The new thing is not to comment on weightloss. I have lost over 30 from my worst and in the past 2 years 20 pounds. Thank goodness for people who march to their own drummer-the bunt friend who offends people, the parent with out a filter because they scream out "Wow you lost a lot of weight. Ya look great!" A friend's kid spit out "you look used to be fat and now you're thin" and I was like "God bless you!" One acquaintance demurely mentioned it and gave a complement, but otherwise *crickets*.

Anonymous wrote:I lost 18 pounds since March. I’m back to a size 4 and all my old work clothes fit again. We had an offsite last week and one of my colleagues kept saying how phenomenal I looked. Loved every minute. It was hard work, and it still is to maintain it. it was incredibly validating to hear positive feedback.

Yay! -- Good for you. Keep it up!

I lost 18 pounds since March. I’m back to a size 4 and all my old work clothes fit again. We had an offsite last week and one of my colleagues kept saying how phenomenal I looked. Loved every minute. It was hard work, and it still is to maintain it. it was incredibly validating to hear positive feedback.

I am thinner than most people, but in a normal (i.e., healthy) weight range.

People don't hesitate to tell me that I'm too thin (I'm not) and to encourage me to eat more and to make fun of my healthy eating habits -- I usually don't have room for dessert, and if I do, just eat a little.

Apparently, thin shaming is still OK.

I lost 60 pounds right before the pandemic and no one I saw IRL commented -- only people who saw pictures of me (like on Instagram) said anything. It was actually kind of funny.

I lost 60 pounds last year. You bet people comment. They say your so skinny. It's rude.

15 lbs. on your frame may not make a big difference -- it really doesn't on me.

Secondly, people just aren't as into your body size as you think.

I don't comment on anyone's weight UNLESS it is someone I am close with and I know for a fact they have been purposely trying to lose weight. But otherwise? I think it's weird and it's not always the compliment you think it is. You just never know what people are going through. I have Crohn's disease and once lost 40 pounds in 2 months. Yup, people commented. "Have you lost weight? You look great!" Umm, no, I don't look great (do you not see the dark circles under my eyes?!) and I lost weight because I get explosive, bloody diarrhea every day and can barely keep a piece of bread down....don't mention it.

I had a friend do this to me and I hated the attention and felt like I wasn’t worthy before because she went on and on about how much better I looked and what a transformation. It was about 15-20 lbs. I just wanted to crawl under a rock rather than bask in some glory but that’s me.

I don’t comment on someone’s size. It feels awkward like I’m making them feel they weren’t petty or whatever until now. I’ll just say wow! You look amazing tonight or whatever.

I try not to comment on people’s weight. I have a colleague who had lost at least 30 lbs over the last year and looks great but I feel awkward saying anything. If it came up in conversation, like she mentioned her workout routine or something, I would definitely congratulate her.

Anonymous wrote:Interesting. I would have thought that people would want to acknowledge someone more. Not a stranger but colleagues and friends. Didn’t realize that weight loss was such a touchy subject to be honest.

Touchy?! Do you live under a rock.

What goes hand in hand with fat shaming is thin praising. It's the SAME idea, in 2 different delivery methods. Fat=Bad and Thin=Good. Our attitudes about this cause an enormous amount of hurt.