Anonymous
Post 02/28/2021 07:17     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We conceived our first child in August 2013. Her sex drive cratered immediately. Zero sex during that pregnancy. She had some tearing during delivery, developed thyroid issues too. Add in a bad sleeper and return to work, and we had essentially zero sex for almost a year after he was born. So basically 20 months.

Things started to improve a bit, when literally the first time we had full sex in a year, she got pregnant (surprise). Sex drive completely disappeared at that point (2016), parathyroid issues developed, weight gain, financial stress for a time, and then severe job stress (from a job that helped alleviate the financial stress).

Basically, aside from the occasional encounter that I have to insist on (and she ends up enjoying), I haven’t had a real sex life in 7.5 years. We probably average one exhausted, half-hearted encounter every few months. She’s anxious about another pregnancy and can’t stand IUDs, so the plan is for me to get snipped when COVID ends. She says that will help, but who knows.


My wife said the same thing and I got snipped. That was close to three years ago, we've probably had sex 4 times since. I've accepted it. Once our kids are out, I am out.


The good news is the vasectomy is useful for affairs.


Whether your a woman or a man, that's one twisted sick post.


NP, it's true though. I got snipped, my wife still doesn't want to have sex, and it's very liberating to know I can't get an AP pregnant.

But hey, I would rather be you, having a great sex life and judging people for coping how they must.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2021 07:15     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:We conceived our first child in August 2013. Her sex drive cratered immediately. Zero sex during that pregnancy. She had some tearing during delivery, developed thyroid issues too. Add in a bad sleeper and return to work, and we had essentially zero sex for almost a year after he was born. So basically 20 months.

Things started to improve a bit, when literally the first time we had full sex in a year, she got pregnant (surprise). Sex drive completely disappeared at that point (2016), parathyroid issues developed, weight gain, financial stress for a time, and then severe job stress (from a job that helped alleviate the financial stress).

Basically, aside from the occasional encounter that I have to insist on (and she ends up enjoying), I haven’t had a real sex life in 7.5 years. We probably average one exhausted, half-hearted encounter every few months. She’s anxious about another pregnancy and can’t stand IUDs, so the plan is for me to get snipped when COVID ends. She says that will help, but who knows.


Wow, same story here except my oldest was born 2010. I got snipped 5 years ago and it made no difference.

If people want to have sex, they will. I am sorry for what you are going through. You are more loyal than most people are.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2021 06:05     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We conceived our first child in August 2013. Her sex drive cratered immediately. Zero sex during that pregnancy. She had some tearing during delivery, developed thyroid issues too. Add in a bad sleeper and return to work, and we had essentially zero sex for almost a year after he was born. So basically 20 months.

Things started to improve a bit, when literally the first time we had full sex in a year, she got pregnant (surprise). Sex drive completely disappeared at that point (2016), parathyroid issues developed, weight gain, financial stress for a time, and then severe job stress (from a job that helped alleviate the financial stress).

Basically, aside from the occasional encounter that I have to insist on (and she ends up enjoying), I haven’t had a real sex life in 7.5 years. We probably average one exhausted, half-hearted encounter every few months. She’s anxious about another pregnancy and can’t stand IUDs, so the plan is for me to get snipped when COVID ends. She says that will help, but who knows.


My wife said the same thing and I got snipped. That was close to three years ago, we've probably had sex 4 times since. I've accepted it. Once our kids are out, I am out.


The good news is the vasectomy is useful for affairs.


Whether your a woman or a man, that's one twisted sick post.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2021 05:10     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:People that want to have sex find ways to have sex.
People that don’t, don’t.
Been 4.5 years since my wife decided she was no longer interested.


Just let her know you are no longer interested in monogamy.
Anonymous
Post 02/28/2021 03:00     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We conceived our first child in August 2013. Her sex drive cratered immediately. Zero sex during that pregnancy. She had some tearing during delivery, developed thyroid issues too. Add in a bad sleeper and return to work, and we had essentially zero sex for almost a year after he was born. So basically 20 months.

Things started to improve a bit, when literally the first time we had full sex in a year, she got pregnant (surprise). Sex drive completely disappeared at that point (2016), parathyroid issues developed, weight gain, financial stress for a time, and then severe job stress (from a job that helped alleviate the financial stress).

Basically, aside from the occasional encounter that I have to insist on (and she ends up enjoying), I haven’t had a real sex life in 7.5 years. We probably average one exhausted, half-hearted encounter every few months. She’s anxious about another pregnancy and can’t stand IUDs, so the plan is for me to get snipped when COVID ends. She says that will help, but who knows.


My wife said the same thing and I got snipped. That was close to three years ago, we've probably had sex 4 times since. I've accepted it. Once our kids are out, I am out.


The good news is the vasectomy is useful for affairs.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 23:48     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
Anonymous wrote:People that want to have sex find ways to have sex.
People that don’t, don’t.
Been 4.5 years since my wife decided she was no longer interested.


This is heartbreaking. Why won’t you two just separate or open the marriage? are you honest with the women you sleep with about your circumstance or so you pretend to be single?
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 23:46     Subject: Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
People that want to have sex find ways to have sex.
People that don’t, don’t.
Been 4.5 years since my wife decided she was no longer interested.
Anonymous
Post 02/27/2021 19:05     Subject: Re:Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage
We went 4 months without once for my health reasons (plus I was starting a new job at the same time). It almost caused us to break up. Since then, two weeks after normal vaginal birth.