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Anonymous wrote:I will give the OP a brief benefit of the doubt by asking a follow up: OP what do you mean by “dressed up”. Do you mean a dress and heels or do you mean jeans and a cute sweater?

Your wife not wanting to perform for you (and a dress and heels for no particular reason is a performance, especially since they typically come with shaved or waxed legs and makeup and done hair) should absolutely not be something that “pisses you off”. That’s a drastic overreaction. If your frustration is over being limited in restaurant venues to places that consider sweats acceptable, you have my sympathy.

I'm the OP. I am not exactly sure what "performing" means. But if it means looking sexually enticing in public, I do not care about that. Nor do I care about heels or makeup. I have always thought makeup is kind of weird. But there comes a point where she has been wearing sweatpants every day for more than two years gets frustrating. I feel like its sort of a symbol of giving up on ever trying to look good for your partner. And it also has the unwanted side-effect of limiting date venues.

This sounds like a control issue for you, then. Explore why it’s important to you to be able to tell your wife what she can’t wear/how often she can’t wear something.

This advice does not make any sense. How does OP's wanting his wife to dress up sometimes = OP thinks it is important to tell his wife what she can wear. One is a preference, which we all have, and the other is a command. The two concepts are not remotely similar.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman, and really surprised by how many people jumped on the OP.. I disagree that A. sweatpants look good on anybody, B. OP can't express how he feels, and C. he can't ask for something to change so he feels better.

OP, I'd focus on the fact that your wife didn't want to get dressed up to go on a date. I would talk to her and say you're worried about her mental health because she doesn't want to go on a date with you, is she okay, does she need help finding a therapist to talk with, etc.

OP here. I apologize for not being clear. My wife will go out on a date, but a date at a place where sweatpants are generally frowned upon is no-go.

Thank you for clarifying. That's still an issue to be addressed. How far does this go? Would she refuse to attend a wedding because sweatpants would be frowned upon? A funeral? Jury duty (although I've seen defendants wearing sweatpants there)?

My wife would not wear sweatpants to a wedding, funeral, or job interview. She has not attended any of those events since COVID started. She has worn sweatpants to jury duty.

Sweatpants should stay in the home, to and from a workout, or you are recovering from some medical issue.

Otherwise they should not be worn in public. Same with PJ pants

I’m sorry the modern world is so hard for you.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

Lighten up, Francis...

I think nearly two years of pjs and sweats is enough. Time for a change

“Change” whatever you want on your own body. You don’t control anyone else’s.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman, and really surprised by how many people jumped on the OP.. I disagree that A. sweatpants look good on anybody, B. OP can't express how he feels, and C. he can't ask for something to change so he feels better.

OP, I'd focus on the fact that your wife didn't want to get dressed up to go on a date. I would talk to her and say you're worried about her mental health because she doesn't want to go on a date with you, is she okay, does she need help finding a therapist to talk with, etc.

OP here. I apologize for not being clear. My wife will go out on a date, but a date at a place where sweatpants are generally frowned upon is no-go.

Thank you for clarifying. That's still an issue to be addressed. How far does this go? Would she refuse to attend a wedding because sweatpants would be frowned upon? A funeral? Jury duty (although I've seen defendants wearing sweatpants there)?

My wife would not wear sweatpants to a wedding, funeral, or job interview. She has not attended any of those events since COVID started. She has worn sweatpants to jury duty.

Sweatpants should stay in the home, to and from a workout, or you are recovering from some medical issue.

Otherwise they should not be worn in public. Same with PJ pants

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Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

Lighten up, Francis...

I think nearly two years of pjs and sweats is enough. Time for a change

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Anonymous wrote:I am a female and I believe you have a right to be upset. No one wears sweats to a nice restaurant.

This. Why wear sweat pants unless you’re exercising or you are indulging in a lounge/rest day?

Because some people are different than you and like to be comfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:You're a man wearing a Gucci sweatshirt?

You didn't realize Gucci, Fendi, and other designer brands make clothes for men? Must be poor

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Anonymous wrote:I am a female and I believe you have a right to be upset. No one wears sweats to a nice restaurant.

This. Why wear sweat pants unless you’re exercising or you are indulging in a lounge/rest day?

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Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

Lighten up, Francis...

Anonymous wrote:I am sure this is a sensitive topic, but what the hell.

Both my wife and I are in good shape physically. We both work hard and have two kids in elementary school. But since she started working from home back when COVID started, she has never not worn sweatpants or pajamas. This has started to annoy me, perhaps unreasonably. Last week I asked "Hey, how about we dress up a little bit and go on a date?" The answer was like nope, I want to be comfortable, only wearing sweatpants. Am I being ridiculous that this is starting to piss me off?

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Anonymous wrote:Ew.

What’s your purpose or point?

Anonymous wrote:Ew.

Anonymous wrote:I am a female and I believe you have a right to be upset. No one wears sweats to a nice restaurant.