Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I am a SAHM and my DD is a super achiever academically. I left a well paying job to SAHM because my DH also has a high paying job. And while we were outsourcing everything that we could to make it easier to be an involved parent - we were unable to carve out the amount of time we wanted to spend with our kids. In the end, we decided that the mark of success of a person is not only what they can achieve in their own life but how their kids turn out. So, I quit after I had saved enough to retire. For years we have lived below our means and so I was able to save every cent that I earned.
I would prefer that my DD has the option to make enough money to last a lifetime by working a few years. Why? Because if she ever wants to stay home to raise her family - she has the financial wherewithal to do that. I started saving from when I was 19 years old. My kid is going to do the same. When she marries - she will already be a homeowner as I was.
Yes, I do push my DD to excel academically and aim for male dominated STEM careers - because being a SAHM without stellar education and your own money is not really is a choice and neither is being a WOHM in a dead end, ill paying job, a choice. And my DD is well adjusted and grateful and makes me proud each and every day.
So, regardless of if you are a SAHM or a WOHM - you do what is best for your kids and you make sure that they are financially secure outside of a marriage. A woman must have enough money that she can raise her kids, send them to college, pay for a retirement = without the help of a man. That is a choice you can make for yourself.
Poster you are replying to and I agree with this.
You may agree to what you have bolded, but you are actually perverting the meaning of what I am trying to say. I replied to someone who said that they have a problem with a SAHM who pushes their daughters to succeed academically. I am saying that the value of education is that you can take care of yourself as well as teach the same to your children. It has nothing to do with being a SAHM or WOHM.
This is a male dominated world and we all know that women are paid less than men for the same job. I would think that all moms - SAHM and WOHM - would actually pay special attention to the education of their daughters, because we are cognizant of the gender inequality in the work place.
In fact, what I find funny on this forum is that all the talk is centered around the BS about what do the SAHMs do all day - do they clean or cook? do they have maids? If you are staying home for the kids then I would imagine the greatest advantage you can bring to your kids is helping them academically. Where will you ever find such highly educated adults who are so vested in your kid's education, their health - physical and mental, and their extracurriculars?
And because the world is still skewed in favor of men, SAHMs should actually push their DDs to succeed academically and be their support system for that purpose. A well educated woman can choose to be a WOHM or SAHM, but her education always gives her options. And I also believe that women need to be very money savvy and should be taught to save and invest from an early age, because that is true freedom - regardless of if you are a WOHM or SAHM. I feel I can do both for my DD as being an example of a financially secure and educated SAHM.