I’ve read through this thread and what I get from it is when a husband marries an attractive wife who will not have sex with them, he resorts to cheating with a woman the husband maligns and despises (displaced anger and sexual frustration). The attractive wife is the winner here. Add in the fact she has her own career, social network and sense of purpose, both parties understand that the wife does not need a man. The man either appreciates the wife as a partner and they can work out a partnership (presumably including intimacy), or he cheats, etc. and she dismisses him as unworthy of her affection.

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Anonymous wrote:She secures one low value man as a provider
And seeks sperm from a higher status male
To try to make higher status children.

Except a lot of these women (most) are mid 40s+ so they aren’t making babies.

So her kids are lower status than his ?

It often is about social/financial improvement, not actually getting pregnant. A 50-year old woman isn’t getting knocked up.

Anonymous wrote:She secures one low value man as a provider
And seeks sperm from a higher status male
To try to make higher status children.

Except a lot of these women (most) are mid 40s+ so they aren’t making babies.

She secures one low value man as a provider
And seeks sperm from a higher status male
To try to make higher status children.

Anonymous wrote:Another hypothesis instead of low self-esteem...maybe hot women nabbed a husband they were actually attracted to, and therefore have no desire to cheat. whereas less attractive women settled for the nice guy with the spare tire, which loses its appeal after a while, so they go looking for fulfillment, and bam, now they can bag a hottie because the market of women available to cheat is lower than men.

Yes. I read a study that women that cheat are almost always unhappy in their marriage whereas most men report they are happily married. For the women it is usually about an exit affair. Not the men. Even if the men did divorce— they almost never kept dating the AP. They could do much better single.

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Anonymous wrote:Women want an attractive man to sleep with. Men want a hole for their pole. Looks are not important for men to cheat.

Well said.

This turns the "men are visual creatures and women aren't" stereotype around. Which is it?

Men are visual creatures, but happily married attractive women aren't interested. Once men get to middle age, they apparently turn less picky than they were when they were young. Judging from the number of old high school guy friends contracting me, ha. (Not interested.)

+1

“Strange” when middle aged and married is a low bar. They can’t openly date and what will settle for that is not market fresh.

Men just want a hole. Some strange is correct. A woman that nobody is going to see in public.

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Anonymous wrote:I am way hotter than AP’s wife, but AP is equal or slight downgrade physically from DH. But he’s a total
alpha and I’m married to a beta.

Sure you are. No matter, you and your cheater AP are total trash, morally-corrupt, lying degenerates.

Notice she married a Beta. That’s because she couldn’t get an alpha when she was single. She settled. Now she is resorting to mate poaching to get laid good. Pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I could share with you all a pic of my ex-DH’s affair partner.

LOl. Was he embarrassed when you found out what she looked like? Are they still together?

He was embarrassed and remorseful but I think for the cheating, not just bc of looks. She’s got a headshot for her ex-employer and it made me LOL. He ghosted her before I found out but she went crazy and stalked him and me. Ugly inside and out. I do wish you all could take a look for yourself. Maybe you someone here knows her. She’s middle aged married lawyer.

Ha! Ex’s was a SAHM and awful. Plain awful. She’s has had to get a menial job since discovery and same—that ugly mug in the headshot but her hands cupping her v-jay trying to look sexy is so pathetic, especially at 50. Sparkly shirt too—like she’s 15. Wtf? Trash.

I’d say they were the same woman, but this one hasn’t worked a real job in 20+ years and dumb as a stump. Mine was horrified when everyone saw her photos.

But when was the last time you sent him a fun, flirty, suggestive pic?

Exactly.

Sheet, a hideous SAH qoman was placed higher than a hot WOH qo.an by the hot husband. Dayyuuuummm!!!

We had sex 4-5 times per week—-and he spent thousands on me. She got nothing. No gifts. No dinners. She got screwed once a month in her own home- stayed 40 min at lunch.

If you call that winning you have very low standards like most OW.

Anonymous wrote:He “loathed” the OW and she was so ugly he screwed her weekly for four years.

Once a month. And sometimes 6-7 weeks in between. He is the first to say her face was awful and if I could post a photo you would see for yourself. But - missing the point anyways. It’s not about the person for many cheaters. Her body wasn’t awful but not exactly hot— a tire mid section. And part of the sickness was having control over woman—somebody chasing him. Then tearing her down, degrading her. He was brutal when he broke up with her.

Neither here nor there. He’s someone else’s problem now. And she will be on to her next Internet screw.

He “loathed” the OW and she was so ugly he screwed her weekly for four years.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I could share with you all a pic of my ex-DH’s affair partner.

LOl. Was he embarrassed when you found out what she looked like? Are they still together?

He was embarrassed and remorseful but I think for the cheating, not just bc of looks. She’s got a headshot for her ex-employer and it made me LOL. He ghosted her before I found out but she went crazy and stalked him and me. Ugly inside and out. I do wish you all could take a look for yourself. Maybe you someone here knows her. She’s middle aged married lawyer.

Ha! Ex’s was a SAHM and awful. Plain awful. She’s has had to get a menial job since discovery and same—that ugly mug in the headshot but her hands cupping her v-jay trying to look sexy is so pathetic, especially at 50. Sparkly shirt too—like she’s 15. Wtf? Trash.

I’d say they were the same woman, but this one hasn’t worked a real job in 20+ years and dumb as a stump. Mine was horrified when everyone saw her photos.

But when was the last time you sent him a fun, flirty, suggestive pic?

Exactly.

Sheet, a hideous SAH qoman was placed higher than a hot WOH qo.an by the hot husband. Dayyuuuummm!!!

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I could share with you all a pic of my ex-DH’s affair partner.

LOl. Was he embarrassed when you found out what she looked like? Are they still together?

He was embarrassed and remorseful but I think for the cheating, not just bc of looks. She’s got a headshot for her ex-employer and it made me LOL. He ghosted her before I found out but she went crazy and stalked him and me. Ugly inside and out. I do wish you all could take a look for yourself. Maybe you someone here knows her. She’s middle aged married lawyer.

Ha! Ex’s was a SAHM and awful. Plain awful. She’s has had to get a menial job since discovery and same—that ugly mug in the headshot but her hands cupping her v-jay trying to look sexy is so pathetic, especially at 50. Sparkly shirt too—like she’s 15. Wtf? Trash.

I’d say they were the same woman, but this one hasn’t worked a real job in 20+ years and dumb as a stump. Mine was horrified when everyone saw her photos.

But when was the last time you sent him a fun, flirty, suggestive pic?

Exactly.

He would tell me to send them all of the time. So very frequently.

Now that I’m [not] with him I don’t send them.

You were sending him flirty suggestive pictures before and during his cheating? Honestly??

Yep.

And he was sending them to me as well—-and planning romantic hotel visits and fancy dinners and spent over $10k on a milestone Bday for me. The love notes and big deal he made for our 20th wedding anniversary, the Inn at Little Washington. He made me a morning latte (every morning and brought it to me in bed) and would buy my favorite coffee beans and leave them with sticky notes with a heart drawn on them. Sexy lingerie, a vibrator. I’m THE WIFE and he did all of those things and grabbing my ass and telling me how hot I was while he carried on screwing some whore off the Internet for almost 4 years a few times a month. He has always loved my feet and would ask for me to send him photos of new pedicure, etc.

To say I was floored to learn about this affair is a gigantic big f—ing understatement.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I could share with you all a pic of my ex-DH’s affair partner.

LOl. Was he embarrassed when you found out what she looked like? Are they still together?

He was embarrassed and remorseful but I think for the cheating, not just bc of looks. She’s got a headshot for her ex-employer and it made me LOL. He ghosted her before I found out but she went crazy and stalked him and me. Ugly inside and out. I do wish you all could take a look for yourself. Maybe you someone here knows her. She’s middle aged married lawyer.

Ha! Ex’s was a SAHM and awful. Plain awful. She’s has had to get a menial job since discovery and same—that ugly mug in the headshot but her hands cupping her v-jay trying to look sexy is so pathetic, especially at 50. Sparkly shirt too—like she’s 15. Wtf? Trash.

I’d say they were the same woman, but this one hasn’t worked a real job in 20+ years and dumb as a stump. Mine was horrified when everyone saw her photos.

But when was the last time you sent him a fun, flirty, suggestive pic?

Exactly.

He would tell me to send them all of the time. So very frequently.

Now that I’m [not] with him I don’t send them.

You were sending him flirty suggestive pictures before and during his cheating? Honestly??

Anonymous wrote:I am way hotter than AP’s wife, but AP is equal or slight downgrade physically from DH. But he’s a total
alpha and I’m married to a beta.

Sure you are. No matter, you and your cheater AP are total trash, morally-corrupt, lying degenerates.