Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for everyone commenting, the conclusion that marrying in your 20s is superior but it's hard to find a good partner.

It’s widely covered in media that dating as adults is MUCH harder than it used to be, and that dating apps are almost corrosive in the effort to get married.

If you want a serious partner, Princeton mom was right: college is the time to find that life mate. There will be no other time when you can date with less risk (like dating your coworker or neighbor), and high quality curated partners. Maybe grad school is a bit better but GenZ got the memo — settle down in college or look for a decade or more in the dating desert.

+1

I disagree. It’s true there are a lot of single prospects at college, but there’s some risk to marrying someone at that age. Most people don’t know who they are at that age or what they want. Plenty of men end up with alcohol problems that looks like regular college age drinking at the time. If you end up divorced you have baggage and then are later judged for a failed marriage. If you’re a confident, smart woman you don’t need to settle down at that age over the fear you might not find someone.

But I’m a happily married woman who could also be happy single. I have a great career and hobbies. I don’t need marriage and kids to be happy. If it’s your end all he all then yes make sure to have a ring on your finger when you graduate undergrad.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s happening. A family friend’s 22 yo daughter is engaged as of last week.

I'm a millennial and knew plenty of people who were engaged at 22. It's pretty common spring semester of college. This doesn't mean wider demographic changes are happening.

As always, anecdote =/= data.

Agree. Very common.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The millennial Fox News gal just announced she has cancer at 36. This is why young people need to have kids in their 20s. Everyone is going to get cancer. Life is fragile. Don’t waste it dating around and being handcuffed to your job.

???

You seem strongly triggered by this whole thing. Are you having a stroke or something?

Everyone doesn't get cancer and those who do are usually older ( with real stats to back that up.) Not 36.

Cancer rates are way, way up in millennials.

"Way, way up" from the low numbers younger people usually get cancer is still a relatively low number. Look at the y-axis of whatever chart you are looking at. I'm betting that number is still small even though it has changed from previous generations.

TikTok probirthers really aren’t that great at math.

Anonymous wrote:It’s happening. A family friend’s 22 yo daughter is engaged as of last week.

I'm a millennial and knew plenty of people who were engaged at 22. It's pretty common spring semester of college. This doesn't mean wider demographic changes are happening.

As always, anecdote =/= data.

It’s happening. A family friend’s 22 yo daughter is engaged as of last week.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for everyone commenting, the conclusion that marrying in your 20s is superior but it's hard to find a good partner.

It’s widely covered in media that dating as adults is MUCH harder than it used to be, and that dating apps are almost corrosive in the effort to get married.

If you want a serious partner, Princeton mom was right: college is the time to find that life mate. There will be no other time when you can date with less risk (like dating your coworker or neighbor), and high quality curated partners. Maybe grad school is a bit better but GenZ got the memo — settle down in college or look for a decade or more in the dating desert.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The millennial Fox News gal just announced she has cancer at 36. This is why young people need to have kids in their 20s. Everyone is going to get cancer. Life is fragile. Don’t waste it dating around and being handcuffed to your job.

???

You seem strongly triggered by this whole thing. Are you having a stroke or something?

Everyone doesn't get cancer and those who do are usually older ( with real stats to back that up.) Not 36.

Cancer rates are way, way up in millennials.

"Way, way up" from the low numbers younger people usually get cancer is still a relatively low number. Look at the y-axis of whatever chart you are looking at. I'm betting that number is still small even though it has changed from previous generations.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The millennial Fox News gal just announced she has cancer at 36. This is why young people need to have kids in their 20s. Everyone is going to get cancer. Life is fragile. Don’t waste it dating around and being handcuffed to your job.

???

You seem strongly triggered by this whole thing. Are you having a stroke or something?

Everyone doesn't get cancer and those who do are usually older ( with real stats to back that up.) Not 36.

Seriously. This poster reminds me of this Instagram post I saw from a pregnant influencer. For whatever reason she announced her first pregnancy at 34 and people felt the need to comment that's so old, you'll be 35 by the time he's born, you shouldn't have kids at all, etc. One person actually said "Having a child at your age was cruel. You'll be in a wheelchair by the time they graduate."

She made a video response and was like, "I will be 53 when my child graduates high school. If I am in a wheelchair at 53, something has gone horribly, horribly wrong."

My mom was 37 when I was born. I'm 37 now and my mom's not in a wheelchair, she still does a 3 mile walk every morning.

My grandmothers also both had babies into their 40s, so this idea that it's just milennials who had babies.older is just silly.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such an odd thread.

People should marry the right partner when they feel it is the right time. I don't think marrying at 18 is a good idea, nor do I think delaying it until 40 because of prolonged adolescence.

I don't see much difference between marrying at 26 vs 36, save for a little bit of a decline in fertility.

By little you mean basically all of it and in many cases literally all of it? But sure, tomayto, tomahto. Not to mention how bleak the dating pool is in your mid 30s, how both men's and women's looks crash in their 30s (God's signal you're losing or have lost your fertility), you missed out ten years of building equity in a home together, and that's ten years on the back end of your life together where you'll miss kids and grandkids growing up.

God has nothing to do with any of this you uneducated idiot. People’s looks don’t crash in their 30s. Cheezus. So much stupidity in your posts

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Discouraging marriages and encouraging a decade of hookups is another form of indoctrination.

Don’t forget glorifying abortions. I think it boils down to wanting everyone as broken as they are. Imagine being triggered on a visceral level when you see two beautiful young adults getting married. These people are sick, miserable, and dark hearted.

F you re “glorifying abortions”. Nobody glorified abortion. Women should have the right to make the decision themselves and not have moronic weirdos obsessed with others sexual organs make the decisions for them. Freaks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The millennial Fox News gal just announced she has cancer at 36. This is why young people need to have kids in their 20s. Everyone is going to get cancer. Life is fragile. Don’t waste it dating around and being handcuffed to your job.

???

You seem strongly triggered by this whole thing. Are you having a stroke or something?

Everyone doesn't get cancer and those who do are usually older ( with real stats to back that up.) Not 36.

Cancer rates are way, way up in millennials.

https://www.yalemedicine.org/news/early-onset-cancer-in-younger-people-on-the-rise

https://www.mskcc.org/news/why-is-cancer-rising-among-young-adults

You can't let fear drive your life but do educate yourself for making informed decisions.

https://www.michiganmedicine.org/health-lab/why-are-more-young-people-being-diagnosed-cancer

Anonymous wrote:Not just ovarian aging, brain aging as well. though humans age dramatically in two bursts – at 44 and 60, changes begin at 30.

"Then, in our 30s and 40s, the brain starts to shrink(link is external and opens in a new window), with the shrinkage rate increasing even more by age 60."

https://www.publichealth.columbia.edu/news/changes-occur-aging-brain-what-happens-when-we-get-older#:~:text=Then%2C%20in%20our%2030s%20and,even%20more%20by%20age%2060.

LOL, I’d argue the best evidence of brain shrinkage is eight here in this thread.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The millennial Fox News gal just announced she has cancer at 36. This is why young people need to have kids in their 20s. Everyone is going to get cancer. Life is fragile. Don’t waste it dating around and being handcuffed to your job.

???

You seem strongly triggered by this whole thing. Are you having a stroke or something?

Everyone doesn't get cancer and those who do are usually older ( with real stats to back that up.) Not 36.

Seriously. This poster reminds me of this Instagram post I saw from a pregnant influencer. For whatever reason she announced her first pregnancy at 34 and people felt the need to comment that's so old, you'll be 35 by the time he's born, you shouldn't have kids at all, etc. One person actually said "Having a child at your age was cruel. You'll be in a wheelchair by the time they graduate."

She made a video response and was like, "I will be 53 when my child graduates high school. If I am in a wheelchair at 53, something has gone horribly, horribly wrong."