To me this thread shows you can’t win. Either you have a lot of money and, to others, your spending is either too extravagant or too cheap. Alternatively, you don’t have enough money and either try too hard to impress people or spend within your means and look cheap when in reality it’s the best you can do. Any way you look at it, it makes you want to take your marbles and stay home!

Could it be, that above all other competitive pursuits, in their minds, Big Law = Winning
Winners need to show they are winning, to keep being perceived as winners and keep the winning going
Thus the demonstrative displays

Op, it should *not* be about your comfort. And it just won't be, no matter what you say/how you act. Or how you feel. Take yourself out of the equation.

They want to give. They want to experience the giving ... the hosting ... whatever, in the way they choose. In the way they want to be/or be viewed/or think they are viewed.

It is a joy. It is a joy to them and it is not your place to take it away or diminish their experience.

You do you. Do it your way. And, of course, derive your own joy from whatever your own approach is.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, by all means, OP, go and tell these nubes the correct way to be wealthy. Explain to them your generations of experience on the matter. They will be so grateful to hear the right way to spend their time and copious money.

😂 spot on

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Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of BigLaw people, because I am one, and I also come from an old money community. Old money people are super showy, just in very different ways. How about all those horses you have, the boarding school you, your parents, grandparents and great-grandparents all attended, the homes in prime locations that have been in the family "for generations", etc. etc. etc.


And I don't know any BigLaw person who does what you're describing. They don't have time to buy random gifts for their friends because they're always effing working.

Why do all of the supposed BigLaw people on this thread not know how to correctly place the punctuation inside the quotations marks?

It is not a typo, because it occurs over and over again, in this thread, unless it's the same person who cannot get it right.

It depends on whether you are using the phrase or mentioning the phrase.

He was, in the words of Abraham Lincoln, a "real jerk."

Abraham Lincoln liked the phrase "real jerk".

Incorrect. Benjamin Dreyer, copy chief at Random House and author of Dreyer’s English, says that in America, a comma or period always goes inside the quotation marks. In the UK it is more complicated.

If does not if you are quoting. The blue book, which governs legal writing, very clear on this.

You are simply incorrect.

The blue book is only useful for legal citations, fwiw. It’s not the definitive guide to proper grammar or punctuation.

Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of BigLaw people, because I am one, and I also come from an old money community. Old money people are super showy, just in very different ways. How about all those horses you have, the boarding school you, your parents, grandparents and great-grandparents all attended, the homes in prime locations that have been in the family "for generations", etc. etc. etc.


And I don't know any BigLaw person who does what you're describing. They don't have time to buy random gifts for their friends because they're always effing working.

…or your large barn full of vintage cars worth nearly $6m…I know one such

Blue Book, Chicago, MLA, and APA are all in agreement that commas and periods go INSIDE close quote marks.

If you're using the British standard, the comma or period goes outside the close quote mark.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a lot of BigLaw people, because I am one, and I also come from an old money community. Old money people are super showy, just in very different ways. How about all those horses you have, the boarding school you, your parents, grandparents and great-grandparents all attended, the homes in prime locations that have been in the family "for generations", etc. etc. etc.


And I don't know any BigLaw person who does what you're describing. They don't have time to buy random gifts for their friends because they're always effing working.

Why do all of the supposed BigLaw people on this thread not know how to correctly place the punctuation inside the quotations marks?

It is not a typo, because it occurs over and over again, in this thread, unless it's the same person who cannot get it right.

It depends on whether you are using the phrase or mentioning the phrase.

He was, in the words of Abraham Lincoln, a "real jerk."

Abraham Lincoln liked the phrase "real jerk".

Incorrect. Benjamin Dreyer, copy chief at Random House and author of Dreyer’s English, says that in America, a comma or period always goes inside the quotation marks. In the UK it is more complicated.

If does not if you are quoting. The blue book, which governs legal writing, very clear on this.

It’s a product of the Real Trashwives of XYZ City.

The cultural and commercial impacts of “reality”tv is astonishing, astonishingly scary.

Anonymous wrote:Love these old money people who feel they are better because they are "low key". I know a couple of old money folks (and a lot more that are not really "old money" but aspire to "old money values", and none of these people are as low key as they think they are. In most ways they are very obviously in a big giant bubble of privilege and ignorance.

Don’t take the bait. OP is no doubt hanging out in his suburban basement media room and binging HBOs the Gilded Age… and making stuff up because he has two wait 3 more days until the next episode comes out.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a Kirkland partner who has been a partner for 15 years who recently told me his wife has *never* flown first class. So I really don’t know what people in here are talking about.

Or maybe you don’t realize that Kirkland partners aren’t “really” partners because most are non-equity.

$300-500k is nothing to sneeze at but it comes with a lot of blood, sweat and tears and not much time to enjoy the beach house. Now the $5 to 6 million+ enjoyed by the equity partners many of whom are actually interesting people with life outside of law, does afford a far more luxurious lifestyle.

For the more showy there is the ability to support multiple family members, have vacation homes, travel and own multiple cherry red Ferraris, that you drive into your dc office where you park for free on the street because .. why not? You have at least 2 others…

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Anonymous wrote:Lol, I would like all my Big Law friends to know that they are WELCOME to buy me random expensive gifts for me and my children, invite me to lavish over-the-top parties, and treat me to expensive meals at Michlin starred restaurants. I will not complain, and I definitely will not post anonymous threads on DCUM explaining that it makes me "uncomfortable". I'd be very, very comfortable with this! Go for it! Sounds great.

+1. My toddler would like some $400 mittens, please.

Yes, I would love this as well.