Anonymous
02/24/2025 11:08
Subject: It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Well, vote to raise age for marriage to 35.
Anonymous
02/24/2025 11:07
Subject: It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Anonymous wrote:I come from a conservative culture where women marry young, including affluent ones.
All my peers wanted to get married young and many did. At the time it was upsetting to me I couldn’t find someone.
Instead I focused on my career and educated and traveled the world. I met my husband. I’ve lived in a few large cities. Now I’m so glad I didn’t marry young. I’ve lived a more exciting life and didn’t give up my 20s for kids in diapers. Looking back I can see the main reason my peers wanted to marry was $. They didn’t have a lot of career options so a man was a plan.
The big risk having kids going is that it disrupts a woman’s career and earning potential. Since I had kids in my 30s I had 6 months plus of accrued leave for each child and stayed in the workforce. My peers who had children at 26 dropped out of the workforce. I also made enough money when I had kids to hire a nanny and night nanny. This wouldn’t have happened at age 27.
I don’t know a single woman who has done well professionally and married very young. It’s not impossible but I know hundreds and don’t know a single one.
I’d actually rather choose to remain single forever and not have kids over having kids young and not having a career or financial freedom.
You can marry the right person young, finish your education, have a career, grow along with your DH and have kids after several years of marriage. You actually sound very stupid. As a woman you have control over your fertility and when you choose to have kids. Marrying young is beneficial financially and as a household you can grow your earnings faster. Better to have two people earning and saving at the same time.
If you do not know even one professionally successful mother who married young, then it just tells me more about your cultural/racial demographics than you would imagine. In fact, every single word you have written paints a true picture of how much you have compromised in your life choices.
Anonymous
02/24/2025 11:06
Subject: It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Well, getting engaged more married doesn't mean you've to starts popping kids if you aren't ready. You can use birth control with your spouse just like you would use it with 30 other randos or 5 other BFs.
Anonymous
02/24/2025 10:56
Subject: It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
I come from a conservative culture where women marry young, including affluent ones.
All my peers wanted to get married young and many did. At the time it was upsetting to me I couldn’t find someone.
Instead I focused on my career and educated and traveled the world. I met my husband. I’ve lived in a few large cities. Now I’m so glad I didn’t marry young. I’ve lived a more exciting life and didn’t give up my 20s for kids in diapers. Looking back I can see the main reason my peers wanted to marry was $. They didn’t have a lot of career options so a man was a plan.
The big risk having kids going is that it disrupts a woman’s career and earning potential. Since I had kids in my 30s I had 6 months plus of accrued leave for each child and stayed in the workforce. My peers who had children at 26 dropped out of the workforce. I also made enough money when I had kids to hire a nanny and night nanny. This wouldn’t have happened at age 27.
I don’t know a single woman who has done well professionally and married very young. It’s not impossible but I know hundreds and don’t know a single one.
I’d actually rather choose to remain single forever and not have kids over having kids young and not having a career or financial freedom.
All my peers wanted to get married young and many did. At the time it was upsetting to me I couldn’t find someone.
Instead I focused on my career and educated and traveled the world. I met my husband. I’ve lived in a few large cities. Now I’m so glad I didn’t marry young. I’ve lived a more exciting life and didn’t give up my 20s for kids in diapers. Looking back I can see the main reason my peers wanted to marry was $. They didn’t have a lot of career options so a man was a plan.
The big risk having kids going is that it disrupts a woman’s career and earning potential. Since I had kids in my 30s I had 6 months plus of accrued leave for each child and stayed in the workforce. My peers who had children at 26 dropped out of the workforce. I also made enough money when I had kids to hire a nanny and night nanny. This wouldn’t have happened at age 27.
I don’t know a single woman who has done well professionally and married very young. It’s not impossible but I know hundreds and don’t know a single one.
I’d actually rather choose to remain single forever and not have kids over having kids young and not having a career or financial freedom.
Anonymous
02/24/2025 10:41
Subject: It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Anonymous wrote:It's called a starter marriage. They will divorce and try again in their 30's after they've grown up.
Not every growing couple is immature and not every grown couple is mature so marriages and divorces happen in both groups.
Anonymous
02/24/2025 10:15
Subject: Re:It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.
So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.
Great advice,
DP. You should take a logic course.
The PPP had tenuous logic as well. I think PP just responded in kind
DP.
Well the PP did say have kids early because so many people get cancer in their 30s and you might die...which would leave your kid motherless or fatherless...
Not just risk of dying. Cancer can make you infertile or barren too. And weakened long-term. And lowers life your expectancy. And can prevent you from getting life insurance if you do have kids later and would like them taken care of if you die. Everyone in their 20s thinks they’re invincible and fertility lasts forever.
OMGOD!! SO SCARY!!! BETTER BONE THE NEXT GUY I MEET!!!!
YOU SHOULD BONE EVERY GUY YOU MEET!!!!! AND USE MORE !!!!!
Anonymous
02/24/2025 10:14
Subject: It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
It's called a starter marriage. They will divorce and try again in their 30's after they've grown up.
Anonymous
02/24/2025 10:12
Subject: Re:It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.
So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.
Great advice,
DP. You should take a logic course.
The PPP had tenuous logic as well. I think PP just responded in kind
DP.
Well the PP did say have kids early because so many people get cancer in their 30s and you might die...which would leave your kid motherless or fatherless...
Not just risk of dying. Cancer can make you infertile or barren too. And weakened long-term. And lowers life your expectancy. And can prevent you from getting life insurance if you do have kids later and would like them taken care of if you die. Everyone in their 20s thinks they’re invincible and fertility lasts forever.
OMGOD!! SO SCARY!!! BETTER BONE THE NEXT GUY I MEET!!!!
Anonymous
02/24/2025 09:25
Subject: Re:It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.
So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.
Great advice,
DP. You should take a logic course.
The PPP had tenuous logic as well. I think PP just responded in kind
DP.
Well the PP did say have kids early because so many people get cancer in their 30s and you might die...which would leave your kid motherless or fatherless...
Not just risk of dying. Cancer can make you infertile or barren too. And weakened long-term. And lowers life your expectancy. And can prevent you from getting life insurance if you do have kids later and would like them taken care of if you die. Everyone in their 20s thinks they’re invincible and fertility lasts forever.
Anonymous
02/23/2025 22:39
Subject: It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Well, some people can multitask and others can't. Same way, some people can simultaneously manage their personal and professional lives while others can't. Find out who you are and act accordingly.
Anonymous
02/23/2025 22:17
Subject: It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This dovetails on ambitious Gen Z'ers flocking to Southern universities, where there's this pressurized ethos to find your future spouse before graduating (and get engaged shortly thereafter). WSJ just reported this:
Sorry, Harvard. Everyone Wants to Go to College in the South Now.
https://www.wsj.com/us-news/education/sorry-harvard-everyone-wants-to-go-to-college-in-the-south-now-235d7934
Southern and even Mormon aesthetics are huge on TikTok and instagram. Also sort of adjacent to the soft girl thing that’s viral. The thought of being a single 30 year old girl boss is mortifying. Total vibe shift.
OP, put down your phone. That isn't reality.
Anonymous
02/23/2025 22:15
Subject: Re:It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.
Ooooo…so scary! I better snag the first guy who looks my way.
Yeah, probably. Both young men and women dating to marry much earlier in life and just diving into marriage would be better for all involved. I would rather draw a name out of a hat containing guy friends from my college social circle at 22 than 10 to 15 years of dating, breakups, baggage & therapy before settling for some balding random man I met on some app.
Oooo...so scary. I'm sure that is EXACTLY how people who don't getting married young find someone.
Anonymous
02/23/2025 22:13
Subject: Re:It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.
So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.
Great advice,
DP. You should take a logic course.
The PPP had tenuous logic as well. I think PP just responded in kind
DP.
Well the PP did say have kids early because so many people get cancer in their 30s and you might die...which would leave your kid motherless or fatherless...
Anonymous
02/23/2025 22:07
Subject: It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Anonymous wrote:this sounds like Natalist propaganda. Whatever
Republicans trying to get all women barefoot and pregnant.
Anonymous
02/23/2025 21:56
Subject: Re:It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So many people in their 30s are getting cancer. Life and your fertility window can be cut short. Go to a chemo ward of any local hospital and ask the patients if they’d recommend marrying and having children in your 20s.
So your advice is have a baby so you can die of cancer and leave it an orphan.
Great advice,
DP. You should take a logic course.
You should take a course in how to say things that are not completely idiotic.