cha Cha. It’s his self-declared nickname.
Anonymous
03/25/2022 15:18
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get attached to any names you give your kids. Just wait until they are teenagers and declare that you will not call them by their birth names anymore (aka "dead names") and that instead you will use their chosen names and pronouns instead. You will very quickly get over any dislike you might have had for the cute nicknames their older siblings gave them.
I love my nonbinary teens, but I laugh now at how much time my spouse and I spent arguing over their names. I doubt I will ever get to call them by those names again even though those names are beautiful and have family connections.
Honest question -- I am not making fun.
There are some nonbinary kids at my kids' school who have chosen names that are objects. These are not the names, but they are something like Soup. Crime. Ohio. Is this common among NB teens?
PP of this post -- and I have no idea, because all the nonbinary friends I've heard of have picked actual names, but now I'm laughing because now I can look on the bright side, that my kids chose actual names and not objects! Even if I don't much like their chosen names, I guess it could always be worse.
Anonymous
03/25/2022 13:05
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DH and I fell in love with the name Nicole and named our second daughter that. We figured she might choose to go by Nikki and agreed it would be fine with us. We never figured her older sister wouldn't be able to say Nicole and would call her Colie. (Rhymes with solely) We do not love Colie, to say the least. It hadn't even occurred to us that her name could go in that direction. Just a word of caution to not only consider possible nicknames you see, but that others might see.
People in Ukraine have been forced to flee their homes. Their homes are being bombed and no so veiled threats of using nuclear weapons, which would start WWIII where a nickname would not even be in the first 200 billion of problems! Find help for you shallowness.
OP here. We can be helpful to the Ukraine people AND shallow all in the same day. We are hosting two Ukrainians and have donated $8k. I ALSO want my daughter called by the name DH and I picked out for her.
What a coincidence that this PP posts about Ukraine and the OP happens to be hosting Ukrainians AND donated thousands. OK
TONS of people have donated for this war.
$8k and are hosting 2 ukranians? come on
Exactly!
Anonymous
03/25/2022 12:47
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
My daughter (Vivian) called herself Sharon for the first 4 years of her life. Eventually she learned to say her name.
Anonymous
03/25/2022 12:42
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
Anonymous wrote:Our four year old thought his new baby sister was named Magnet. He sat us down about a week after she was born to gently explain how terrible a name he thought we’d picked, just really bad, but he was trying to spare our feelings. He was very relieved to hear she was actually baby Margaret.
Lucky Margaret as big brother is doing what he is supposed to do--looking our for baby sister. My name is Margaret and my big brother called me Magpie. He said that I made a lot of noise but he did look out for me. He died very young and I still miss him.
Anonymous
03/25/2022 12:39
Subject: Re:The name we picked took an unexpected turn
I have an Aunt Lala because my mother, as a toddler, called her Lala. She’s been called Lala for 67 years.
I have an Aunt Sister for the name reason.
*meant same reason
Anonymous
03/25/2022 12:39
Subject: Re:The name we picked took an unexpected turn
I have an Aunt Lala because my mother, as a toddler, called her Lala. She’s been called Lala for 67 years.
I have an Aunt Sister for the name reason.
Anonymous
03/25/2022 12:33
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
Our four year old thought his new baby sister was named Magnet. He sat us down about a week after she was born to gently explain how terrible a name he thought we’d picked, just really bad, but he was trying to spare our feelings. He was very relieved to hear she was actually baby Margaret.
Anonymous
03/25/2022 12:21
Subject: The name we picked took an unexpected turn
The Nicole in our extended family is Nik-Nik