I think a lot of what this is of how the tone of what is aspirational is changing. For a little while cool was living alone in a big city, having an important job and being high powered and busy. “Girlboss” was used unironically and the idea of being an overtly feminine white collar job lady was celebrated.

Then people got burnt out by this and started celebrating and new (but retro) ideal woman. Sweet, calm, focused on her health and baking and living a “soft” life. Marrying young and living a white picket fence lifestyle has become glorified more than in recent years.

In either case, I would hope real life women aren’t basing their lives around what is cool on tv or, now, what is trending on tiktok.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was raised in that marry young culture. We were considered "late" when we got married at 25.

Pretty much all of his friends from home are divorced. The only ones who aren't were the ones who waited until after college to get married, like we did.

Literally no one is advocating marrying before getting a college degree and a job or marrying someone you know for less than a year or two. What people are saying isn't to delay if all things are aligned, just because others say so.

No, some idiot is trying to scare people into marrying anyone they can in their 20s because there is a serious risk of getting cancer and dying in your 30s.

Probably they are highlighting how life is fickle, with increasing numbers anyone can get cancer or die young so why not live the life to its fullest and not put joys of life on hold till perfection is achieved.

If you’re such a selfish moron that your own need to live life “to the fullest” supersedes whether or not there’s a good chance your child will be without their mother then you can’t be helped. That PP is an idiot and anyone trying to find any sense in what they were saying is an idiot as well.

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Anonymous wrote:People here don't seem to understand the meaning of anecdotes, data, and sample size.

For as highly educated an area as DC is, it’s been interesting to see how much dumber we are than I thought.

The people posting about getting married young probably aren’t the brightest bulbs on the tree. They probably aren’t even in the DC area.

Yup, brightest bulbs prefer to panic after 35 and settle for whoever is available so they can first deal with infertility and then enjoy divorce process together.

Not pregnancy struggles, it’s sometimes a doctor informing you can’t have children at all. A handful of my girlfriends from college discovered they were already barren in their early and mid 30s. Healthy and successful and told at age 33 you waited too long to have kids.

Just stop. No way this is true. It’s incredibly unusual to have your eggs depleted by early to mid 30s.

Yes, these people would have had trouble getting pregnant even in their early 20s—it’s a sign that something is seriously wrong with their fertility.

Anonymous wrote:The teen birth rate is way down since I was a teenager and age of first child and age at marriage keeps going up so I'm not buying the premise of this article. A couple celebrities marrying young isn't data on larger trends.

This thread isn't based on facts. OP saw some stuff on social media and drew her own (conservative/irrational) conclusions.

You only have 10% of your eggs left by 30, 3% by 40. And the quality of what you have left is not as good.

So, yeah, if you want children, it's best to start in your mid to late 20s.

Education about how our bodies work is not a threat to a feminist agenda, or an insult to anyone who hasn't found their spouse in their 20s.

Many women think that they are somehow immune to the natural things that happen to women as they age, or that they feel they will be the 'outlier'. But the sad truth is that so many people suffer from infertility because they just ignores a basic fact of nature.

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Anonymous wrote:Egg and sperm quality decline sharply after age 20. If you want the healthiest babies you should have them young.

Before 20?

Something Something domestic supply of infants.

People advocating for teen births is somethings else.

Anonymous wrote:Egg and sperm quality decline sharply after age 20. If you want the healthiest babies you should have them young.

Before 20?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was raised in that marry young culture. We were considered "late" when we got married at 25.

Pretty much all of his friends from home are divorced. The only ones who aren't were the ones who waited until after college to get married, like we did.

Literally no one is advocating marrying before getting a college degree and a job or marrying someone you know for less than a year or two. What people are saying isn't to delay if all things are aligned, just because others say so.

No, some idiot is trying to scare people into marrying anyone they can in their 20s because there is a serious risk of getting cancer and dying in your 30s.

Probably they are highlighting how life is fickle, with increasing numbers anyone can get cancer or die young so why not live the life to its fullest and not put joys of life on hold till perfection is achieved.

So don't wait until all things are aligned?

Major things yes, life upgrades no.

Egg and sperm quality decline sharply after age 20. If you want the healthiest babies you should have them young.

Very pretty conservative reporter married a year after college at age 23.

The teen birth rate is way down since I was a teenager and age of first child and age at marriage keeps going up so I'm not buying the premise of this article. A couple celebrities marrying young isn't data on larger trends.

This is old news. As a millennial, I am already a grandparent.

I mean if I 100% knew I was going to have cancer and die in my 30s, I wouldn't be rushing to have kids in my 20s, I just wouldn't have kids at all. I wouldn't want that life for a kid.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was raised in that marry young culture. We were considered "late" when we got married at 25.

Pretty much all of his friends from home are divorced. The only ones who aren't were the ones who waited until after college to get married, like we did.

Literally no one is advocating marrying before getting a college degree and a job or marrying someone you know for less than a year or two. What people are saying isn't to delay if all things are aligned, just because others say so.

No, some idiot is trying to scare people into marrying anyone they can in their 20s because there is a serious risk of getting cancer and dying in your 30s.

Probably they are highlighting how life is fickle, with increasing numbers anyone can get cancer or die young so why not live the life to its fullest and not put joys of life on hold till perfection is achieved.

So don't wait until all things are aligned?

*I doubt they are advocating 90 day fiancee type marriages for cancer patients.