Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what would you have preferred?

She gave you fairly substantial notice (5hrs- its not like you were already on your way there) and was upfront about wanting to cancel.

Would you rather have gone on a date with someone who didn’t want to be there. If she just came to the realization that day that she wasn’t ready to date, what could she have done differently?

I also agree with everyone else who thinks anger is a concerning emotion to be feeling in this context.

The problem isn't how she said it. It's that he feels she rejected him. She said "no," and there is no right way to do that -- not to him.

So, anger. And guess who is going to get to experience that anger? Yeah. He's not going to deal with his own emotions on his own.

So now you have gone to just making up a complete lie that tOP is somehow going to attack or harass this woman? YOu are disgusting! Honestly, Jeff needs to get a handle on posters like you. You are bad as the men who post nasty comments about women.

- a women sick of the man hating commentary on DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound like a weirdo.

It’s fine to feel disappointed that your date cancelled but feeling angry seems off. This sounds like a you problem

He’s not a weirdo. Not your place to define what the appropriate emotion is. People feel what they feel.

Is this OP spinning out in the replies?

Anonymous wrote:Is this OP responding to posters with all the aggro replies? If so, yikes.

This is what it looks like. And yeah, yikes.

I don't think many decent men realize how pervasive this is for women.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Semantics," PP. "Semantics."

*sigh

You know you've lost an argument when you start critiquing spelling and grammar.. Call a therapist tonight. I hear Better Help is good.

No, PP. I'm a new poster and not arguing with you at all.

It's just painful to see you keep using a word that you can't spell or, it seems, use correctly. I can help with the spelling part. For understanding the words you want to use, you're on your own.

Come back to me when you can speak and write in 4 languages, and tell me about how you never make mistakes and then we will have a discussion.

Anonymous wrote:OP, what would you have preferred?

She gave you fairly substantial notice (5hrs- its not like you were already on your way there) and was upfront about wanting to cancel.

Would you rather have gone on a date with someone who didn’t want to be there. If she just came to the realization that day that she wasn’t ready to date, what could she have done differently?

I also agree with everyone else who thinks anger is a concerning emotion to be feeling in this context.

The problem isn't how she said it. It's that he feels she rejected him. She said "no," and there is no right way to do that -- not to him.

So, anger. And guess who is going to get to experience that anger? Yeah. He's not going to deal with his own emotions on his own.

Anonymous wrote:"Angry" is not at all an appropriate emotion, Op. "Angry" is, frankly, a little scary.

Your need to paint OP as a violent angry male is scary.

Is this OP responding to posters with all the aggro replies? If so, yikes.

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound like a weirdo.

It’s fine to feel disappointed that your date cancelled but feeling angry seems off. This sounds like a you problem

You are definitely a weirdo.

Anonymous wrote:I think OP is a typical man and the only feeling he’s allowed himself to have (due to socialization) is rage. So he actually feels hurt or disappointed, but he has transformed this into anger because that’s an acceptable emotion for a man. I think he should get therapy, not because he’s a bad person, but because being able to identify and feel a range of emotions is healthy.

I think you need therapy.

Anonymous wrote:OP, what would you have preferred?

She gave you fairly substantial notice (5hrs- its not like you were already on your way there) and was upfront about wanting to cancel.

Would you rather have gone on a date with someone who didn’t want to be there. If she just came to the realization that day that she wasn’t ready to date, what could she have done differently?

I also agree with everyone else who thinks anger is a concerning emotion to be feeling in this context.

That just means you are dumb.

Anonymous wrote:OP makes me feel bad for single women.

You make me feel bad for humanity.

OP makes me feel bad for single women.

I hope you let her know how you felt. For her sake.

OP, what would you have preferred?

She gave you fairly substantial notice (5hrs- its not like you were already on your way there) and was upfront about wanting to cancel.

Would you rather have gone on a date with someone who didn’t want to be there. If she just came to the realization that day that she wasn’t ready to date, what could she have done differently?

I also agree with everyone else who thinks anger is a concerning emotion to be feeling in this context.