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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has the guts to try and touch me without my permission, they can come on. I have no problem dispatching someone. My body, my boundaries, my right to protect myself however I have to do it. I don't have to worry about that, though. I am not the kind of woman anyone wants to mess with. I look like exactly what I am: A dangerous woman who has lived too long and too hard and has seen too much. Don't allow yourself to be a victim, OP. No one has the right to grope you.

Of course they don't. But if i'm petite, and he is 220 pounds, and he corners me when I'm waiting for the bus, I can't "dispatch" him and it doesn't mean that I'm "allowing myself to be a victim",

A power imbalance simply exists here; that will never change.

If only there were something that could even out the odds?

Like men learning to respect women?

Anonymous wrote:As a man the issue is in a bar, college party, spring break, Jersey shore etc. between the ages of 18 and 30 in a bar full of singles men have to be aggressive and be the one approaching.

Groping, grabbing, kissing is totally wrong 100 percent. But women don’t say ok to kiss, hug me, grab their butt. So as a man it is risky business.

Usually I am respectful but once my friends and I had a “numbers contest” another time a kissing contest.

Meaning who can get most phone numbers or kiss most girls.

Kissing wise I did 13 women. Some in under 5 seconds. Not one had an issue.

One women I went straight in not a single word.

Maybe I only do my moves in singles places with alcohol. And I was single and going for single girls with 1-3 years of my age I never got slapped

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 50 year old dude. Closest I ever came to being groped was one Halloween in college where my costume was "flasher." I went to the bars with a long coat on (shorts underneath and no shirt.) On the street, as I was leaving, some girl came up behind me and lifted up my coat to see how committed I was to the costume.

That was fun for me, but I totally understand why the dynamic is way different in the situations being described in this thread.

The fact that you dressed up for halloween as someone who exposes himself to women (aka, a sex offender), explains a lot, about how so many women view being groped as just something they have to deal with. It's not funny to dress up as a rapist, and it's not funny to dress up as a dude who masturbates at people as they jog by, or a dude who flashes his junk at little kids getting off the school bus. Just, none of it is funny. Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:Hundreds of times when I've been at a bar or club or at a party.

In those places, that's being friendly.

No, it is not. If you're a man, how would you feel about a random man touching your crotch while you're out having a drink with some friends?

this! How do men think this is ok? Is it a power thing? Do they get off on touching another person without their permission? Are they that desperate?

women don't seem to realize that most men don't mind being treated like a piece of meat.

But, if the man was consistently grabbed in the crotch by a really ugly women, he would probably get upset. Lucky for them, they are strong enough to protect themselves. Women, unfortunately, don't.

Women should mace any guy who grabs her.

Few guys want to be treated like a piece of meat by an ugly guy who’s bigger and stronger than they are.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has the guts to try and touch me without my permission, they can come on. I have no problem dispatching someone. My body, my boundaries, my right to protect myself however I have to do it. I don't have to worry about that, though. I am not the kind of woman anyone wants to mess with. I look like exactly what I am: A dangerous woman who has lived too long and too hard and has seen too much. Don't allow yourself to be a victim, OP. No one has the right to grope you.

Of course they don't. But if i'm petite, and he is 220 pounds, and he corners me when I'm waiting for the bus, I can't "dispatch" him and it doesn't mean that I'm "allowing myself to be a victim",

A power imbalance simply exists here; that will never change.

If only there were something that could even out the odds?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has the guts to try and touch me without my permission, they can come on. I have no problem dispatching someone. My body, my boundaries, my right to protect myself however I have to do it. I don't have to worry about that, though. I am not the kind of woman anyone wants to mess with. I look like exactly what I am: A dangerous woman who has lived too long and too hard and has seen too much. Don't allow yourself to be a victim, OP. No one has the right to grope you.

Of course they don't. But if i'm petite, and he is 220 pounds, and he corners me when I'm waiting for the bus, I can't "dispatch" him and it doesn't mean that I'm "allowing myself to be a victim",

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who has the guts to try and touch me without my permission, they can come on. I have no problem dispatching someone. My body, my boundaries, my right to protect myself however I have to do it. I don't have to worry about that, though. I am not the kind of woman anyone wants to mess with. I look like exactly what I am: A dangerous woman who has lived too long and too hard and has seen too much. Don't allow yourself to be a victim, OP. No one has the right to grope you.