A modest two-piece? Fine. An actual bikini on a ten-year-old? No way.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a girl but grew up in the competitive and professional dance world and for those who don’t think two pieces are sexualizing, I beg of you to do a little digging into when and how they became popular. When I was growing up it was very “popular” to start putting 4 & 5 year olds in two piece costumes and dance suggestively. I do think a lot of dance companies are starting to come off of that, but it was then - when competitive dance started meaning two piece costumes and grinding - that two piece swimsuits for little girls took off. There’s been a lot of debate in the dance world since and I do think they’re starting to correct it but those that think it didn’t have a sexualizing origin are just naive.

So what are the specializing origins of boys’ stomachs/chests being exposed? Because if it’s sexualizing for girls to show stomach, it must be for boys, too. Or are boys’ bodies not sexual?

Huh. It's hard to even know where to start. It's like if an alien landed on Earth and we had to explain the concepts of culture, gender, and sexuality.

+1. These posters are playing dumb so they can dress their kids up "like mini me!" for Instagram

I don’t have Instagram and my daughter and I dress completely differently. I do understand our puritanical culture and the origins of sexualizing females. I’m tired of it, and I want better for my daughter. It starts with rejected sexualization and having the same standards for girls that we do for boys. Girls’ bodies are no more sexual than boys’ bodies.

Ok so then why are they in different suits? Why do boys wear rash guards and girls bikinis?
Both my kids (boy and girl) wear rash guards and board shorts. Because kids need sun protection and comfort to run and play. I'm not dressing them differently because they are different genders.

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2 pieces are SO much easier to wear. Using the bathroom in a one piece is hell. I send my 4 year old to camp in 2 pieces because they're just easier for her and less hassle.

Any age because wearing a two piece is about personal preference and comfort, not about sexualizing the person wearing it. My DD went from wearing swim diapers with a rash guard to wearing two pieces with a rash guard. She has a few one pieces, but we usually just reserve those for indoor pools or the rare occasion when sun is not a factor. Agree with PP they are more annoying for little kids who are not totally independent with the potty.

My DD actually thinks of one pieces as "grown up" swimsuits because that's what I wear mostly. But again -- personal preference. I'm not wearing a one piece because it's more covered up, I'm wearing it because they tend to fit my body better and I find them easier to keep in place when I'm playing on the beach or at the pool. I don't care how other people perceive me in it.

get her a tankini at that age. or a two piece with a ruffly top that sort of flows down toward her middle. Those are what my DD wore at 10 and she loved them and felt very grown up without showing off a lot of skin. not all two pieces have to be string bikinis.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a girl but grew up in the competitive and professional dance world and for those who don’t think two pieces are sexualizing, I beg of you to do a little digging into when and how they became popular. When I was growing up it was very “popular” to start putting 4 & 5 year olds in two piece costumes and dance suggestively. I do think a lot of dance companies are starting to come off of that, but it was then - when competitive dance started meaning two piece costumes and grinding - that two piece swimsuits for little girls took off. There’s been a lot of debate in the dance world since and I do think they’re starting to correct it but those that think it didn’t have a sexualizing origin are just naive.

So what are the specializing origins of boys’ stomachs/chests being exposed? Because if it’s sexualizing for girls to show stomach, it must be for boys, too. Or are boys’ bodies not sexual?

Huh. It's hard to even know where to start. It's like if an alien landed on Earth and we had to explain the concepts of culture, gender, and sexuality.

+1. These posters are playing dumb so they can dress their kids up "like mini me!" for Instagram

I don’t have Instagram and my daughter and I dress completely differently. I do understand our puritanical culture and the origins of sexualizing females. I’m tired of it, and I want better for my daughter. It starts with rejected sexualization and having the same standards for girls that we do for boys. Girls’ bodies are no more sexual than boys’ bodies.

Ok so then why are they in different suits? Why do boys wear rash guards and girls bikinis?
Both my kids (boy and girl) wear rash guards and board shorts. Because kids need sun protection and comfort to run and play. I'm not dressing them differently because they are different genders.

I have no idea what you are talking about, I only have one child, a daughter. Our swimwear choices depend on time of day and what we feel like wearing. If it’s midday, we’ll usually wear rash guards, but not always. If it’s evening, often DD chooses to just wear bottoms because that’s what is most comfortable for her. Same with normal clothes, as soon as she gets home she likes to take her shirt off because it’s more comfortable for her.

Her best friend is a little boy and same thing. Usually UV protection during the day, whatever he wants in the evening. If he wanted to wear a pink bikini bottom, he could. Sometimes they even swim naked together at his family’s pool 😱

How old is the daughter you are taking topless in public?

NP. I guarantee you the child is young enough that you can't tell her from a boy unless you ask or check--which would make you the perv. Why do you care?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a girl but grew up in the competitive and professional dance world and for those who don’t think two pieces are sexualizing, I beg of you to do a little digging into when and how they became popular. When I was growing up it was very “popular” to start putting 4 & 5 year olds in two piece costumes and dance suggestively. I do think a lot of dance companies are starting to come off of that, but it was then - when competitive dance started meaning two piece costumes and grinding - that two piece swimsuits for little girls took off. There’s been a lot of debate in the dance world since and I do think they’re starting to correct it but those that think it didn’t have a sexualizing origin are just naive.

So what are the specializing origins of boys’ stomachs/chests being exposed? Because if it’s sexualizing for girls to show stomach, it must be for boys, too. Or are boys’ bodies not sexual?

Huh. It's hard to even know where to start. It's like if an alien landed on Earth and we had to explain the concepts of culture, gender, and sexuality.

+1. These posters are playing dumb so they can dress their kids up "like mini me!" for Instagram

I don’t have Instagram and my daughter and I dress completely differently. I do understand our puritanical culture and the origins of sexualizing females. I’m tired of it, and I want better for my daughter. It starts with rejected sexualization and having the same standards for girls that we do for boys. Girls’ bodies are no more sexual than boys’ bodies.

Ok so then why are they in different suits? Why do boys wear rash guards and girls bikinis?
Both my kids (boy and girl) wear rash guards and board shorts. Because kids need sun protection and comfort to run and play. I'm not dressing them differently because they are different genders.

I have no idea what you are talking about, I only have one child, a daughter. Our swimwear choices depend on time of day and what we feel like wearing. If it’s midday, we’ll usually wear rash guards, but not always. If it’s evening, often DD chooses to just wear bottoms because that’s what is most comfortable for her. Same with normal clothes, as soon as she gets home she likes to take her shirt off because it’s more comfortable for her.

Her best friend is a little boy and same thing. Usually UV protection during the day, whatever he wants in the evening. If he wanted to wear a pink bikini bottom, he could. Sometimes they even swim naked together at his family’s pool 😱

How old is the daughter you are taking topless in public?

She’s 5.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a girl but grew up in the competitive and professional dance world and for those who don’t think two pieces are sexualizing, I beg of you to do a little digging into when and how they became popular. When I was growing up it was very “popular” to start putting 4 & 5 year olds in two piece costumes and dance suggestively. I do think a lot of dance companies are starting to come off of that, but it was then - when competitive dance started meaning two piece costumes and grinding - that two piece swimsuits for little girls took off. There’s been a lot of debate in the dance world since and I do think they’re starting to correct it but those that think it didn’t have a sexualizing origin are just naive.

So what are the specializing origins of boys’ stomachs/chests being exposed? Because if it’s sexualizing for girls to show stomach, it must be for boys, too. Or are boys’ bodies not sexual?

Huh. It's hard to even know where to start. It's like if an alien landed on Earth and we had to explain the concepts of culture, gender, and sexuality.

+1. These posters are playing dumb so they can dress their kids up "like mini me!" for Instagram

I don’t have Instagram and my daughter and I dress completely differently. I do understand our puritanical culture and the origins of sexualizing females. I’m tired of it, and I want better for my daughter. It starts with rejected sexualization and having the same standards for girls that we do for boys. Girls’ bodies are no more sexual than boys’ bodies.

Ok so then why are they in different suits? Why do boys wear rash guards and girls bikinis?
Both my kids (boy and girl) wear rash guards and board shorts. Because kids need sun protection and comfort to run and play. I'm not dressing them differently because they are different genders.

I have no idea what you are talking about, I only have one child, a daughter. Our swimwear choices depend on time of day and what we feel like wearing. If it’s midday, we’ll usually wear rash guards, but not always. If it’s evening, often DD chooses to just wear bottoms because that’s what is most comfortable for her. Same with normal clothes, as soon as she gets home she likes to take her shirt off because it’s more comfortable for her.

Her best friend is a little boy and same thing. Usually UV protection during the day, whatever he wants in the evening. If he wanted to wear a pink bikini bottom, he could. Sometimes they even swim naked together at his family’s pool 😱

How old is the daughter you are taking topless in public?

14, but right now she's just an A-cup

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a girl but grew up in the competitive and professional dance world and for those who don’t think two pieces are sexualizing, I beg of you to do a little digging into when and how they became popular. When I was growing up it was very “popular” to start putting 4 & 5 year olds in two piece costumes and dance suggestively. I do think a lot of dance companies are starting to come off of that, but it was then - when competitive dance started meaning two piece costumes and grinding - that two piece swimsuits for little girls took off. There’s been a lot of debate in the dance world since and I do think they’re starting to correct it but those that think it didn’t have a sexualizing origin are just naive.

So what are the specializing origins of boys’ stomachs/chests being exposed? Because if it’s sexualizing for girls to show stomach, it must be for boys, too. Or are boys’ bodies not sexual?

Huh. It's hard to even know where to start. It's like if an alien landed on Earth and we had to explain the concepts of culture, gender, and sexuality.

+1. These posters are playing dumb so they can dress their kids up "like mini me!" for Instagram

I don’t have Instagram and my daughter and I dress completely differently. I do understand our puritanical culture and the origins of sexualizing females. I’m tired of it, and I want better for my daughter. It starts with rejected sexualization and having the same standards for girls that we do for boys. Girls’ bodies are no more sexual than boys’ bodies.

Ok so then why are they in different suits? Why do boys wear rash guards and girls bikinis?
Both my kids (boy and girl) wear rash guards and board shorts. Because kids need sun protection and comfort to run and play. I'm not dressing them differently because they are different genders.

I have no idea what you are talking about, I only have one child, a daughter. Our swimwear choices depend on time of day and what we feel like wearing. If it’s midday, we’ll usually wear rash guards, but not always. If it’s evening, often DD chooses to just wear bottoms because that’s what is most comfortable for her. Same with normal clothes, as soon as she gets home she likes to take her shirt off because it’s more comfortable for her.

Her best friend is a little boy and same thing. Usually UV protection during the day, whatever he wants in the evening. If he wanted to wear a pink bikini bottom, he could. Sometimes they even swim naked together at his family’s pool 😱

How old is the daughter you are taking topless in public?

I think at any age, two-pieces make changing and bathroom easier. I also think it's easier to apply sunblock around more tankini and athletic styles, so I mostly avoid other styles for me, and so far my kids agree with me (oldest is almost 12).

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Anonymous wrote:You never thought of your daughter possibly being prematurely sexualized by wearing a bikini at a young age?
-OP

By making a big deal about her NOT wearing a two piece, you are really the only one who made it sexual.

I think making this a thing is teaching her that there is something wrong with her body. Most two pieces for kids are not anymore “mature” than a one piece

This!

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a girl but grew up in the competitive and professional dance world and for those who don’t think two pieces are sexualizing, I beg of you to do a little digging into when and how they became popular. When I was growing up it was very “popular” to start putting 4 & 5 year olds in two piece costumes and dance suggestively. I do think a lot of dance companies are starting to come off of that, but it was then - when competitive dance started meaning two piece costumes and grinding - that two piece swimsuits for little girls took off. There’s been a lot of debate in the dance world since and I do think they’re starting to correct it but those that think it didn’t have a sexualizing origin are just naive.

So what are the specializing origins of boys’ stomachs/chests being exposed? Because if it’s sexualizing for girls to show stomach, it must be for boys, too. Or are boys’ bodies not sexual?

Huh. It's hard to even know where to start. It's like if an alien landed on Earth and we had to explain the concepts of culture, gender, and sexuality.

+1. These posters are playing dumb so they can dress their kids up "like mini me!" for Instagram

I don’t have Instagram and my daughter and I dress completely differently. I do understand our puritanical culture and the origins of sexualizing females. I’m tired of it, and I want better for my daughter. It starts with rejected sexualization and having the same standards for girls that we do for boys. Girls’ bodies are no more sexual than boys’ bodies.

Ok so then why are they in different suits? Why do boys wear rash guards and girls bikinis?
Both my kids (boy and girl) wear rash guards and board shorts. Because kids need sun protection and comfort to run and play. I'm not dressing them differently because they are different genders.

I have no idea what you are talking about, I only have one child, a daughter. Our swimwear choices depend on time of day and what we feel like wearing. If it’s midday, we’ll usually wear rash guards, but not always. If it’s evening, often DD chooses to just wear bottoms because that’s what is most comfortable for her. Same with normal clothes, as soon as she gets home she likes to take her shirt off because it’s more comfortable for her.

Her best friend is a little boy and same thing. Usually UV protection during the day, whatever he wants in the evening. If he wanted to wear a pink bikini bottom, he could. Sometimes they even swim naked together at his family’s pool 😱

Bikinis are great at all ages. Cover the top with long sleeve rash guard shirts.

Bikini bottom is so convenient if you have to pee or poop. Easy to remove and put back on.

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Anonymous wrote:Unclench and buy a two piece on Boden. Everything is going to be ok.

My 6 yo wears two pieces from Boden. They are cute and it is easier to use the restroom than with a one piece.

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/nostalgic-smocked-bikini-multi-rainbow-gingham/sty-g2594-mul?cat=c1_s13_sh1865

This is what my daughter wears. Not a tankini. Her belly shows. But also not a string bikini.

If anyone finds this sexualizing something is very seriously wrong with them

So why wear the top at all? Why not just have her in the bottoms or naked?

We are required to wear swimsuits at our pool. My son wears a rash guard.

Your SON wears a rash guard? Do you have a daughter? What does she wear? Why are you putting your daughter in a bikini and your son in a rash guard? Almost like you're...sexualizing her?

I let them pick from appropriate things. I believe in empowering children and not being a weirdo.

Uh huh. So your son gets to wear a comfortable and sun protective top and your daughter is offered a bikini.
Pointless in arguing with you people. If you don't see the problem you never will. You are the ones sexualizing your children with their clothing.

Lady, you are nuts. We sit at the computer and my kids scroll through the Boden site and pick out what they want. The end. If my daughter wanted a rash guard, she could have it. When my son wanted pink shoes, he got them.

And lady you are nuts for letting your daughter run around in something less than sun protective because she wants it because it looks like something grown up girls wear. Grow a pair and be a parent.

NP: My 10 year old daughter chooses to wear swim shorts and a "boys" rash guard from lands end. Great. If she wanted to choose any two piece offered by lands end that would also be fine. Would I let her wear a swimsuit I found super skimpy and not appropriate for active play, no. Am I going to insist that she wear a suit as covering as the suits boys tend to wear, no. It's okay to fight against weird cultural double standards, but that's also up to her-I'm not going to force her to fight my battles particularly while I'm wearing a ladies bathing suit.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a girl but grew up in the competitive and professional dance world and for those who don’t think two pieces are sexualizing, I beg of you to do a little digging into when and how they became popular. When I was growing up it was very “popular” to start putting 4 & 5 year olds in two piece costumes and dance suggestively. I do think a lot of dance companies are starting to come off of that, but it was then - when competitive dance started meaning two piece costumes and grinding - that two piece swimsuits for little girls took off. There’s been a lot of debate in the dance world since and I do think they’re starting to correct it but those that think it didn’t have a sexualizing origin are just naive.

So what are the specializing origins of boys’ stomachs/chests being exposed? Because if it’s sexualizing for girls to show stomach, it must be for boys, too. Or are boys’ bodies not sexual?

Huh. It's hard to even know where to start. It's like if an alien landed on Earth and we had to explain the concepts of culture, gender, and sexuality.

+1. These posters are playing dumb so they can dress their kids up "like mini me!" for Instagram

I don’t have Instagram and my daughter and I dress completely differently. I do understand our puritanical culture and the origins of sexualizing females. I’m tired of it, and I want better for my daughter. It starts with rejected sexualization and having the same standards for girls that we do for boys. Girls’ bodies are no more sexual than boys’ bodies.

Ok so then why are they in different suits? Why do boys wear rash guards and girls bikinis?
Both my kids (boy and girl) wear rash guards and board shorts. Because kids need sun protection and comfort to run and play. I'm not dressing them differently because they are different genders.

Oh come on (I'm not PP). Board shorts are traditionally for boys, like swim trunks. You're either naive or arguing just for argument's sake. You never dress them differently because they're different genders? For a formal occasion would you boy wear a gown? Your daughter a tuxedo?