Anonymous
02/10/2022 10:27
Subject: Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
I let kids eat the good chocolate on a trip and now they won't eat Hershey's or any of the regular old Halloween candy. Probably good for their health, but bad for my wallet and my relationship with my MIL who didn't appreciate the interrogation about what percent cocoa her Christmas peppermint bark had (it was melted Nestle milk chocolate chips, a no go). Kids and I had a talk after that about how it's okay to have taste preferences but not okay to poop on other peoples' choices with a snobby attitude.
Anonymous
02/10/2022 10:14
Subject: Re:Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
Anonymous wrote:What’s a sumo orange?
+1 Must look this up
Anonymous
02/10/2022 10:10
Subject: Re:Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
Anonymous wrote:This thread sparked a really interesting conversation amongst a group of my friends. I tend to buy nice desserts, cheese, cuts of meat, etc for just the adults in the house. If our kids ask, we tell them that they can try a bite but its for the adults.
One of my friends thinks that is horrible and that any food in the house should be fair game for all family members.
Another one of my friends told a really funny story about how she hosted a party and set out a tray of expensive cheese, olives, prosciutto and salami. The 3 kids at the party polished off the entire tray before the adults got any and she was pissed!
A third friend said that she always buys an alternative for the kids so they still feel like they are getting something special.
I’m the Sumo pp and agree with your first friend. My kids are welcome to 99.99% of the food in the house, regardless of what it is. Sometimes, as a mom, I just need something that is literally just mine and I don’t want to share it. It might be a special coffee drink, or a treat from the bakery.
Anonymous
02/10/2022 09:58
Subject: Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Here’s what you do:
Buy a bag of Hershey’s kisses. When you get one of your chocolates offer the kids one of the candies. Done.
Is your husband controlling about other things too?
+1 this is some red flag behavior. Wonder what was in his upbringing that caused him to react this way.
If anyone is controlling in this situation it is mom. She is the one buying special stuff for herself and not sharing it and being selfish.
TF? My kids live and eat like kings. They are currently eating Sumo oranges like they are free. I will buy and eat something that is just for me and not one person in my home better complain about it. Do I lord it over them? No. If they happen to see me eat it, too bad.
The mommy martyrs are out in full force.
But you can have their Sumo oranges anytime you want, no?
No, dear. They can eat MY Sumo orange at their whim.
My point was that my kids aren’t even close to being deprived. They’ll be fine if I have something they don’t every blue moon.
Anonymous
02/10/2022 09:17
Subject: Re:Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
This thread sparked a really interesting conversation amongst a group of my friends. I tend to buy nice desserts, cheese, cuts of meat, etc for just the adults in the house. If our kids ask, we tell them that they can try a bite but its for the adults.
One of my friends thinks that is horrible and that any food in the house should be fair game for all family members.
Another one of my friends told a really funny story about how she hosted a party and set out a tray of expensive cheese, olives, prosciutto and salami. The 3 kids at the party polished off the entire tray before the adults got any and she was pissed!
A third friend said that she always buys an alternative for the kids so they still feel like they are getting something special.
One of my friends thinks that is horrible and that any food in the house should be fair game for all family members.
Another one of my friends told a really funny story about how she hosted a party and set out a tray of expensive cheese, olives, prosciutto and salami. The 3 kids at the party polished off the entire tray before the adults got any and she was pissed!
A third friend said that she always buys an alternative for the kids so they still feel like they are getting something special.
Anonymous
02/10/2022 08:29
Subject: Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
Mommy has special ice cream, special rolls, special chocolate, special risotto, special heirloom tomatoes, even special Medjool dates. She is the only vegetarian. Even DH knows to ask before drinking some of her Jonagold juice. If there is any doubt, the item in question is labeled. If there is suspicion of potential foul play, the item is photographed and marked to indicate how much had been consumed. Cookies are counted and logged so that Mommy knows precisely what amount of unauthorized consumption has occurred in her absence. Mommy's vengeance is swift and unerring.
Anonymous
02/10/2022 08:21
Subject: Re:Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
What’s a sumo orange?
Anonymous
02/10/2022 07:36
Subject: Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Here’s what you do:
Buy a bag of Hershey’s kisses. When you get one of your chocolates offer the kids one of the candies. Done.
Is your husband controlling about other things too?
+1 this is some red flag behavior. Wonder what was in his upbringing that caused him to react this way.
If anyone is controlling in this situation it is mom. She is the one buying special stuff for herself and not sharing it and being selfish.
TF? My kids live and eat like kings. They are currently eating Sumo oranges like they are free. I will buy and eat something that is just for me and not one person in my home better complain about it. Do I lord it over them? No. If they happen to see me eat it, too bad.
The mommy martyrs are out in full force.
But you can have their Sumo oranges anytime you want, no?
Anonymous
02/10/2022 07:35
Subject: Re:Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
I think it is evil stepmother behavior if you eat it in front of your children and not share.
I always told my DH that if he wanted "special" things just for him, he should buy a fridge and put in his office. Anything in the main fridge is for everyone.
If you keep the chocolates in your private space or hidden somewhere and only eat when they are not there, it's fine. How do you feel comfortable eating chocolate in front of your children and stating that it's for you only? I can't even imagine it.
I always told my DH that if he wanted "special" things just for him, he should buy a fridge and put in his office. Anything in the main fridge is for everyone.
If you keep the chocolates in your private space or hidden somewhere and only eat when they are not there, it's fine. How do you feel comfortable eating chocolate in front of your children and stating that it's for you only? I can't even imagine it.
Anonymous
02/10/2022 03:47
Subject: Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Here’s what you do:
Buy a bag of Hershey’s kisses. When you get one of your chocolates offer the kids one of the candies. Done.
Is your husband controlling about other things too?
+1 this is some red flag behavior. Wonder what was in his upbringing that caused him to react this way.
If anyone is controlling in this situation it is mom. She is the one buying special stuff for herself and not sharing it and being selfish.
TF? My kids live and eat like kings. They are currently eating Sumo oranges like they are free. I will buy and eat something that is just for me and not one person in my home better complain about it. Do I lord it over them? No. If they happen to see me eat it, too bad.
The mommy martyrs are out in full force.
This is such a weird mentality. You buy more expensive fruit then get upset when people eat it? Do you expect them to ration it out? If my kid wants to eat 20 oranges, great, it’s better than whining for junk.
If you’re gonna be stingy, but a bag of regular oranges and then get each kid one sumo orange to try.
Anonymous
02/10/2022 02:01
Subject: Re:Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
Anonymous wrote:Has OP been back to clarify if she eats the chocolate in front of family (not ok) or has a secret stash she eats alone (ok)?
Don't think so.
Anonymous
02/09/2022 22:48
Subject: Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
This is weird. Why can't your husband buy his own special chocolates. I guess you could pick up an extra box for him. Why is he acting like you control all the chocolate in the world and he can't have any.
Anonymous
02/09/2022 22:30
Subject: Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Here’s what you do:
Buy a bag of Hershey’s kisses. When you get one of your chocolates offer the kids one of the candies. Done.
Is your husband controlling about other things too?
+1 this is some red flag behavior. Wonder what was in his upbringing that caused him to react this way.
If anyone is controlling in this situation it is mom. She is the one buying special stuff for herself and not sharing it and being selfish.
TF? My kids live and eat like kings. They are currently eating Sumo oranges like they are free. I will buy and eat something that is just for me and not one person in my home better complain about it. Do I lord it over them? No. If they happen to see me eat it, too bad.
The mommy martyrs are out in full force.
Anonymous
02/09/2022 21:56
Subject: Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes. It’s evil behavior. Two years ago DH bought me a fancy box of chocolates at Christmas. The kids devoured it. They don’t care if they are expensive or cheap. No one got angry. This year he bought two. One for the family and one he told me to hide in the bedroom. They are teens. Any food is gone in seconds.
I currently have a box of thin mints and Samoas hidden in my closest under sweaters. I’m not sure how many they already ate but these are mine! It would be crazy to keep them in the kitchen and expect no one else to eat them.
It sounds like you just have bratty kids. Teenagers should be old enough to know not to devour a fancy box of chocolates that was someone else’s gift.
You don’t have teens. They aren’t bratty. Just clueless. Chocolate in the kitchen is fair game for anyone.
Anonymous
02/09/2022 18:05
Subject: Is it evil stepmother behavior to sometimes buy fancy chocolate that’s mostly for me
Anonymous wrote:Yes. It’s evil behavior. Two years ago DH bought me a fancy box of chocolates at Christmas. The kids devoured it. They don’t care if they are expensive or cheap. No one got angry. This year he bought two. One for the family and one he told me to hide in the bedroom. They are teens. Any food is gone in seconds.
I currently have a box of thin mints and Samoas hidden in my closest under sweaters. I’m not sure how many they already ate but these are mine! It would be crazy to keep them in the kitchen and expect no one else to eat them.
It sounds like you just have bratty kids. Teenagers should be old enough to know not to devour a fancy box of chocolates that was someone else’s gift.