Anonymous wrote:I don't think a late in life 2nd wife has to be all that bad. It is someone young who can take care of your father until he dies. Do not discount this! I agree with others to ask about estate planning and what your dad is planning so that you don't get cut out of the will completely.

Yeah, nope. A much younger second wife will use the old man while it suits her and then ditch him when he needs elder care. My sister’s FIL (first wife died when his kids were young) put her kids, his step children, through college when their dad wouldn’t help out and then his second left the minute he was diagnosed with an ailment that affected his ability to continue his previously lucrative career. My sister and BIL are providing the elder care. His former step kids, who lived with him from ES through early adulthood, don’t even speak to him now that he’s of no use to them.

First wives take note: when you’re done having kids insist upon a vasectomy! It’s not foolproof, but it makes a second family diverting attention and resources away from your children less likely.

I don't think a late in life 2nd wife has to be all that bad. It is someone young who can take care of your father until he dies. Do not discount this! I agree with others to ask about estate planning and what your dad is planning so that you don't get cut out of the will completely.

Anonymous wrote:When my SIL’s dad died…. She was power of attorney for him.

His house was in her name due to his bad credit. The new wife was a peach.

She flew in .. creamated his body, had no funeral, took his car and sold it, evicted her in 30 days and sold the house.

It was wild.

Power of attorney ends on date of death. Perhaps daughter was his executer?

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

No one is entitled to inheritance.

Exactly why the 2nd wife should not expect to get it.

Who says we want it?

Good we agree, you should not get it.

You should also start working stop collecting alimony and start saving for your kids inheritance. Instead of using men as a pay check

I actually have always made more money than my ex. Our money is in a trust and my ex can’t get it out without my say so.

I don’t think he’s stupid enough to take on a dependent 2nd wife.

I suspect if he’s stupid enough to remarry she wouldn’t be a slug who expected money from my family trust.

Good God! Second wives are slugs are they lol i have a career and don't take a dime from DH.
Seems to me from this thread these poor men WERE
Married to 'slugs' and now their baby slugs are crying about inheritance

Glad we agree his inheritance goes to his kids when he dies since you are not a slug and you don’t need it.

Exactly goes to all kids...not just your greedy baby slugs crying about daddy's money

You and he can create an inheritance if you want for your slug. My kids get all the money in our trust during our marriage.

Come on slug I had him during the low earning years… you can do this without your slug getting our money.

Get over it..your money lol ? ? Greedy. If you weren't such a greedy cow you would be married.
second wife here just read this to my DH. He says if you women on this thread weren't such greedy c*ws you would probably still be married

I can see why he is divorced! Good luck either way as it will be you in the future possibly dealing with 3rd wife.