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Anonymous wrote:This story is so sad. I feel like girls especially have it drilled in their head to look out for their friends and yet this sort of thing happens. I wonder if she had known the boy for a few days so had an illusion of safety and so did her friends.

I really don't like blaming the friends. She clearly wanted to stay behind with him. It was after 5am and the friends wanted to go to bed at last. If she didn't want to go with them, please tell me specifically what they should have done.

They should have stepped in, took her by the arm and led her back to the room to sleep. I had to do this to a friend (we were in our 30's). She was drunk and some guy just "knew" he was hooking up that night. Yes, she was flirting and "all over him", but no way was that happening on "my watch". I came between them, told him to please move along because it wasn't happening tonight and took her back with me to our hotel room. Friends look out for each other. Sadly, her "friends" failed her that morning.

If her friends knew she intended to have sex with the boy, why did they not come by her room or the beach in the morning to see how it was going?

Instead, they just went on a day trip, and gave her privacy.

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Do you want your friends coming by your room to see how sex with a random stranger is going?

Right? People here are out of touch.

The only person to blame for this tragedy is the girl. She made a dumb, bad choice and has paid the ultimate price.

It's devastating and maddening, yes, but the blame cannot be shifted to the hotel, her friends, or the guy she was with.

I can think of a dozen or more similar dumb, bad choices I made at her age, but I somehow survived. Luck was on my side each of those times. Here are just a few:
1. met a guy day 1 of spring break, hours of landing & checking into our resort when I was 19, and ditched dinner with my girlfriends to hook up with him
2. went night swimming in Punta Cana when I was 18 (or 20 - not sure which trip I did this)
3. met a local in DR & agreed to go out on his boat with him at night to look at the stars
4. got in a sketchy unmarked van in Chinatown with my friend while shopping for knockoffs. The van drove around the streets while we "shopped" inside. On the same trip, was guided down an alleyway to a secret entrance and walked through a literal sweatshop up 6 flights of rickety stairs to shop for knockoffs.
5. got super drunk in OCMD during beach week fresh out of HS & had to go to the hospital - my parents never found out.
6. was a passenger in a car multiple times with a driver who blew just under .08 using their little pocket breathalyzer b/c we didn't realize that .06 is still freaking impaired (and that those pocket breathalyzers aren't super accurate)

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Anonymous wrote:Her friends really failed her.

By allowing her autonomy and giving her the privacy she requested?

I agree blaming the friends is uncool. They had no reason to think she'd do something dumb like swim in rough seas at night.

+1 They thought she wanted a harmless hookup and left her to it. Her tragic error in judgment is not on them.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's highly likely the poor girl drowned. You can see from the video both she and the boy are staggering as they walked. Likely it began as a hook-up, they were both drunk, they went into the water, and the power of the waves dragged them in different directions. He made it back to shore, she did not. He didn't realize she didn't make it out of the water, because he was drunk. Have any of you ever been that drunk college kid, or seen a drunk college kid? At that age kids make really dumb choices, like entering the ocean when they're so drunk they can barely walk.

Accusing the boy of foul play is misplaced.
Of course her family and friends are upset. But accusing the boy of murder without any basis is wrong.

Well i am surprised her body hasn’t washed from the shore . It’s been almost a week.

It’s like people don’t understand how tides and currents work. Why do you think they never found the airplane that crashed over the ocean all those years ago? Things don’t just nicely wash up on shore all the time.

Clearly YOU don't know how tides and currents work, poster.

A plane falling into the middle of the Indian Ocean hundreds of miles from a shoreline is not in any way comparable to a human body that is alleged to have gone under the water within a very short distance of shore.

A body that drowns first sinks, then within days the decomposition gasses will raise it back up to the surface and it absolutely WILL be carried by tides and currents to a nearby shoreline. People who live and work on bodies of water, and especially law enforcement/search and rescue folks are well educated on these things, and they are right to be concerned when an allegedly drowned person cannot be located after extensive searching with recognition of recent tides/currents.

By comparison, decomposing bodies trapped inside a steel airplane or boat hull will not be subject to such laws of nature and will continue to decompose trapped inside that obstacle.

Or it can be stuck in ocean debris or worse. WE don’t know.

Or carried out to sea. "While known for its beauty, Arena Gorda Beach does not have a prominent coral reef directly in front of it, unlike Bavaro Beach, which is protected by reefs and has calm waters."

A guest at the same hotel that day said the sea was extra-rough and that staff didn't tell people not to go in, just put up red flags.

https://youtu.be/rlesSHs7xyE?si=JHRi-KOQuUcWdM4c

Four tourists drowned at that beach in January, clearly not safe for swimming. A couple of drunk kids going in at night? Not good.

That’s why the red flags are there yet you have drunks getting into the waters.

Would they have seen the red flags in the dark? Serious question.

They were probably saw them in day light. Yes on a deserted beach you can probably see a flag. But really, do you think night time ocean swimming after drinking is ever safe or advisable?

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Anonymous wrote:Her friends really failed her.

By allowing her autonomy and giving her the privacy she requested?

You are in a foreign country, you do not let your friends go off with a stranger with at least a cell phone or way to contact. And she requested privacy while drunk or high? Yeah no I’m not abiding by your request. I stand by my assessment that those were lousy friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's highly likely the poor girl drowned. You can see from the video both she and the boy are staggering as they walked. Likely it began as a hook-up, they were both drunk, they went into the water, and the power of the waves dragged them in different directions. He made it back to shore, she did not. He didn't realize she didn't make it out of the water, because he was drunk. Have any of you ever been that drunk college kid, or seen a drunk college kid? At that age kids make really dumb choices, like entering the ocean when they're so drunk they can barely walk.

Accusing the boy of foul play is misplaced.
Of course her family and friends are upset. But accusing the boy of murder without any basis is wrong.

Well i am surprised her body hasn’t washed from the shore . It’s been almost a week.

It’s like people don’t understand how tides and currents work. Why do you think they never found the airplane that crashed over the ocean all those years ago? Things don’t just nicely wash up on shore all the time.

Clearly YOU don't know how tides and currents work, poster.

A plane falling into the middle of the Indian Ocean hundreds of miles from a shoreline is not in any way comparable to a human body that is alleged to have gone under the water within a very short distance of shore.

A body that drowns first sinks, then within days the decomposition gasses will raise it back up to the surface and it absolutely WILL be carried by tides and currents to a nearby shoreline. People who live and work on bodies of water, and especially law enforcement/search and rescue folks are well educated on these things, and they are right to be concerned when an allegedly drowned person cannot be located after extensive searching with recognition of recent tides/currents.

By comparison, decomposing bodies trapped inside a steel airplane or boat hull will not be subject to such laws of nature and will continue to decompose trapped inside that obstacle.

Or it can be stuck in ocean debris or worse. WE don’t know.

Or carried out to sea. "While known for its beauty, Arena Gorda Beach does not have a prominent coral reef directly in front of it, unlike Bavaro Beach, which is protected by reefs and has calm waters."

A guest at the same hotel that day said the sea was extra-rough and that staff didn't tell people not to go in, just put up red flags.

https://youtu.be/rlesSHs7xyE?si=JHRi-KOQuUcWdM4c

Four tourists drowned at that beach in January, clearly not safe for swimming. A couple of drunk kids going in at night? Not good.

That’s why the red flags are there yet you have drunks getting into the waters.

Would they have seen the red flags in the dark? Serious question.

You don’t think they knew that beach had red flags before? 😒

Quite possibly they had forgotten that small detail in their drunken state.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's highly likely the poor girl drowned. You can see from the video both she and the boy are staggering as they walked. Likely it began as a hook-up, they were both drunk, they went into the water, and the power of the waves dragged them in different directions. He made it back to shore, she did not. He didn't realize she didn't make it out of the water, because he was drunk. Have any of you ever been that drunk college kid, or seen a drunk college kid? At that age kids make really dumb choices, like entering the ocean when they're so drunk they can barely walk.

Accusing the boy of foul play is misplaced.
Of course her family and friends are upset. But accusing the boy of murder without any basis is wrong.

Well i am surprised her body hasn’t washed from the shore . It’s been almost a week.

It’s like people don’t understand how tides and currents work. Why do you think they never found the airplane that crashed over the ocean all those years ago? Things don’t just nicely wash up on shore all the time.

Clearly YOU don't know how tides and currents work, poster.

A plane falling into the middle of the Indian Ocean hundreds of miles from a shoreline is not in any way comparable to a human body that is alleged to have gone under the water within a very short distance of shore.

A body that drowns first sinks, then within days the decomposition gasses will raise it back up to the surface and it absolutely WILL be carried by tides and currents to a nearby shoreline. People who live and work on bodies of water, and especially law enforcement/search and rescue folks are well educated on these things, and they are right to be concerned when an allegedly drowned person cannot be located after extensive searching with recognition of recent tides/currents.

By comparison, decomposing bodies trapped inside a steel airplane or boat hull will not be subject to such laws of nature and will continue to decompose trapped inside that obstacle.

Or it can be stuck in ocean debris or worse. WE don’t know.

Or carried out to sea. "While known for its beauty, Arena Gorda Beach does not have a prominent coral reef directly in front of it, unlike Bavaro Beach, which is protected by reefs and has calm waters."

A guest at the same hotel that day said the sea was extra-rough and that staff didn't tell people not to go in, just put up red flags.

https://youtu.be/rlesSHs7xyE?si=JHRi-KOQuUcWdM4c

Four tourists drowned at that beach in January, clearly not safe for swimming. A couple of drunk kids going in at night? Not good.

That’s why the red flags are there yet you have drunks getting into the waters.

Would they have seen the red flags in the dark? Serious question.

You don’t think they knew that beach had red flags before? 😒

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Anonymous wrote:Her friends really failed her.

By allowing her autonomy and giving her the privacy she requested?

I agree blaming the friends is uncool. They had no reason to think she'd do something dumb like swim in rough seas at night.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's highly likely the poor girl drowned. You can see from the video both she and the boy are staggering as they walked. Likely it began as a hook-up, they were both drunk, they went into the water, and the power of the waves dragged them in different directions. He made it back to shore, she did not. He didn't realize she didn't make it out of the water, because he was drunk. Have any of you ever been that drunk college kid, or seen a drunk college kid? At that age kids make really dumb choices, like entering the ocean when they're so drunk they can barely walk.

Accusing the boy of foul play is misplaced.
Of course her family and friends are upset. But accusing the boy of murder without any basis is wrong.

Well i am surprised her body hasn’t washed from the shore . It’s been almost a week.

It’s like people don’t understand how tides and currents work. Why do you think they never found the airplane that crashed over the ocean all those years ago? Things don’t just nicely wash up on shore all the time.

Clearly YOU don't know how tides and currents work, poster.

A plane falling into the middle of the Indian Ocean hundreds of miles from a shoreline is not in any way comparable to a human body that is alleged to have gone under the water within a very short distance of shore.

A body that drowns first sinks, then within days the decomposition gasses will raise it back up to the surface and it absolutely WILL be carried by tides and currents to a nearby shoreline. People who live and work on bodies of water, and especially law enforcement/search and rescue folks are well educated on these things, and they are right to be concerned when an allegedly drowned person cannot be located after extensive searching with recognition of recent tides/currents.

By comparison, decomposing bodies trapped inside a steel airplane or boat hull will not be subject to such laws of nature and will continue to decompose trapped inside that obstacle.

Or it can be stuck in ocean debris or worse. WE don’t know.

Or carried out to sea. "While known for its beauty, Arena Gorda Beach does not have a prominent coral reef directly in front of it, unlike Bavaro Beach, which is protected by reefs and has calm waters."

A guest at the same hotel that day said the sea was extra-rough and that staff didn't tell people not to go in, just put up red flags.

https://youtu.be/rlesSHs7xyE?si=JHRi-KOQuUcWdM4c

Red flags universally mean do not go in and if you do, you're swimming at your own risk.

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And her parents set her up with the good decision making skillsets, right?

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Anonymous wrote:OMG her friends went on a day trip without even looking for her?!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/amp/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

Have a bad feeling about this huge guy, could be another Natalie Holloway.

Claiming she was not seen out of water and that she was, which is it? If he saw her after the water, where is she?!!!

Well, her "friends" aren't much better.

We need to do a better job teaching kids how to identify who your friends are and how to be better friends. I feel terrible for this family. Tragic.

Who are you to judge that?

Well, let's see...They hadn't seen their friend since around 4:00 a.m. and didn't know where she was in a foreign country but thought they'd just go on a day trip?!

How were they going to reach her if 1. She didn't have her phone on her, 2. Or they tried reaching her but she didn't pick up maybe because they thought she was still sleeping or with that guy? 3. Things werent known at time of them going on a day trip? Didn't read all the reports to know if any of those questions were answered.

Was the guy known to them on that trip prior to that night? One of the young woman's friend could have stayed with her tho on the beach (being a better friend). Does anyone actually know what occurred before the friends left to go back to the hotel and her staying on beach?

No. Friend's job was to tell her why this is a bad idea and to inform resort desk that she didn't come back at night before going for the scheduled trip. She wasn't required to put herself in danger at night at beach in a foreign country with a drunk male.

Kids go to places like DR to be irresponsibly drunk and for casual hook ups. With that implicit understanding, one's friends will not stand in the way of actualizing that goal.
Sorry, DR is not Disneyland.

Exactly. I think a number of posters on this thread did not have traditional American college experiences.

Plenty of people on here let their kids go to beach week or have parties where they serve alcohol. A kid is sitting in Arlignton county jail right now after killing his friend from a drunk driving accident whole being so completely hammered and “supervising” a freshman high school party.

Most parents DO NOT CONDONE this. I never did. My adult sons are very successful and never felt the need to get wasted. As my son is in medical school this is frowned upon.

You don't know everything your children do. I am a very successful female adult, went to an Ivy, got great grades and never caused my parents any trouble. I didn't even drink for most of college. However, I made a ton of stupid naive mistakes in college that could've turned out poorly if things happened differently.

Yes, but you are an American. Sudiksha’s parents are culturally Indian and were raised in India.

In India, good girls (ie - the upper caste / intelligent girl), would never behave in such a fashion. What would happen if a girl were to behave in this way and word got out? The whole family could be dishonored by such shameful behavior. People talk you know.

No. Sudiksha is a good girl, as father has already stated.

If she's such a good girl, what's up with all those selfies of her in tight clothing, or scantily clad or looking to show cleavage?
This girl's parents may be culturally Indian, but she didn't seem to be given that she was engaged in what I consider slatternly American college girl behavior by going to some poor country that has nothing else going for it but notoriety for drunken spring break escapades.
It wasn't like she was in the DR for anthropology studies or looking to help the self-imploding Haitian nation next door.

Oh shut up, judgmental cow.

Nice. When there is no good rebuttal, resort to telling the other party to shut up is very convincing.

"Slatternly college girl?" You can eff right off, lady.

Yeah, keep trying to tell yourself she's a nice Indian girl stumbling on the walk with her arm around a guy she met less than a week prior.

That doesn't make her not nice, you vile misogynist.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's highly likely the poor girl drowned. You can see from the video both she and the boy are staggering as they walked. Likely it began as a hook-up, they were both drunk, they went into the water, and the power of the waves dragged them in different directions. He made it back to shore, she did not. He didn't realize she didn't make it out of the water, because he was drunk. Have any of you ever been that drunk college kid, or seen a drunk college kid? At that age kids make really dumb choices, like entering the ocean when they're so drunk they can barely walk.

Accusing the boy of foul play is misplaced.
Of course her family and friends are upset. But accusing the boy of murder without any basis is wrong.

Well i am surprised her body hasn’t washed from the shore . It’s been almost a week.

It’s like people don’t understand how tides and currents work. Why do you think they never found the airplane that crashed over the ocean all those years ago? Things don’t just nicely wash up on shore all the time.

Clearly YOU don't know how tides and currents work, poster.

A plane falling into the middle of the Indian Ocean hundreds of miles from a shoreline is not in any way comparable to a human body that is alleged to have gone under the water within a very short distance of shore.

A body that drowns first sinks, then within days the decomposition gasses will raise it back up to the surface and it absolutely WILL be carried by tides and currents to a nearby shoreline. People who live and work on bodies of water, and especially law enforcement/search and rescue folks are well educated on these things, and they are right to be concerned when an allegedly drowned person cannot be located after extensive searching with recognition of recent tides/currents.

By comparison, decomposing bodies trapped inside a steel airplane or boat hull will not be subject to such laws of nature and will continue to decompose trapped inside that obstacle.

Or it can be stuck in ocean debris or worse. WE don’t know.

Or carried out to sea. "While known for its beauty, Arena Gorda Beach does not have a prominent coral reef directly in front of it, unlike Bavaro Beach, which is protected by reefs and has calm waters."

A guest at the same hotel that day said the sea was extra-rough and that staff didn't tell people not to go in, just put up red flags.

https://youtu.be/rlesSHs7xyE?si=JHRi-KOQuUcWdM4c

Four tourists drowned at that beach in January, clearly not safe for swimming. A couple of drunk kids going in at night? Not good.

That’s why the red flags are there yet you have drunks getting into the waters.

Would they have seen the red flags in the dark? Serious question.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG her friends went on a day trip without even looking for her?!

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14485901/amp/joshua-riibe-sudiksha-konanki-dominican-republic-missing.html

Have a bad feeling about this huge guy, could be another Natalie Holloway.

Claiming she was not seen out of water and that she was, which is it? If he saw her after the water, where is she?!!!

Well, her "friends" aren't much better.

We need to do a better job teaching kids how to identify who your friends are and how to be better friends. I feel terrible for this family. Tragic.

Who are you to judge that?

Well, let's see...They hadn't seen their friend since around 4:00 a.m. and didn't know where she was in a foreign country but thought they'd just go on a day trip?!

How were they going to reach her if 1. She didn't have her phone on her, 2. Or they tried reaching her but she didn't pick up maybe because they thought she was still sleeping or with that guy? 3. Things werent known at time of them going on a day trip? Didn't read all the reports to know if any of those questions were answered.

Was the guy known to them on that trip prior to that night? One of the young woman's friend could have stayed with her tho on the beach (being a better friend). Does anyone actually know what occurred before the friends left to go back to the hotel and her staying on beach?

No. Friend's job was to tell her why this is a bad idea and to inform resort desk that she didn't come back at night before going for the scheduled trip. She wasn't required to put herself in danger at night at beach in a foreign country with a drunk male.

Kids go to places like DR to be irresponsibly drunk and for casual hook ups. With that implicit understanding, one's friends will not stand in the way of actualizing that goal.
Sorry, DR is not Disneyland.

Exactly. I think a number of posters on this thread did not have traditional American college experiences.

Plenty of people on here let their kids go to beach week or have parties where they serve alcohol. A kid is sitting in Arlignton county jail right now after killing his friend from a drunk driving accident whole being so completely hammered and “supervising” a freshman high school party.

Most parents DO NOT CONDONE this. I never did. My adult sons are very successful and never felt the need to get wasted. As my son is in medical school this is frowned upon.

You don't know everything your children do. I am a very successful female adult, went to an Ivy, got great grades and never caused my parents any trouble. I didn't even drink for most of college. However, I made a ton of stupid naive mistakes in college that could've turned out poorly if things happened differently.

Yes, but you are an American. Sudiksha’s parents are culturally Indian and were raised in India.

In India, good girls (ie - the upper caste / intelligent girl), would never behave in such a fashion. What would happen if a girl were to behave in this way and word got out? The whole family could be dishonored by such shameful behavior. People talk you know.

No. Sudiksha is a good girl, as father has already stated.

If she's such a good girl, what's up with all those selfies of her in tight clothing, or scantily clad or looking to show cleavage?
This girl's parents may be culturally Indian, but she didn't seem to be given that she was engaged in what I consider slatternly American college girl behavior by going to some poor country that has nothing else going for it but notoriety for drunken spring break escapades.
It wasn't like she was in the DR for anthropology studies or looking to help the self-imploding Haitian nation next door.

Oh shut up, judgmental cow.

Nice. When there is no good rebuttal, resort to telling the other party to shut up is very convincing.

"Slatternly college girl?" You can eff right off, lady.

Yeah, keep trying to tell yourself she's a nice Indian girl stumbling on the walk with her arm around a guy she met less than a week prior.

Anonymous wrote:Her friends really failed her.

By allowing her autonomy and giving her the privacy she requested?

I still think she drowned but they might have to use divers or something. Idk. Maybe her body is caught up.

Her friends really failed her.