Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter in early 20s both on the spectrum and with a lower IQ. (Consistently tested between 70 and 90 depending on the area)

A lot of the discussion about the Mel - Becca storyline seems to come from some perspectives where they think Mel is envious because she doesn’t have a dating life and her sister does.

I don’t think that’s it. I was extremely concerned when I found out my daughter was having sex. But she’d already been able to get birth control on her own even prior to 18. As soon as she could drive, she drove herself to her doctor. And I was very worried about people taking advantage of her to the point where it was a realistic thought in my head nearly every day for several years that she was about to march into the house, throw down her backpack and announce, “I’m pregnant !!”

Which follows back to the old ER long term story line where the one doctor had a problematic sister who did indeed leave her with raising a baby she didn’t expect to ever have.

I could see that one in Mel’s face as well. If the birth control fails, who’s got that baby? No details about the father or if that father is even somewhat predatory or just another member of Becca’s daycare (group residence? Idk)

There’s a lot that would be going through Mel’s head

It's both. Mel is worried about Becca and the potential consequences of her being sexually active, and also I think she is jealous/resentful that so much of her time goes to caring for Becca and this enables Becca to have a relationship and feel fulfilled while Mel is just stressed and probably pretty freaking lonely a lot of the time (between being ND and being the primary caregiver to an ID adult and having an incredibly demanding job).

I will also note that being a parent caring for an intellectually disabled adult parent would be fundamentally different from being a sibling doing the same. Still hard, but different. As a parent, caring for your kids is a job you take on when they are young and, ideally, willingly. You don't always realize how long that job and last and that's especially true for a kid with IDs -- it can be really hard to realize that your child is never going to be as independent as one without disabilities.

But if you became a caregiver to a sibling because of their ID and the death of your parents, I'm sorry, that is WAY harder. It's not a choice. You'd be trying to grieve your own parents while also take care of your sibling, it means taking on a serious caretaking role at a very young age before you've really even had a chance to lead your own life at all. That's incredibly rough and it's not something Mel signed up for and yes it's probably going to lead to resentment and jealousy especially because she grew up viewing her sister as a peer and now she's a dependent. And who takes care of Mel? Her own parents are dead and she has no other siblings. It's just brutal, her situation deserves a lot of empathy.

Anonymous wrote:A few thoughts - just watched the most recent episode.

Whoever called the sexual relationship for Mel’s sister- you get a prize! Why wasn’t Mel’s very first question- are you using protection?

Why would Garcia ever date Santos? An obviously damaged much younger woman at a way lower rank, medicine wise? Oh wait- I literally just realized that that is what a$$hole men do the world over. Haha

The idea that an ER doc and a med student (?!) would be in the room for the long time dying woman’s final moments seems not likely. They would leave and let the damn woman die in as much peace as is possible in a busy ER. Teen son not wanting to go in there? Oof- all the feels from me. So sad. So sadly not uncommon. Teen boys lose their moms to cancer all the time. Sucks.

Mel saying she doesn’t have money to pay the lawyer, when her rep says all the bluster in the deposition was about squeezing more $$ out? Cmon! She is supposed to be on the spectrum, not stupid. I was irritated by that.

I love the old battleaxe nurse they brought back. That’s a good storyline.

Duke will have… inoperable cancer? And then Robby will…? Over the top foreshadowing of a crash when he tells Robby that he wouldn’t make that drive after a 12 hour shift

NGL, I did think less of … can’t remember her name, the doctor who had the panic attack about her mom an hee internship applications. Get it together!

I think I’m going to hold off this Thursday so I can at least watch two episodes back to back. They are so short!

If you skip this week then you're going to have to skip this thread, or you'll get spoilers!

Anonymous wrote:A few thoughts - just watched the most recent episode.

Whoever called the sexual relationship for Mel’s sister- you get a prize! Why wasn’t Mel’s very first question- are you using protection?

Why would Garcia ever date Santos? An obviously damaged much younger woman at a way lower rank, medicine wise? Oh wait- I literally just realized that that is what a$$hole men do the world over. Haha

The idea that an ER doc and a med student (?!) would be in the room for the long time dying woman’s final moments seems not likely. They would leave and let the damn woman die in as much peace as is possible in a busy ER. Teen son not wanting to go in there? Oof- all the feels from me. So sad. So sadly not uncommon. Teen boys lose their moms to cancer all the time. Sucks.

Mel saying she doesn’t have money to pay the lawyer, when her rep says all the bluster in the deposition was about squeezing more $$ out? Cmon! She is supposed to be on the spectrum, not stupid. I was irritated by that.

I love the old battleaxe nurse they brought back. That’s a good storyline.

Duke will have… inoperable cancer? And then Robby will…? Over the top foreshadowing of a crash when he tells Robby that he wouldn’t make that drive after a 12 hour shift

NGL, I did think less of … can’t remember her name, the doctor who had the panic attack about her mom an hee internship applications. Get it together!

I think I’m going to hold off this Thursday so I can at least watch two episodes back to back. They are so short!

Protection doesn't stop a UTI, you need to pee after sex.

Garcia and Santos aren't dating, they're eating ramen in bed after sex.

It's not weird that two doctors are there, they aren't waiting with her, just giving her the morphine.

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Anonymous wrote:What the bell does Garcia see in Santos and vice versa? They both seem like b@tches!

They’re both attractive. And tough. Isn’t that enough? It’s not romance.

Garcia is pretty on the rare occasion when she smiles but o don’t think Santos is the least bit attractive.

+1 plus Santos’ attitude makes her ugly.

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Anonymous wrote:What the bell does Garcia see in Santos and vice versa? They both seem like b@tches!

They’re both attractive. And tough. Isn’t that enough? It’s not romance.

Garcia is pretty on the rare occasion when she smiles but o don’t think Santos is the least bit attractive.

A few thoughts - just watched the most recent episode.

Whoever called the sexual relationship for Mel’s sister- you get a prize! Why wasn’t Mel’s very first question- are you using protection?

Why would Garcia ever date Santos? An obviously damaged much younger woman at a way lower rank, medicine wise? Oh wait- I literally just realized that that is what a$$hole men do the world over. Haha

The idea that an ER doc and a med student (?!) would be in the room for the long time dying woman’s final moments seems not likely. They would leave and let the damn woman die in as much peace as is possible in a busy ER. Teen son not wanting to go in there? Oof- all the feels from me. So sad. So sadly not uncommon. Teen boys lose their moms to cancer all the time. Sucks.

Mel saying she doesn’t have money to pay the lawyer, when her rep says all the bluster in the deposition was about squeezing more $$ out? Cmon! She is supposed to be on the spectrum, not stupid. I was irritated by that.

I love the old battleaxe nurse they brought back. That’s a good storyline.

Duke will have… inoperable cancer? And then Robby will…? Over the top foreshadowing of a crash when he tells Robby that he wouldn’t make that drive after a 12 hour shift

NGL, I did think less of … can’t remember her name, the doctor who had the panic attack about her mom an hee internship applications. Get it together!

I think I’m going to hold off this Thursday so I can at least watch two episodes back to back. They are so short!

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Anonymous wrote:Regarding the cancer patient, I think because she is so close to dying, they decided to keep her where she is so as not to cause even more disruption. They would need to arrange round-the-clock care that is qualified to dispense morphine if she were to go back home, and they likely don’t have time for that. Similar thing happened to my mom. We were initially going to look for a nursing facility for her to be transferred to, but then the decision was made to keep her at the hospital because she needed the morphine and her time was extremely limited (as in, just a few days). It was the best decision since it kept disruptions to a minimum - and she received the comfort care she needed in the end.

She didn’t want to go home. They were waiting for a bed to open up that they could admit her to, but her pain and exhaustion became too much so she ended up dying in the ER.

She hasn’t died yet. The last shot was McKay administering the meds but that’s all we saw.

Anonymous wrote:Regarding the cancer patient, I think because she is so close to dying, they decided to keep her where she is so as not to cause even more disruption. They would need to arrange round-the-clock care that is qualified to dispense morphine if she were to go back home, and they likely don’t have time for that. Similar thing happened to my mom. We were initially going to look for a nursing facility for her to be transferred to, but then the decision was made to keep her at the hospital because she needed the morphine and her time was extremely limited (as in, just a few days). It was the best decision since it kept disruptions to a minimum - and she received the comfort care she needed in the end.

She didn’t want to go home. They were waiting for a bed to open up that they could admit her to, but her pain and exhaustion became too much so she ended up dying in the ER.

Regarding the cancer patient, I think because she is so close to dying, they decided to keep her where she is so as not to cause even more disruption. They would need to arrange round-the-clock care that is qualified to dispense morphine if she were to go back home, and they likely don’t have time for that. Similar thing happened to my mom. We were initially going to look for a nursing facility for her to be transferred to, but then the decision was made to keep her at the hospital because she needed the morphine and her time was extremely limited (as in, just a few days). It was the best decision since it kept disruptions to a minimum - and she received the comfort care she needed in the end.

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Anonymous wrote:Langdon’s job was to treat Becca’s UIT vs figure out how she got the UTI.

That's what he did...

Yes but a PP is getting mad that Langdon didn't try to figure out how she got it and then address whatever problem the explanation might reveal, which is a ridiculous exception of an ER doctor. His best option was exactly what he did, which was diagnose and treat her physical issue and then suggest her caregiver speak to her to address any additional issues.

Langdon did nothing wrong there, everything by the book.

ahh thanks for explaining.

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Anonymous wrote:Langdon’s job was to treat Becca’s UIT vs figure out how she got the UTI.

That's what he did...

Yes but a PP is getting mad that Langdon didn't try to figure out how she got it and then address whatever problem the explanation might reveal, which is a ridiculous exception of an ER doctor. His best option was exactly what he did, which was diagnose and treat her physical issue and then suggest her caregiver speak to her to address any additional issues.

Langdon did nothing wrong there, everything by the book.

How do people know that Langdon didn't discuss how she got the UTI with Becca. He apparently went over potential causes, I just assumed she would have blurted out that the sex with her boyfriend was likely the cause.

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Anonymous wrote:When are we going to learn more about status between Santos and Garcia? I was very surprised the toothbrush comment was dropped in a group at work.

Also Whitaker and poor farm widow lady?

Wait I missed the toothbrush comment - when was it??

Ep 2.1: Whitaker was being ribbed, I don't remember why. Garcia says, "Unfortunately, he also likes to use other people's toothbrushes," with Whitaker replying, "It was one time. They were the same color".

What does it mean?!

Remember Santos is letting Whitaker stay with her. This means that Garcia slept over and he inadvertently used her toothbrush!

Wow. Good catch!

Slept over with Whitaker? Or Santos?

Santos. Whitaker shares Santos's apartment, therefore bathroom where the toothbrush mixup happened.

I agree with this Santos and Garcia are the thing. But at the end of season 1 just rewatched, Santos emphasized to Whitaker that she had a spare room *and* bathroom. Which is just annoyingly sloppy unless I missed something. Still love the show of course, overanalyzing prime time TV is not really the best idea.

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Anonymous wrote:Langdon’s job was to treat Becca’s UIT vs figure out how she got the UTI.

That's what he did...

Yes but a PP is getting mad that Langdon didn't try to figure out how she got it and then address whatever problem the explanation might reveal, which is a ridiculous exception of an ER doctor. His best option was exactly what he did, which was diagnose and treat her physical issue and then suggest her caregiver speak to her to address any additional issues.

Langdon did nothing wrong there, everything by the book.

Anonymous wrote:Langdon’s job was to treat Becca’s UIT vs figure out how she got the UTI.

That's what he did...

Langdon’s job was to treat Becca’s UIT vs figure out how she got the UTI.