Tonight I gave my daughter strawberries & cantaloupe chunks with her dinner (salami slices, crackers, cucumber, cherry tomatoes)

My spouse and one kid do not like any fruit either, OP.

Spouse does, however, grab something else to eat the minute dinner is over (not fruit though- maybe a slice of cheese or like). It drives me crazy because I just cooked a nice meal. So I get where you are coming from, and I don’t think it is about the fruit specifically.

Anonymous wrote:If I want to eat an apple, I’m going to eat an apple, not more peas. Because peas and apples aren't fungible. Next question.

I'm going to start saying "Because peas and apples aren't fungible. Next question." as as a way to shut down anything I am over discussing. Love it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think it's weird that I am putting veggies from dinner in tupperware while DH is grabbing fruit? Why not actually eat a full dinner? You shouldn't be hungry right after dinner.

While I think it’s weird that you’ve apparently decided what “dinner…should” be — for someone else. Why not actually include fruit or even a fruit and cheese course as part of a “full dinner”?

This question is weird enough by my standards that I wonder if you and your DH have ever had a conversation about what to eat.

I'm not going to guess what fruit he is in the mood for. I'm not going to cup up apples then throw them out if he wants oranges. Seems pretty controlling to do that.

why can’t you ask him?

He can get it himself. Why would I ask him?

Because you asked us and complained about him. Maybe direct your communication his way instead?

I didn't complain. I did communicate with him and told him to stop eating fruit WITH dinner.

Why do you think you need to tell a grown man what to eat, and when?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think it's weird that I am putting veggies from dinner in tupperware while DH is grabbing fruit? Why not actually eat a full dinner? You shouldn't be hungry right after dinner.

You don't need to momager your husband

This is fascinating to me.

Similarities:

- I don’t really like fruit either (or any sweets)

- DH likes my cooking

- it’s very common for him to grab an apple or halo from the bowl after dinner (even if there are still dinner ingredients available)

Differences

-it never occurred to me to care. I just assumed he wanted the Apple / something sweet

-if I complained he’d probably flip TF out on me

Only on DCUM would this be 7 pages.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you offended? Do you think he doesn't like your cooking?

He loves my cooking.

That's what you think, OP!

I do not comment on what my husband eats. I prepare healthy food for every dinner and my family eats what they want of what is offered. I do not police how much any member eats.

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Anonymous wrote:When do YOU eat fruit, OP?

I don't. But I eat a TON of vegetables.

Tomatoes are fruit.

and squashes, eggplants, peppers, beans with the pod, peas in the pod, avocados, olives…….if you are talking biological vs culinary.

We wouldn't be so fat if more people at a piece of fruit after dinner instead of a bowl of ice cream.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think it's weird that I am putting veggies from dinner in tupperware while DH is grabbing fruit? Why not actually eat a full dinner? You shouldn't be hungry right after dinner.

It must be like a dessert to him. Maybe just start having fruit as a side dish at dinner.

Anonymous wrote:And this thread is a sign I’m done with dcum for the day. Too many whack jobs in this world. I can’t imagine having a partner who’d berate me for eating fruit after dinner. That dude’s life must totally suck.

I completely agree. Sheesh.