My 13 yo son doesn't do sports or have any 'activities' outside of playing games online with his friends and walking to and from school daily (25 minutes each way). I feel like that with what he is getting at school is enough in the colder months. When it's warmer we spend an hour outside after school in the yard, biking, with friends. Outside of online play, he reads a lot and is getting good grades. The same for his sister, 10.

OP, he is only 14. My kids didn't really do too many activities till sophomore and even junior year of high school, and they ended up being very well-rounded kids with a good range of activities. Give them time to grow - they will do so.

My daughter isn’t sporty and is the opposite of competitive. Last year during the pandemic when we were looking for things to do, we went ice skating a few times. This turned into lessons and now she’s in the advanced classes and loves it. It’s two days a week between lessons and practice and she’s embracing something active in a way she never has before. She takes lessons with a friend and it’s their hang out time. Other friends join her for open skate on occasion, but she loves skating on her own too. Even better, she’s so proud of her progress and the things she can do. I think finding outlets for the quiet/shy and not sporty kids is a challenge. It took us a while to find her passion. Keep trying new things.