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Anonymous wrote:This board is full of women whose greatest (and perhaps only) accomplishment was getting married. They literally can't understand women who didn't make The Ring their one and only goal.

Before I married, I had secured a successful career, published bylines in The Washington Post, presented at am international academic conference, earned a Master’s degree, developed close friendships, maintain close family relationships, learned three languages, and traveled the world. And yes, now I also have a husband and children.

Sorry to burst your jealous bubble.

I am not who you are responding to...but me too...same as you (published widely, masters, career, master's etc.)...you got lucky in founding a mate though. I'm divorced. It was an awful marriage and biggest mistake I made. Ironically, I did not aim to get married to begin with. I should have stayed single. Not everyone gets lucky in the mate department--even if it looks right on paper or in public.

Is presenting at an international conference an achievement? It happens pretty much with everyone these days so I would consider it like dime a dozen.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This board is full of women whose greatest (and perhaps only) accomplishment was getting married. They literally can't understand women who didn't make The Ring their one and only goal.

Before I married, I had secured a successful career, published bylines in The Washington Post, presented at am international academic conference, earned a Master’s degree, developed close friendships, maintain close family relationships, learned three languages, and traveled the world. And yes, now I also have a husband and children.

Sorry to burst your jealous bubble.

I am not who you are responding to...but me too...same as you (published widely, masters, career, master's etc.)...you got lucky in founding a mate though. I'm divorced. It was an awful marriage and biggest mistake I made. Ironically, I did not aim to get married to begin with. I should have stayed single. Not everyone gets lucky in the mate department--even if it looks right on paper or in public.

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Anonymous wrote:I have friends IRL who insist they want to get married and have kids, ask to be set up, etc., and then make various choices that make it less and less likely every year that this will happen. This drives me nuts. These are women who would make great partners and mothers, in addition to the other things they are doing in their lives. I want them to find what they want. And I don't feel like I can say to them, "hey, what are you doing?" Heck, there are men I feel similarly about -- they have somewhat less of a clock, but it's still there. Online, where there's anonymity, is the place where you are more likely to have people tell you the truth about the behavior you're engaging in and how it's not consistent with your professed goals. That there are trade-offs, and trying to check off all of your boxes is likely to keep you single - which is fine if you're ok with that.

I know someone like this. She always talks about “someday when I have kids”…she just turned 43 and is not currently dating anyone. She really, really wants to be a mom but she has this crazy list of dealbreakers for men she’ll consider dating/marrying.

Anonymous wrote:I have friends IRL who insist they want to get married and have kids, ask to be set up, etc., and then make various choices that make it less and less likely every year that this will happen. This drives me nuts. These are women who would make great partners and mothers, in addition to the other things they are doing in their lives. I want them to find what they want. And I don't feel like I can say to them, "hey, what are you doing?" Heck, there are men I feel similarly about -- they have somewhat less of a clock, but it's still there. Online, where there's anonymity, is the place where you are more likely to have people tell you the truth about the behavior you're engaging in and how it's not consistent with your professed goals. That there are trade-offs, and trying to check off all of your boxes is likely to keep you single - which is fine if you're ok with that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This board is full of women whose greatest (and perhaps only) accomplishment was getting married. They literally can't understand women who didn't make The Ring their one and only goal.

Before I married, I had secured a successful career, published bylines in The Washington Post, presented at am international academic conference, earned a Master’s degree, developed close friendships, maintain close family relationships, learned three languages, and traveled the world. And yes, now I also have a husband and children.

Sorry to burst your jealous bubble.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This board is full of women whose greatest (and perhaps only) accomplishment was getting married. They literally can't understand women who didn't make The Ring their one and only goal.

Before I married, I had secured a successful career, published bylines in The Washington Post, presented at am international academic conference, earned a Master’s degree, developed close friendships, maintain close family relationships, learned three languages, and traveled the world. And yes, now I also have a husband and children.

Sorry to burst your jealous bubble.

NP. But you are still so desperately insecure that you felt like you had to share this!

Anonymous wrote:I always find these conversations funny - are Elizabeth Hurley, Naomi Campbell, AOC, Krysten Sinema to be pitied because they never married?

What if you only had a 3-year starter marriage like Padma Lakshmi?

What if you got married late and never had kids like Kamala Harris?

What if you've been divorced or 'single' for over a decade like Katie Couric?

What if you married a douchebag like Meghan Edmonds King or Kate Gosselin + forced to raise 3-10 kids on your own?

Wake up.

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Anonymous wrote:This board is full of women whose greatest (and perhaps only) accomplishment was getting married. They literally can't understand women who didn't make The Ring their one and only goal.

YES. And, there is a lot of insecurity ~ think about it, single childless women at 37 probably look a lot better and are way more financially independent than the average DCUM SAHM posting on here all day while her husband is off at the office (with old, attractive, single hussies like the OP ) ~ so a lot of it is insecurity.

A single woman who didn't have to "make the man her plan" is an outlier, a threat/challenge, and always a target.

ROFL that's my age and no way am I envious of my single peers.