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Anonymous wrote:My husband was raised in that marry young culture. We were considered "late" when we got married at 25.

Pretty much all of his friends from home are divorced. The only ones who aren't were the ones who waited until after college to get married, like we did.

Literally no one is advocating marrying before getting a college degree and a job or marrying someone you know for less than a year or two. What people are saying isn't to delay if all things are aligned, just because others say so.

No, some idiot is trying to scare people into marrying anyone they can in their 20s because there is a serious risk of getting cancer and dying in your 30s.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband was raised in that marry young culture. We were considered "late" when we got married at 25.

Pretty much all of his friends from home are divorced. The only ones who aren't were the ones who waited until after college to get married, like we did.

Literally no one is advocating marrying before getting a college degree and a job or marrying someone you know for less than a year or two. What people are saying isn't to delay if all things are aligned, just because others say so.

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Anonymous wrote:I come from a conservative culture where women marry young, including affluent ones.

All my peers wanted to get married young and many did. At the time it was upsetting to me I couldn’t find someone.

Instead I focused on my career and educated and traveled the world. I met my husband. I’ve lived in a few large cities. Now I’m so glad I didn’t marry young. I’ve lived a more exciting life and didn’t give up my 20s for kids in diapers. Looking back I can see the main reason my peers wanted to marry was $. They didn’t have a lot of career options so a man was a plan.

The big risk having kids going is that it disrupts a woman’s career and earning potential. Since I had kids in my 30s I had 6 months plus of accrued leave for each child and stayed in the workforce. My peers who had children at 26 dropped out of the workforce. I also made enough money when I had kids to hire a nanny and night nanny. This wouldn’t have happened at age 27.

I don’t know a single woman who has done well professionally and married very young. It’s not impossible but I know hundreds and don’t know a single one.

I’d actually rather choose to remain single forever and not have kids over having kids young and not having a career or financial freedom.

Great anecdote. Spouse and I married at 24, had kids in 20’s, are educated, have great careers we enjoy, and have lived in a few large cities (not sure why you think this would be interesting or an accomplishment) in three different countries.

We also prioritized raising our kids rather than outsourcing to a nanny AND a night nanny (!). Sounds to me like you had kids as a box-checking exercise to complement your amazing professional success.

Anonymous wrote:I come from a conservative culture where women marry young, including affluent ones.

All my peers wanted to get married young and many did. At the time it was upsetting to me I couldn’t find someone.

Instead I focused on my career and educated and traveled the world. I met my husband. I’ve lived in a few large cities. Now I’m so glad I didn’t marry young. I’ve lived a more exciting life and didn’t give up my 20s for kids in diapers. Looking back I can see the main reason my peers wanted to marry was $. They didn’t have a lot of career options so a man was a plan.

The big risk having kids going is that it disrupts a woman’s career and earning potential. Since I had kids in my 30s I had 6 months plus of accrued leave for each child and stayed in the workforce. My peers who had children at 26 dropped out of the workforce. I also made enough money when I had kids to hire a nanny and night nanny. This wouldn’t have happened at age 27.

I don’t know a single woman who has done well professionally and married very young. It’s not impossible but I know hundreds and don’t know a single one.

I’d actually rather choose to remain single forever and not have kids over having kids young and not having a career or financial freedom.

Anonymous wrote:My husband was raised in that marry young culture. We were considered "late" when we got married at 25.

Pretty much all of his friends from home are divorced. The only ones who aren't were the ones who waited until after college to get married, like we did.

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Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.

Great advice,

DP. You should take a logic course.

The PPP had tenuous logic as well. I think PP just responded in kind

DP.

Well the PP did say have kids early because so many people get cancer in their 30s and you might die...which would leave your kid motherless or fatherless...

Not just risk of dying. Cancer can make you infertile or barren too. And weakened long-term. And lowers life your expectancy. And can prevent you from getting life insurance if you do have kids later and would like them taken care of if you die. Everyone in their 20s thinks they’re invincible and fertility lasts forever.

I truly do not understand the point of this. If all those things happened or were very likely to happen I wouldn’t want kids at all because I would not want to bring them into such a tenuous situation. It absolutely would NOT make me wish I had kids before I get ravaged by cancer at age 32.

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Anonymous wrote:I come from a conservative culture where women marry young, including affluent ones.

All my peers wanted to get married young and many did. At the time it was upsetting to me I couldn’t find someone.

Instead I focused on my career and educated and traveled the world. I met my husband. I’ve lived in a few large cities. Now I’m so glad I didn’t marry young. I’ve lived a more exciting life and didn’t give up my 20s for kids in diapers. Looking back I can see the main reason my peers wanted to marry was $. They didn’t have a lot of career options so a man was a plan.

The big risk having kids going is that it disrupts a woman’s career and earning potential. Since I had kids in my 30s I had 6 months plus of accrued leave for each child and stayed in the workforce. My peers who had children at 26 dropped out of the workforce. I also made enough money when I had kids to hire a nanny and night nanny. This wouldn’t have happened at age 27.

I don’t know a single woman who has done well professionally and married very young. It’s not impossible but I know hundreds and don’t know a single one.

I’d actually rather choose to remain single forever and not have kids over having kids young and not having a career or financial freedom.

You can marry the right person young, finish your education, have a career, grow along with your DH and have kids after several years of marriage. You actually sound very stupid. As a woman you have control over your fertility and when you choose to have kids. Marrying young is beneficial financially and as a household you can grow your earnings faster. Better to have two people earning and saving at the same time.

If you do not know even one professionally successful mother who married young, then it just tells me more about your cultural/racial demographics than you would imagine. In fact, every single word you have written paints a true picture of how much you have compromised in your life choices.

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Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.

Great advice,

DP. You should take a logic course.

The PPP had tenuous logic as well. I think PP just responded in kind

DP.

Well the PP did say have kids early because so many people get cancer in their 30s and you might die...which would leave your kid motherless or fatherless...

Not just risk of dying. Cancer can make you infertile or barren too. And weakened long-term. And lowers life your expectancy. And can prevent you from getting life insurance if you do have kids later and would like them taken care of if you die. Everyone in their 20s thinks they’re invincible and fertility lasts forever.

I truly do not understand the point of this. If all those things happened or were very likely to happen I wouldn’t want kids at all because I would not want to bring them into such a tenuous situation. It absolutely would NOT make me wish I had kids before I get ravaged by cancer at age 32.

We get it, you're a childless girl boss.

Anonymous wrote:Well, getting engaged more married doesn't mean you've to starts popping kids if you aren't ready. You can use birth control with your spouse just like you would use it with 30 other randos or 5 other BFs.

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Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.

Great advice,

DP. You should take a logic course.

The PPP had tenuous logic as well. I think PP just responded in kind

DP.

Well the PP did say have kids early because so many people get cancer in their 30s and you might die...which would leave your kid motherless or fatherless...

Not just risk of dying. Cancer can make you infertile or barren too. And weakened long-term. And lowers life your expectancy. And can prevent you from getting life insurance if you do have kids later and would like them taken care of if you die. Everyone in their 20s thinks they’re invincible and fertility lasts forever.

OMGOD!! SO SCARY!!! BETTER BONE THE NEXT GUY I MEET!!!!

YOU SHOULD BONE EVERY GUY YOU MEET!!!!! AND USE MORE !!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.

Great advice,

DP. You should take a logic course.

The PPP had tenuous logic as well. I think PP just responded in kind

DP.

Well the PP did say have kids early because so many people get cancer in their 30s and you might die...which would leave your kid motherless or fatherless...

Not just risk of dying. Cancer can make you infertile or barren too. And weakened long-term. And lowers life your expectancy. And can prevent you from getting life insurance if you do have kids later and would like them taken care of if you die. Everyone in their 20s thinks they’re invincible and fertility lasts forever.

I truly do not understand the point of this. If all those things happened or were very likely to happen I wouldn’t want kids at all because I would not want to bring them into such a tenuous situation. It absolutely would NOT make me wish I had kids before I get ravaged by cancer at age 32.

We get it, you're a childless girl boss.

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Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.

Great advice,

DP. You should take a logic course.

The PPP had tenuous logic as well. I think PP just responded in kind

DP.

Well the PP did say have kids early because so many people get cancer in their 30s and you might die...which would leave your kid motherless or fatherless...

Not just risk of dying. Cancer can make you infertile or barren too. And weakened long-term. And lowers life your expectancy. And can prevent you from getting life insurance if you do have kids later and would like them taken care of if you die. Everyone in their 20s thinks they’re invincible and fertility lasts forever.

I truly do not understand the point of this. If all those things happened or were very likely to happen I wouldn’t want kids at all because I would not want to bring them into such a tenuous situation. It absolutely would NOT make me wish I had kids before I get ravaged by cancer at age 32.

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Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.

So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.

Great advice,

DP. You should take a logic course.

The PPP had tenuous logic as well. I think PP just responded in kind

DP.

Well the PP did say have kids early because so many people get cancer in their 30s and you might die...which would leave your kid motherless or fatherless...

Not just risk of dying. Cancer can make you infertile or barren too. And weakened long-term. And lowers life your expectancy. And can prevent you from getting life insurance if you do have kids later and would like them taken care of if you die. Everyone in their 20s thinks they’re invincible and fertility lasts forever.