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Anonymous wrote:Do people actually think they are superior because they work in an office, using their skills to help some ultra-wealthy person get even richer? I mean, who is smarter, the stay at home wife baking bread and reading novels or the Amazon corporate employee busting their ass to make 100K a year and enrich Bezos in the process?

The stay at home wife baking bread needs the corporate employee husband more than he needs her. With no kids, no alimony. She has no leg to stand on if they divorce.

Uffff the fear of a bad marriage and cheating husband!!! Is that what fuels the working woman? Ladies, here is my advice. Choose your partner carefully and leave the marriage if the person is a jerk.

It seems like all of you are earning to pay your DH to stay with you. Not worth it imho.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s common in other countries. As long as it works for the couple, why do you care?

I’m just curious how they can do it without one side feeling resentful.

I know many couples like this. They met when they were students, often in a professional graduate program. Both worked and when the kids started coming, they decided to have a stay-at-home parent to manage the home front. All of them are still married and happily looking forward their golden years.

This is not what the thread is about. You're talking about women who worked at first, but then stayed home to raise their kids. This thread is about women who get married (assuming in 20s or 30s), don't have kids, and just prefer not to work, but would rather spend their time taking care of the house, cooking, etc., and assuming no extenuating circumstances like a major health issue.

I think women who initially worked but then stayed home to raise their kids are in a different category. First of all, once the kids are grown, it's not as if it's easy to go back to the workforce in the job you left 18 years ago. They may not want a job just for the sake of just having a job... why would they want to flip burgers at McDonald's when they're at a point in their lives with they have significant savings and are very financially well off (albeit due to their DH's work)? I wonder if it were easier to get back in, if more women would choose to go back into their old careers?

I would!!!

OP I generally see what you’re saying. But isn’t it weird that for white women a mere 70 years ago, this was the societal expectation??? And now we look at women like that and think they’re lazy or entitled or have some mystery illness.

If your spouse is not resentful when you were a SAHW (for whatever reason) why would he be resentful if you are a SAHM? My DH has high expectations for our kids. He wants them to be healthy, happy, well socialized, high achieving, passionate, secure, connected, enriched, fulfilled, moral...and my one job is to make that happen. He is immensely grateful as to how our kids have turned out.

As for going back to work? A hard pass to that. First of all, it is WORK. It is taking away from the finite time I have on this Earth away from my family, myself, my relationships and my hobbies. Every single day, I am giving the best time of my day to someone else. And for what? I am basically selling something instead of making the Earth a better place. Why would I do that if I did not need the money. Also, US is not that great for working women and working moms. No, Thank You. There is a reason why women left the workplace in droves during the pandemic. Not worth it for me. Of course, this is only possible if you have the finances to swing this.

If you have no skills or capital to contribute to any organization, then I can see why you would take the path of least resistance and just stay home with your ‘hobbies’ even after your kids have flown the nest.

My skills and energy are for the betterment of my children and family first and foremost. I don't need the money so I don't work. I don't need the money so I can choose my pet causes and volunteer my time for that. I am better educated than most people I have met (yes, lots of college degrees and most of my college education has been through merit scholarship and through my employers. I truly feel that the fact that I have raised two great kids is the best work I have done. Most people work because they need to pay the bills. No one is working because they are Mother Teresa.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is there this idea that everyone needs to work? Let's have a Universal Basic Income and see how creative people become. and healthy. I bet it would be a second renaissance.

Who exactly do you think will fund this income if everyone doesn’t work?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s common in other countries. As long as it works for the couple, why do you care?

I’m just curious how they can do it without one side feeling resentful.

I know many couples like this. They met when they were students, often in a professional graduate program. Both worked and when the kids started coming, they decided to have a stay-at-home parent to manage the home front. All of them are still married and happily looking forward their golden years.

This is not what the thread is about. You're talking about women who worked at first, but then stayed home to raise their kids. This thread is about women who get married (assuming in 20s or 30s), don't have kids, and just prefer not to work, but would rather spend their time taking care of the house, cooking, etc., and assuming no extenuating circumstances like a major health issue.

I think women who initially worked but then stayed home to raise their kids are in a different category. First of all, once the kids are grown, it's not as if it's easy to go back to the workforce in the job you left 18 years ago. They may not want a job just for the sake of just having a job... why would they want to flip burgers at McDonald's when they're at a point in their lives with they have significant savings and are very financially well off (albeit due to their DH's work)? I wonder if it were easier to get back in, if more women would choose to go back into their old careers?

I would!!!

OP I generally see what you’re saying. But isn’t it weird that for white women a mere 70 years ago, this was the societal expectation??? And now we look at women like that and think they’re lazy or entitled or have some mystery illness.

If your spouse is not resentful when you were a SAHW (for whatever reason) why would he be resentful if you are a SAHM? My DH has high expectations for our kids. He wants them to be healthy, happy, well socialized, high achieving, passionate, secure, connected, enriched, fulfilled, moral...and my one job is to make that happen. He is immensely grateful as to how our kids have turned out.

As for going back to work? A hard pass to that. First of all, it is WORK. It is taking away from the finite time I have on this Earth away from my family, myself, my relationships and my hobbies. Every single day, I am giving the best time of my day to someone else. And for what? I am basically selling something instead of making the Earth a better place. Why would I do that if I did not need the money. Also, US is not that great for working women and working moms. No, Thank You. There is a reason why women left the workplace in droves during the pandemic. Not worth it for me. Of course, this is only possible if you have the finances to swing this.

If you have no skills or capital to contribute to any organization, then I can see why you would take the path of least resistance and just stay home with your ‘hobbies’ even after your kids have flown the nest.

My skills and energy are for the betterment of my children and family first and foremost. I don't need the money so I don't work. I don't need the money so I can choose my pet causes and volunteer my time for that. I am better educated than most people I have met (yes, lots of college degrees and most of my college education has been through merit scholarship and through my employers. I truly feel that the fact that I have raised two great kids is the best work I have done. Most people work because they need to pay the bills. No one is working because they are Mother Teresa.

Anonymous wrote:Stay at home wife with no kids who’s creating content for OnlyFans could be making tons of money

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Anonymous wrote:Do people actually think they are superior because they work in an office, using their skills to help some ultra-wealthy person get even richer? I mean, who is smarter, the stay at home wife baking bread and reading novels or the Amazon corporate employee busting their ass to make 100K a year and enrich Bezos in the process?

The stay at home wife baking bread needs the corporate employee husband more than he needs her. With no kids, no alimony. She has no leg to stand on if they divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:Do people actually think they are superior because they work in an office, using their skills to help some ultra-wealthy person get even richer? I mean, who is smarter, the stay at home wife baking bread and reading novels or the Amazon corporate employee busting their ass to make 100K a year and enrich Bezos in the process?

The stay at home wife baking bread needs the corporate employee husband more than he needs her. With no kids, no alimony. She has no leg to stand on if they divorce.

Anonymous wrote:Do people actually think they are superior because they work in an office, using their skills to help some ultra-wealthy person get even richer? I mean, who is smarter, the stay at home wife baking bread and reading novels or the Amazon corporate employee busting their ass to make 100K a year and enrich Bezos in the process?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s common in other countries. As long as it works for the couple, why do you care?

I’m just curious how they can do it without one side feeling resentful.

I know many couples like this. They met when they were students, often in a professional graduate program. Both worked and when the kids started coming, they decided to have a stay-at-home parent to manage the home front. All of them are still married and happily looking forward their golden years.

This is not what the thread is about. You're talking about women who worked at first, but then stayed home to raise their kids. This thread is about women who get married (assuming in 20s or 30s), don't have kids, and just prefer not to work, but would rather spend their time taking care of the house, cooking, etc., and assuming no extenuating circumstances like a major health issue.

I think women who initially worked but then stayed home to raise their kids are in a different category. First of all, once the kids are grown, it's not as if it's easy to go back to the workforce in the job you left 18 years ago. They may not want a job just for the sake of just having a job... why would they want to flip burgers at McDonald's when they're at a point in their lives with they have significant savings and are very financially well off (albeit due to their DH's work)? I wonder if it were easier to get back in, if more women would choose to go back into their old careers?

I would!!!

OP I generally see what you’re saying. But isn’t it weird that for white women a mere 70 years ago, this was the societal expectation??? And now we look at women like that and think they’re lazy or entitled or have some mystery illness.

If your spouse is not resentful when you were a SAHW (for whatever reason) why would he be resentful if you are a SAHM? My DH has high expectations for our kids. He wants them to be healthy, happy, well socialized, high achieving, passionate, secure, connected, enriched, fulfilled, moral...and my one job is to make that happen. He is immensely grateful as to how our kids have turned out.

As for going back to work? A hard pass to that. First of all, it is WORK. It is taking away from the finite time I have on this Earth away from my family, myself, my relationships and my hobbies. Every single day, I am giving the best time of my day to someone else. And for what? I am basically selling something instead of making the Earth a better place. Why would I do that if I did not need the money. Also, US is not that great for working women and working moms. No, Thank You. There is a reason why women left the workplace in droves during the pandemic. Not worth it for me. Of course, this is only possible if you have the finances to swing this.

If you have no skills or capital to contribute to any organization, then I can see why you would take the path of least resistance and just stay home with your ‘hobbies’ even after your kids have flown the nest.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is there this idea that everyone needs to work? Let's have a Universal Basic Income and see how creative people become. and healthy. I bet it would be a second renaissance.

Who exactly do you think will fund this income if everyone doesn’t work?

UBI isn’t about giving people so much income that they can get all their wants met without having to work. It’s one of the few ideas that both leftist and libertarian economists agree upon. Check it out, it’s fascinating and I hope there is more political will for it soon.

Reread what the first person wrote. They said “why is there this idea that everyone needs to work”? If no one is working who is going to fund UBI?