Anonymous
08/30/2022 03:15
Subject: Re:If your 3rd child was an oops baby.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, have you considered adoption? I know someone who adopted a baby from someone who didn't want a third child or an abortion.
Go away. You’re ridiculous. No adult woman with children is going to give up her third child for adoption. Get over yourself.
Not the PP of the adoption thread, but my best friend gave her third child for adoption. She's pretty well-off and could afford a third, she just didn't want to take care of it. No one cared.
This is horrifying. I watched that Netflix documentary on Chinese adoptees. They were all haunted by the idea that their biological parents just didn't want them - it was clearly painful to them on a daily basis. The only thing that seemed to comfort them was understanding how poor their parents were and what little choice they had in giving up their children. I cannot imagine the pain of being adopted and learning that your biological mom gave you up because she "just didn't want to take care" of you. That would mess up a person for life.
NP What exactly is your alternative? My SIL gave her third up for adoption. Would it have been better for her to raise him in horrible circumstances? Are you against adoption in general? You sound insane.
Ignore. This is the loon who pops up on every thread containing the word "adoption" to shriek "ADOPTION IS ABUSE!!" They were adopted themselves and are deeply mentally unwell.
Anonymous
08/30/2022 02:59
Subject: If your 3rd child was an oops baby.
You won’t be able to imagine your life without your child. Our oops baby brings us so much joy. We were stretched thin for a couple of years, wouldn’t change a thing.
Anonymous
08/28/2022 22:21
Subject: Re:If your 3rd child was an oops baby.
Man here - we had an oops baby and I was dead set against it. But when my wife said she was pregnant and apologized for the oops I could see she wanted to have the baby and that me raising the issue of abortion would have been very dumb on my part. It’s her body and she has a bigger vote than me so I was all in as best as I could. Five years later I am so happy we had the oops.