Anonymous wrote:Elder law attorney, happily married with kids. Have really questioned the career at times, and loved it at times. It requires perpetual learning so I'm always interested, and love the elderly clients. But I do have the combination of perfectionism and procrastination, and hella anxiety, so those things can be challenging. I'm constantly pushing back against them, which can be exhausting. Been in a lot of therapy and think I would have made a good therapist myself. A bit late now, I'm good. Overall I'm happy and fulfilled, if not a bit angsty.

I also think I would make a good therapist after learning so much in therapy.

INFJ who was a lawyer and switched roles to a career counselor. Much happier.

YES, I just found this is my type. I am a ghostwriter, married with 3 kids, 37 years old.

I’m a night owl too but I don’t understand the relationship between being an Infj and a night owl. They shouldn’t been related in any way!

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Anonymous wrote:Are we all night owls, too? I posted at around 11:30, and figured that was the last entry for the night; however, it looks like lots of INFJ people are still up. I love nighttime - I can be alone, my family is asleep, and I can just lay in bed and listen to music or work without interruption.

I am a night owl right down to my bones. It's like my soul turns on around 9 pm. I'm up til midnight most nights, and if I didn't have small kids and a job, my default would probably be 1 or later. I am useless in the early mornings. I don't even shower in the morning. The though of other people getting up and exercising before work blows my mind.

So my problem is that I like to do things like working out late at night (like 10pm) and then I’m a wreck in the mornings. I HATE waking up.

Also, I’m doing the most introverted thing these days: I’m off of work and am spending hours playing my guitar. Normally I play with people, but obviously that’s not a thing right now, so I’m working through an online guitar course. Learning about chord embellishments and the Dorian modal scale, and I’m happy as a clam!

Anonymous wrote:Are we all night owls, too? I posted at around 11:30, and figured that was the last entry for the night; however, it looks like lots of INFJ people are still up. I love nighttime - I can be alone, my family is asleep, and I can just lay in bed and listen to music or work without interruption.

I am a night owl right down to my bones. It's like my soul turns on around 9 pm. I'm up til midnight most nights, and if I didn't have small kids and a job, my default would probably be 1 or later. I am useless in the early mornings. I don't even shower in the morning. The though of other people getting up and exercising before work blows my mind.

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Anonymous wrote:For the married people, did you take a long time to find a boyfriend or husband because they weren't perfect enough for you?

No, I did it wrong the first time. Too loyal, and I shouldn't have been.

Did you feel you needed more time to get to know them and they cheated?

Too young. It was a short marriage. I ended it when it was clear he couldn't care less about very much....he took nothing seriously, didn't make any effort. My 2nd marriage is going on 40 years.

Anonymous wrote:For the married people, did you take a long time to find a boyfriend or husband because they weren't perfect enough for you?

No. I got married at 26 and my husband is my person. With friendships that have ended, I will tell friends I’m hurt or upset by something said or done, but I don’t really share how much or the full extent of my feelings. I forgive, but I remember. If it happens again, I may forgive you but it doesn’t take that much to reach a limit. It’s not that I’m ghosting you, but I keep my circle small and just don’t have the emotional bandwidth to invest anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:For the married people, did you take a long time to find a boyfriend or husband because they weren't perfect enough for you?

No, I did it wrong the first time. Too loyal, and I shouldn't have been.

Did you feel you needed more time to get to know them and they cheated?

Anonymous wrote:For the married people, did you take a long time to find a boyfriend or husband because they weren't perfect enough for you?

No, I did it wrong the first time. Too loyal, and I shouldn't have been.

Anonymous wrote:For the married people, did you take a long time to find a boyfriend or husband because they weren't perfect enough for you?

If I am this type, which I do fit, but whatever, no, it did not take me long. Married young, but I did go on one date with a guy prior and I had a crush on him for months, and then he was a total loser and that was it. There was never going to be a second date or a second chance. Is that in line with this type?
I married the guy that I was sure was right for me. Never questioned it, it all works great, he is a great guy, 28 years later.

I was told I am this type. Don't know what it means really. I made decisions, don't doubt them. I was a professional piano player at one point in my life. I am in academia. I am an introvert but can appear extremely sociable.
But, I am extremely down to earth, though. I do have high expectations of myself and of others usually. I am married, I have two kids. I married at 22 and knew it was the right decision, never regretted it.
I don't know, does that make me this type?
I mean, could I not just want to be this type and hence proclaim myself this type and pick and choose things I do that make me this type?
Likely many artistic, reserves, sensitive people are introverted or extroverted?
What if I make decisions and they work, but I am just actually getting lucky?

I provide career resources. I've always been drawn to jobs where I feel like I can help people reach their full potential. While I've never been an engineer, I love social engineering - creating environments and structures that help people and groups connect.

Enjoy small groups and one-on-one. Interesting that one commonality among those posting is feeling slightly different/misfit. Really value relationships but yes, can be hard to make good friends.

Married, romantic at heart.

Also: Enneagram 9 (another interesting personality typology if you like MBTI).

For the married people, did you take a long time to find a boyfriend or husband because they weren't perfect enough for you?

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Anonymous wrote:I thought intj was the rarest- that’s me. I’m a designer, married.

I probably have adhd. I analyze things try to understand things, I enjoy it like figuring out a puzzle. I used to be terrible at maintaining any kind of healthy habits or routines, but I recently have found something that’s working for me. I enjoy my friends and family but in doses. I enjoy my time alone and would never run out of hobbies and curiosities to keep my interest. I love my kids and they also exhaust me because they are always asking things of me throughout the day.

I’m an INTJ. I’ve heard it’s the rarest for women, not sure if it’s the rarest overall. I probably also have ADHD. I’m an attorney and am in management. I am a problem-solver. I’m told that I have great leadership skills. I expect a lot from myself and from others. I am highly disciplined, which leads to healthy habits. I always think with my head, not my heart, which can cause others to think I’m cold. I tell my friends and family I’m the person they should call if they have a problem that needs to be fixed, but if you want a shoulder to cry on, I’m not your girl. I feel the same as you about my kids- I love them, but they exhaust me.

INFJ and ENFJ are the rarest for men and INFJ rarest for both genders.

INTJ seems to be one of the most common personality types. I believe the people claiming ADHD might not be related to this personality type. I have known more extroverted than introverted people with ADHD.