Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is in the same place, and I suspect the previous posters suggesting your child is not ready for college don't have older teens. They will get crummy housing and not their first choice of classes, and hopefully, they'll learn. It's ok and will be ok. Promise.

Without prompting my senior DS has:

--Signed up for a 2-day orientation. He asked about our vacation dates, scheduled it, and took the days off work since it's all day. I have no idea what date it is, and he told me he has prereqs for it that he needs to do

--Found a roommate on IG and applied for housing. We didn't talk about cost because he wanted a hall dorm so he doesn't have to clean a bathroom, so I assume it's the cheapest.

--Been coordinating with friends who are going to school to compare notes and ask questions.

--Forwarded me a payment plan email. I did say earlier that I needed all financial info promptly.

He's told me all of this. I did ask him to look up AP credits and said that I was concerned that he wouldn't have graduate in 4 years, prompting it to cost more. He got annoyed, said he would graduate in 4 years, and that he would handle it (i.e. the details of AP). That's been the extent of my involvement, for comparison's sake.

My kid is doing a double graduation next week...high school and college. She coordinated it all by herself and is so smart she took all of her classes last month. All without prompting. Oh and she has a novel coming out at the end of the summer. Look for it...expected to be on the bestseller list. I'm such an amazing parent.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the kids have already identified roomates and signed up for rooms. If there is summer orientation, it is likely those sign ups have come and gone. Class sign ups? Those may have passed too.

If she isn't connecting with the other incoming freshmen via social media and taking care of the basic minimum of first year of college and housing, then it is will be rougher going come September.

While this may be true for your DC’s school, it isn’t for many. Our DS is attending a top private university where none of this occurs until after June 1.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the kids have already identified roomates and signed up for rooms. If there is summer orientation, it is likely those sign ups have come and gone. Class sign ups? Those may have passed too.

If she isn't connecting with the other incoming freshmen via social media and taking care of the basic minimum of first year of college and housing, then it is will be rougher going come September.

While this may be true for your DC’s school, it isn’t for many. Our DS is attending a top private university where none of this occurs until after June 1.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is in the same place, and I suspect the previous posters suggesting your child is not ready for college don't have older teens. They will get crummy housing and not their first choice of classes, and hopefully, they'll learn. It's ok and will be ok. Promise.

Without prompting my senior DS has:

--Signed up for a 2-day orientation. He asked about our vacation dates, scheduled it, and took the days off work since it's all day. I have no idea what date it is, and he told me he has prereqs for it that he needs to do

--Found a roommate on IG and applied for housing. We didn't talk about cost because he wanted a hall dorm so he doesn't have to clean a bathroom, so I assume it's the cheapest.

--Been coordinating with friends who are going to school to compare notes and ask questions.

--Forwarded me a payment plan email. I did say earlier that I needed all financial info promptly.

He's told me all of this. I did ask him to look up AP credits and said that I was concerned that he wouldn't have graduate in 4 years, prompting it to cost more. He got annoyed, said he would graduate in 4 years, and that he would handle it (i.e. the details of AP). That's been the extent of my involvement, for comparison's sake.

Anonymous wrote:Most of the kids have already identified roomates and signed up for rooms. If there is summer orientation, it is likely those sign ups have come and gone. Class sign ups? Those may have passed too.

If she isn't connecting with the other incoming freshmen via social media and taking care of the basic minimum of first year of college and housing, then it is will be rougher going come September.

Anonymous wrote:Kids in that age don't check emails. They just don't. It's something they have to learn to do and you reminding them is part of that process. They will some snafu down the line because of not checking email that will reinforce what you said, but missing out on an important college deadline is not the snafu you want.

OP, sit her down have a come to Jesus meeting and help her get through this. You're doing fine.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is in the same place, and I suspect the previous posters suggesting your child is not ready for college don't have older teens. They will get crummy housing and not their first choice of classes, and hopefully, they'll learn. It's ok and will be ok. Promise.

Without prompting my senior DS has:

--Signed up for a 2-day orientation. He asked about our vacation dates, scheduled it, and took the days off work since it's all day. I have no idea what date it is, and he told me he has prereqs for it that he needs to do

--Found a roommate on IG and applied for housing. We didn't talk about cost because he wanted a hall dorm so he doesn't have to clean a bathroom, so I assume it's the cheapest.

--Been coordinating with friends who are going to school to compare notes and ask questions.

--Forwarded me a payment plan email. I did say earlier that I needed all financial info promptly.

He's told me all of this. I did ask him to look up AP credits and said that I was concerned that he wouldn't have graduate in 4 years, prompting it to cost more. He got annoyed, said he would graduate in 4 years, and that he would handle it (i.e. the details of AP). That's been the extent of my involvement, for comparison's sake.

Your kid sounds great. You sound a little annoying (this list, e.g.).

-A mom of a kid who is mostly together, but sorta still not back to fighting form after months of horizontal inertia. Fingers crossed she'll pop up and

-- start
-- doing
-- things
-- like
-- this!

I guess it just proves you can have a great kid even when you're annoying! It's not easy to take a backseat, but it's good for both of us. I am kinda proud of both of us because I don't want to be the parent who is all up in my kid's email. I have been working over the last few years to make a life that's focused on me as my kids are launching.