Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.
I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!
I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.
You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."
No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.
Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?
This is absurd and ridiculous! Of course not. All of this talk is nothing but a sleight of hand for selfish women to manipulate the dating and marriage market in their favor to accommodate all of their wishes and desires. Nothing at all wrong with a 40 year old dating a 28 year old. A lot of women just want to preserve men in their age cohort for themselves using bs like "predatory" and other shaming crap to accomplish it.
100% this. When a man is in his teens/early 20's he is forced to sit by and watch as large percentages of women his age go for the older guys, then once he reaches his 30's he is supposed to go for the same women who ignored him when he was younger, who have now aged significantly and are no longer as attractive. These women use shaming tactics to coerce men into dating older than they normally would. Of course not all men have the option to date 25 year olds when they are 35+, you need to have something that makes you attractive whether it be wealth, looks, confidence, or some combination of these. But those men who do have the ability to date younger should not be shamed for it.
You couldn’t date either age range of women.
Why the bitterness?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.
I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!
I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.
You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."
No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.
Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?
This is absurd and ridiculous! Of course not. All of this talk is nothing but a sleight of hand for selfish women to manipulate the dating and marriage market in their favor to accommodate all of their wishes and desires. Nothing at all wrong with a 40 year old dating a 28 year old. A lot of women just want to preserve men in their age cohort for themselves using bs like "predatory" and other shaming crap to accomplish it.
100% this. When a man is in his teens/early 20's he is forced to sit by and watch as large percentages of women his age go for the older guys, then once he reaches his 30's he is supposed to go for the same women who ignored him when he was younger, who have now aged significantly and are no longer as attractive. These women use shaming tactics to coerce men into dating older than they normally would. Of course not all men have the option to date 25 year olds when they are 35+, you need to have something that makes you attractive whether it be wealth, looks, confidence, or some combination of these. But those men who do have the ability to date younger should not be shamed for it.
You couldn’t date either age range of women.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.
I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!
I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.
You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."
No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.
Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?
This is absurd and ridiculous! Of course not. All of this talk is nothing but a sleight of hand for selfish women to manipulate the dating and marriage market in their favor to accommodate all of their wishes and desires. Nothing at all wrong with a 40 year old dating a 28 year old. A lot of women just want to preserve men in their age cohort for themselves using bs like "predatory" and other shaming crap to accomplish it.
100% this. When a man is in his teens/early 20's he is forced to sit by and watch as large percentages of women his age go for the older guys, then once he reaches his 30's he is supposed to go for the same women who ignored him when he was younger, who have now aged significantly and are no longer as attractive. These women use shaming tactics to coerce men into dating older than they normally would. Of course not all men have the option to date 25 year olds when they are 35+, you need to have something that makes you attractive whether it be wealth, looks, confidence, or some combination of these. But those men who do have the ability to date younger should not be shamed for it.
I honestly have no idea what you’re talking about. Never in my whole life did a large number of women in my age range go for older men. I’m in my mid 30s now. My whole life that’s been a weird fringe thing.
+1. Other than a couple of women who had very obvious emotional issues, I didn’t know any women who dated significantly older than them when I was in my 20s. Within a few years, sure, but nothing dramatic (and some dates/married men within a few years younger as well).
You were dating before the apps. It’s extremely common now.
As an older man who dates 20s, I like to test if they’ll introduce me to their friends or not. (Only care if they do because it shows they like me more; the relationship will never last longer term so don’t care beyond that)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.
I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!
I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.
You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."
No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.
Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?
Of course there are some who are and some who are not. In some cases the younger woman is taking advantage of the older man (or thinks that she is). I'm not sure what people in here are arguing about. Older men and younger women are free to make their own choices about who they date. Others are free to judge them for it.
While it is shame that years later some people seem to regret their experiences, I'm not sure what they would propose be done about it. I am genuinely interested in hearing what they would propose be done differently.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.
I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!
I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.
You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."
No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.
Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?
This is absurd and ridiculous! Of course not. All of this talk is nothing but a sleight of hand for selfish women to manipulate the dating and marriage market in their favor to accommodate all of their wishes and desires. Nothing at all wrong with a 40 year old dating a 28 year old. A lot of women just want to preserve men in their age cohort for themselves using bs like "predatory" and other shaming crap to accomplish it.
100% this. When a man is in his teens/early 20's he is forced to sit by and watch as large percentages of women his age go for the older guys, then once he reaches his 30's he is supposed to go for the same women who ignored him when he was younger, who have now aged significantly and are no longer as attractive. These women use shaming tactics to coerce men into dating older than they normally would. Of course not all men have the option to date 25 year olds when they are 35+, you need to have something that makes you attractive whether it be wealth, looks, confidence, or some combination of these. But those men who do have the ability to date younger should not be shamed for it.
I honestly have no idea what you’re talking about. Never in my whole life did a large number of women in my age range go for older men. I’m in my mid 30s now. My whole life that’s been a weird fringe thing.
+1. Other than a couple of women who had very obvious emotional issues, I didn’t know any women who dated significantly older than them when I was in my 20s. Within a few years, sure, but nothing dramatic (and some dates/married men within a few years younger as well).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.
I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!
I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.
You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."
No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.
Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?
Of course there are some who are and some who are not. In some cases the younger woman is taking advantage of the older man (or thinks that she is). I'm not sure what people in here are arguing about. Older men and younger women are free to make their own choices about who they date. Others are free to judge them for it.
While it is shame that years later some people seem to regret their experiences, I'm not sure what they would propose be done about it. I am genuinely interested in hearing what they would propose be done differently.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.
I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!
I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.
You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."
No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.
Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.
I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!
I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.
You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."
No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.
Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?
This is absurd and ridiculous! Of course not. All of this talk is nothing but a sleight of hand for selfish women to manipulate the dating and marriage market in their favor to accommodate all of their wishes and desires. Nothing at all wrong with a 40 year old dating a 28 year old. A lot of women just want to preserve men in their age cohort for themselves using bs like "predatory" and other shaming crap to accomplish it.
100% this. When a man is in his teens/early 20's he is forced to sit by and watch as large percentages of women his age go for the older guys, then once he reaches his 30's he is supposed to go for the same women who ignored him when he was younger, who have now aged significantly and are no longer as attractive. These women use shaming tactics to coerce men into dating older than they normally would. Of course not all men have the option to date 25 year olds when they are 35+, you need to have something that makes you attractive whether it be wealth, looks, confidence, or some combination of these. But those men who do have the ability to date younger should not be shamed for it.
Lol. I have never once met a men who was “shamed” into dating someone.
More like shamed in to not dating younger which logically leaves the older cohort as the socially acceptable dating pool.
Have you really met a man who decided against dating somebody younger for the sole reason that people would judge him for it?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.
I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!
I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.
You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."
No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.
Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?
This is absurd and ridiculous! Of course not. All of this talk is nothing but a sleight of hand for selfish women to manipulate the dating and marriage market in their favor to accommodate all of their wishes and desires. Nothing at all wrong with a 40 year old dating a 28 year old. A lot of women just want to preserve men in their age cohort for themselves using bs like "predatory" and other shaming crap to accomplish it.
100% this. When a man is in his teens/early 20's he is forced to sit by and watch as large percentages of women his age go for the older guys, then once he reaches his 30's he is supposed to go for the same women who ignored him when he was younger, who have now aged significantly and are no longer as attractive. These women use shaming tactics to coerce men into dating older than they normally would. Of course not all men have the option to date 25 year olds when they are 35+, you need to have something that makes you attractive whether it be wealth, looks, confidence, or some combination of these. But those men who do have the ability to date younger should not be shamed for it.
Just say you had a hard time finding people to date, sheesh.
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think about it. However, not going to date these old coots when they age out or are too broke to continue that nonsense. It takes a lack of maturity to go deeply younger.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.
I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!
I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.
You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."
No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.
Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?
This is absurd and ridiculous! Of course not. All of this talk is nothing but a sleight of hand for selfish women to manipulate the dating and marriage market in their favor to accommodate all of their wishes and desires. Nothing at all wrong with a 40 year old dating a 28 year old. A lot of women just want to preserve men in their age cohort for themselves using bs like "predatory" and other shaming crap to accomplish it.
100% this. When a man is in his teens/early 20's he is forced to sit by and watch as large percentages of women his age go for the older guys, then once he reaches his 30's he is supposed to go for the same women who ignored him when he was younger, who have now aged significantly and are no longer as attractive. These women use shaming tactics to coerce men into dating older than they normally would. Of course not all men have the option to date 25 year olds when they are 35+, you need to have something that makes you attractive whether it be wealth, looks, confidence, or some combination of these. But those men who do have the ability to date younger should not be shamed for it.