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Anonymous wrote:I really don't see how someone who makes less than 1 million dollars a year (and thats at the min) can afford to support another person entirely. By the time you pay for all your cars, your house, your retirement, your wife and childrens needs, your vacations, etc to have enough left over for a.) to support someone entirely b.) without your wife realizing another 70k or so net is gone seems so unlikely.

My husband makes about $1M. I am sure he does not have a mistress that he supports and we have a very happy marriage, but to answer this question, I do not pay close enough attention to our finances that I would notice if $70K or so was "missing." I am the one who goes through the mail and opens the bank statements and credit card bills, but I don't really look at them. When you have a lot of money, it is easy not to pay attention to the details. I would not have realized this before having a high HHI. When I was young and poor, I knew where every penny of my money was.

If you don't really look at statements and the bills, how do you know whether there are any errors or fraudulent charges? Come on, ladies, pay attention! Someday, chances are, you will need to take care of these matters yourself. Most women outlive their husbands.

You have time for anal nitpicking like that?? I don't. Not many do I believe.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see how someone who makes less than 1 million dollars a year (and thats at the min) can afford to support another person entirely. By the time you pay for all your cars, your house, your retirement, your wife and childrens needs, your vacations, etc to have enough left over for a.) to support someone entirely b.) without your wife realizing another 70k or so net is gone seems so unlikely.

My husband makes about $1M. I am sure he does not have a mistress that he supports and we have a very happy marriage, but to answer this question, I do not pay close enough attention to our finances that I would notice if $70K or so was "missing." I am the one who goes through the mail and opens the bank statements and credit card bills, but I don't really look at them. When you have a lot of money, it is easy not to pay attention to the details. I would not have realized this before having a high HHI. When I was young and poor, I knew where every penny of my money was.

If you don't really look at statements and the bills, how do you know whether there are any errors or fraudulent charges? Come on, ladies, pay attention! Someday, chances are, you will need to take care of these matters yourself. Most women outlive their husbands.

You have time for anal nitpicking like that?? I don't. Not many do I believe.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see how someone who makes less than 1 million dollars a year (and thats at the min) can afford to support another person entirely. By the time you pay for all your cars, your house, your retirement, your wife and childrens needs, your vacations, etc to have enough left over for a.) to support someone entirely b.) without your wife realizing another 70k or so net is gone seems so unlikely.

My husband makes about $1M. I am sure he does not have a mistress that he supports and we have a very happy marriage, but to answer this question, I do not pay close enough attention to our finances that I would notice if $70K or so was "missing." I am the one who goes through the mail and opens the bank statements and credit card bills, but I don't really look at them. When you have a lot of money, it is easy not to pay attention to the details. I would not have realized this before having a high HHI. When I was young and poor, I knew where every penny of my money was.

If you don't really look at statements and the bills, how do you know whether there are any errors or fraudulent charges? Come on, ladies, pay attention! Someday, chances are, you will need to take care of these matters yourself. Most women outlive their husbands.

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Anonymous wrote:My theory: OP is having an affair with a married man but it looks very different from what is being described. He pays for things here and there and decided it would be easier or more prudent to keep an apartment. It's not particularly nice but it does the job. He decides the when and where. He does not take OP on trips or cruises. He is not devoted to his wife or OP or anyone else for that matter. OP wants to believe she is the object of affection and avoids thinking about certain realities to allow this belief to continue. She knows deep down that she wasn't and won't be chosen. She wants to hate the wife but that would feel too desperate. So, she plays the mistress who is too cool to care. The problem is that she has no audience. She can't be too cool to care with her boyfriend -- he might lose interest. She can't be too cool to care with the wife -- the wife doesn't know she exists and that would blow the whole thing up if she did. The solution: post an anonymous story on a board whose audience looks strikingly similar to the intended audience. Maybe even post a few angry responses to make it look controversial. Then, do whatever you can to prolong the thread – give tidbits of information to add mystery. Then, when the thread does go on, accuse the married women of paranoia. You are their darkest fear, after all. That’s right, if the wife only knew, her neat little life would be disrupted and he would realize that you are all he ever really wanted. But, OP, you’re way too cool to care about any of that. Right?

Wow, you have quite the active imagination. Not OP.

I agree. It was a nice try, but why even bother? There are plenty of affairs that look exactly like the one OP portrayed. Why do you think she is making it up?

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Anonymous wrote:why is a 24 year old "kept woman" with no kids posting on a site called DC Urban Moms and Dads?

tutors kids.

Anonymous wrote:why is a 24 year old "kept woman" with no kids posting on a site called DC Urban Moms and Dads?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see how someone who makes less than 1 million dollars a year (and thats at the min) can afford to support another person entirely. By the time you pay for all your cars, your house, your retirement, your wife and childrens needs, your vacations, etc to have enough left over for a.) to support someone entirely b.) without your wife realizing another 70k or so net is gone seems so unlikely.

My husband makes about $1M. I am sure he does not have a mistress that he supports and we have a very happy marriage, but to answer this question, I do not pay close enough attention to our finances that I would notice if $70K or so was "missing." I am the one who goes through the mail and opens the bank statements and credit card bills, but I don't really look at them. When you have a lot of money, it is easy not to pay attention to the details. I would not have realized this before having a high HHI. When I was young and poor, I knew where every penny of my money was.

Anonymous wrote:why is a 24 year old "kept woman" with no kids posting on a site called DC Urban Moms and Dads?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My theory: OP is having an affair with a married man but it looks very different from what is being described. He pays for things here and there and decided it would be easier or more prudent to keep an apartment. It's not particularly nice but it does the job. He decides the when and where. He does not take OP on trips or cruises. He is not devoted to his wife or OP or anyone else for that matter. OP wants to believe she is the object of affection and avoids thinking about certain realities to allow this belief to continue. She knows deep down that she wasn't and won't be chosen. She wants to hate the wife but that would feel too desperate. So, she plays the mistress who is too cool to care. The problem is that she has no audience. She can't be too cool to care with her boyfriend -- he might lose interest. She can't be too cool to care with the wife -- the wife doesn't know she exists and that would blow the whole thing up if she did. The solution: post an anonymous story on a board whose audience looks strikingly similar to the intended audience. Maybe even post a few angry responses to make it look controversial. Then, do whatever you can to prolong the thread – give tidbits of information to add mystery. Then, when the thread does go on, accuse the married women of paranoia. You are their darkest fear, after all. That’s right, if the wife only knew, her neat little life would be disrupted and he would realize that you are all he ever really wanted. But, OP, you’re way too cool to care about any of that. Right?

Wow, you have quite the active imagination. Not OP.

Anonymous wrote:My theory: OP is having an affair with a married man but it looks very different from what is being described. He pays for things here and there and decided it would be easier or more prudent to keep an apartment. It's not particularly nice but it does the job. He decides the when and where. He does not take OP on trips or cruises. He is not devoted to his wife or OP or anyone else for that matter. OP wants to believe she is the object of affection and avoids thinking about certain realities to allow this belief to continue. She knows deep down that she wasn't and won't be chosen. She wants to hate the wife but that would feel too desperate. So, she plays the mistress who is too cool to care. The problem is that she has no audience. She can't be too cool to care with her boyfriend -- he might lose interest. She can't be too cool to care with the wife -- the wife doesn't know she exists and that would blow the whole thing up if she did. The solution: post an anonymous story on a board whose audience looks strikingly similar to the intended audience. Maybe even post a few angry responses to make it look controversial. Then, do whatever you can to prolong the thread – give tidbits of information to add mystery. Then, when the thread does go on, accuse the married women of paranoia. You are their darkest fear, after all. That’s right, if the wife only knew, her neat little life would be disrupted and he would realize that you are all he ever really wanted. But, OP, you’re way too cool to care about any of that. Right?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see how someone who makes less than 1 million dollars a year (and thats at the min) can afford to support another person entirely. By the time you pay for all your cars, your house, your retirement, your wife and childrens needs, your vacations, etc to have enough left over for a.) to support someone entirely b.) without your wife realizing another 70k or so net is gone seems so unlikely.

My husband makes about $1M. I am sure he does not have a mistress that he supports and we have a very happy marriage, but to answer this question, I do not pay close enough attention to our finances that I would notice if $70K or so was "missing." I am the one who goes through the mail and opens the bank statements and credit card bills, but I don't really look at them. When you have a lot of money, it is easy not to pay attention to the details. I would not have realized this before having a high HHI. When I was young and poor, I knew where every penny of my money was.