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Anonymous wrote:An evening reception is no place for children anyway.

A 16 year old? What time do you think they go to bed?

It’s not about bedtime, moron, it’s about access to alcohol.

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If your kids are the only ones of the cousins who would be excluded, I wouldn’t go to this wedding. It sounds like a lot of work—flying cross country!—to rub it in their faces. Go on vacation as a family instead.

Not everything needs to be about your kids! It is not rubbing it in their faces to explain that some weddings, which are about the people getting married (not the kids in the extended family), do not include children, and this one is held in a brewery. Just tell the kids that the wedding is only for adults: this is a GOOD life lesson.

Huh? I’m the PP and I’m not suggesting she ask the bride and groom to change their event. I’m suggesting that she RSVP her regrets.

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Anonymous wrote:An evening reception is no place for children anyway.

A 16 year old? What time do you think they go to bed?

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Anonymous wrote:I’d ask. Nicely. No judgment or complaints.

Asking IS complaining. If the children were invited, their names would have been on the invitation.

My god, are people really this fragile that they will crumble to dust if someone asks a question?

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Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

In my extended family these are absolutely family events. Out of 16 cousins only one - the very youngest - had a “no kids” wedding.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d ask. Nicely. No judgment or complaints.

Asking IS complaining. If the children were invited, their names would have been on the invitation.

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Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

In my extended family these are absolutely family events. Out of 16 cousins only one - the very youngest - had a “no kids” wedding.

Anonymous wrote:Brewery means no one under 21.

Anonymous wrote:I’d ask. Nicely. No judgment or complaints.

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Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

Anonymous wrote:An evening reception is no place for children anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Ask. We had a weird situation where we weren't going to attend a family wedding because it was "no kids" but when the parents of the bride heard this, we were informed that kids within the close family could come. The couple was later among their friend group to marry so if everyone brought kids it would have been like a toddler daycare. We triple checked with the couple because we didn't want to appear presumptuous, and made it clear that we were fine either way, just wanted to clarify.

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One of DH’s cousins was getting married and the invitation specified no kids at the reception. So, we went to the ceremony with our then 6, 4, and 2 year olds, and then started walking out to leave (they were at the same place, thankfully). The mother of the bride came running after us, asking where we were going and when we explained she laughed and said, “oh no, that was because we didn’t want the teenage cousins here getting drunk. Your kids are fine.” So we stayed and had fun.

Note: if it’s not family, I just wouldn’t go, period. But I think you have a little more leeway.

Anonymous wrote:Our kids are teens -- 13 and 16. After twice delaying, our niece has finally settled on a wedding date in September. We bought the tickets, RSVPed, and tonight I was looking for her wedding registry when my eyes came accross their no-children policy: "Also, because our celebration will be at a brewery we request no children during the event. "

So... is this mean as nobody under 21? Nobody under 18? No young kids? yes for the older teen but no for the younger one?

The wedding is on the west coast, and it would be our first travel since covid. Kids are not in need of babysitting, but are old enough to be disappointed for not being able to attend their cousin's wedding. Not old enough to leave them home for a few days, but do we fly accross the States through the remains of the pandemics just for half the family to not be able to attend?

We have a large extended family, and have always cherished graduations, weddings or annual celebrations as ways to get together with loved ones. We have not had a chance to do any one of those things post covid, and this is a first event in our family. We are the youngest, and our children are the youngest among the cousins, all of whom are drinking age. So they will be, along with the younger generation of toddlers, the single ones of their cousins uninvited.

Would you politely decline?

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Anonymous wrote:I would skip the wedding on principal. I get that the couple has the “right” to ban kids … but then I also have the right not to go.

^ Just ask what it means! You don't know if the bride and groom meant for no kids to mean no little kids or no older kids, or no one under 21 or no one under 18, or what.