Anonymous wrote:

if my high school daughter and a friend wanted to dye their hair, I would just ask "is it okay with your mom, do you need to check with her?" and assume that the kid would give me an accurate answer.

No child of mine is allowed to go to your house

Consider yourself warned

I don't allow any changes to hair, body (including nails) or clothing without a parent's permission. That could be as simple as the sleepover invitation listing -gel nails -temporary hair dye -bikini waxing. Anyone who lets their minor attend has been informed.

Face paint, makeovers, those are fine. It's a simple matter of washing their faces, and I don't purchase anything carcinogenic. I'd be irritated about the UV light, too. But I wouldn't address it with the mom, instead with the kid.

if my high school daughter and a friend wanted to dye their hair, I would just ask "is it okay with your mom, do you need to check with her?" and assume that the kid would give me an accurate answer.

No child of mine is allowed to go to your house

Op, I would have reacted like you. Then, I would have stepped back and realized this was not so horrible. Not what I would have done. Nothing I liked. You might want to watch for any other disconnect in parenting, but if just this, I'd let it go.