Anonymous
02/08/2021 18:04
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, No sport, no school. Snow on the ground so yea
Oh, well, if there's snow on the ground, that's OK, then. We'll just put the pandemic on pause until it melts.
COVID less risky than depression over the next few weeks for us
COVID and depression are separate issues. If your child is experiencing depression, get them help. You cannot pause the pandemic.
Anonymous
02/08/2021 18:02
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, all of my kids see their friends inside, maskless. Not as many friends as before this of course, but each child has a small handful of friends that they play with regularly. I’m no longer enforcing zero contact, as it’s been nearly a year. They are homeschooled now, so social interaction is important for the emotional and mental healthy. Right now that’s a bigger threat to them than covid.
This. Exactly this.
Anonymous
02/08/2021 17:52
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DD has a friend whose parents truly believe that when she comes here they are outside only. In the rain. Snow. Cold. They are not. The girls are 17/18. We are fine with having her inside because she and her family are super Covid safe.
Just saying you may think your amazing child is following your rules and they might not be. She goes and sits outside on our porch right before they pick her up. If the mother asked me I’d tell her the truth but I’m not goin out if my way to tell her.
Wow. You suck.
And this is why we don’t let our kids socialize with their friends right now. You can’t trust others to follow the rules.
Why do I suck? Seriously- I thought about telling her mom but they are 17 and 18 years old. I did tell my DD that she ought to tell her friend to be more true truthful with her mom. But... hasn’t it always been my house, my rules? That’s how it goes, right? I think it’s on this girl to tell her parents that she is choosing to come indoors at our place. Or maybe your “you suck” is because I let her? In that case, I get it, I guess. But we are also very careful and hopefully not exposing this girl to anything. I don’t know. I feel like people are making decisions based on risk assessments and the threat (or very real presence) of mental health issues. At this point it is what it is.
But you know that the mother has different expectations. Why would you not respect that? I bet you are the mom who lets them drink at your house too. Stop with the mental health issues. Unhappy is not a mental health issue. These kids have myriad ways in which they can interact.
How old are your kids?? Let me guess, young teens that you drive everywhere. Come back with your judgement when they're 18.
Anonymous
02/08/2021 17:48
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DD has a friend whose parents truly believe that when she comes here they are outside only. In the rain. Snow. Cold. They are not. The girls are 17/18. We are fine with having her inside because she and her family are super Covid safe.
Just saying you may think your amazing child is following your rules and they might not be. She goes and sits outside on our porch right before they pick her up. If the mother asked me I’d tell her the truth but I’m not goin out if my way to tell her.
Wow. You suck.
And this is why we don’t let our kids socialize with their friends right now. You can’t trust others to follow the rules.
Why do I suck? Seriously- I thought about telling her mom but they are 17 and 18 years old. I did tell my DD that she ought to tell her friend to be more true truthful with her mom. But... hasn’t it always been my house, my rules? That’s how it goes, right? I think it’s on this girl to tell her parents that she is choosing to come indoors at our place. Or maybe your “you suck” is because I let her? In that case, I get it, I guess. But we are also very careful and hopefully not exposing this girl to anything. I don’t know. I feel like people are making decisions based on risk assessments and the threat (or very real presence) of mental health issues. At this point it is what it is.
But you know that the mother has different expectations. Why would you not respect that? I bet you are the mom who lets them drink at your house too. Stop with the mental health issues. Unhappy is not a mental health issue. These kids have myriad ways in which they can interact.
Anonymous
02/08/2021 17:05
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DD has a friend whose parents truly believe that when she comes here they are outside only. In the rain. Snow. Cold. They are not. The girls are 17/18. We are fine with having her inside because she and her family are super Covid safe.
Just saying you may think your amazing child is following your rules and they might not be. She goes and sits outside on our porch right before they pick her up. If the mother asked me I’d tell her the truth but I’m not goin out if my way to tell her.
Wow. You suck.
And this is why we don’t let our kids socialize with their friends right now. You can’t trust others to follow the rules.
Why do I suck? Seriously- I thought about telling her mom but they are 17 and 18 years old. I did tell my DD that she ought to tell her friend to be more true truthful with her mom. But... hasn’t it always been my house, my rules? That’s how it goes, right? I think it’s on this girl to tell her parents that she is choosing to come indoors at our place. Or maybe your “you suck” is because I let her? In that case, I get it, I guess. But we are also very careful and hopefully not exposing this girl to anything. I don’t know. I feel like people are making decisions based on risk assessments and the threat (or very real presence) of mental health issues. At this point it is what it is.
Anonymous
02/08/2021 15:58
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, No sport, no school. Snow on the ground so yea
Oh, well, if there's snow on the ground, that's OK, then. We'll just put the pandemic on pause until it melts.
COVID less risky than depression over the next few weeks for us
This makes so much more sense to me than “because COVID isn’t a risk at all”. I don’t allow DS at friend’s houses, but we know people who do because their kids showed signs of mental health issues. The people who are just cavalier about it just suck.
Anonymous
02/08/2021 15:56
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
We are an outside only family. There are a few Ms/Hs families in our street and they have groups of kids over all the time. There is zero chance they are wearing masks. I’m sure they picked hybrid, too.
Anonymous
02/08/2021 15:50
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Outside only
Anonymous
02/08/2021 15:49
Subject: Re:Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Our teens both hang out with friends, indoors. Yep.
Mine too. And trust me, these other teens are too. Unless these mothers are (a) lying, (b) barricading their kids inside, or (c) going with them everywhere and supervising.
This. If you think your older teens are not hanging out inside you're delusional or don't let your kids out of the house. If you kid can drive and is going somewhere alone odds are they're hanging out with friends whether they tell you or not.
We let ours hand out with friends inside and they tell us when they do. We've done this since summer.
Anonymous
02/08/2021 15:11
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, No sport, no school. Snow on the ground so yea
Oh, well, if there's snow on the ground, that's OK, then. We'll just put the pandemic on pause until it melts.
COVID less risky than depression over the next few weeks for us
Anonymous
02/08/2021 14:49
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:We have one family that we allow our kids to go inside. We have been pod-ing with them the entire time so we often go over each others homes and hang out with out masks.
My kids only hang out with their other friends outside and masked. Fortunately several families have screened in porches that they can hang out on.
That’s us too. And the teens (it’s a limited group of under 6) do have pizza together so not 100% masked, but they space the chairs out pretty well when eating.
Anonymous
02/08/2021 14:47
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Yes. And we have been since June. 2 teens and a tween.
Anonymous
02/08/2021 14:46
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, No sport, no school. Snow on the ground so yea
Oh, well, if there's snow on the ground, that's OK, then. We'll just put the pandemic on pause until it melts.
Anonymous
02/08/2021 14:40
Subject: Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Yes, No sport, no school. Snow on the ground so yea
Anonymous
02/08/2021 13:05
Subject: Re:Are you letting your teens hang at friends houses, inside?
Nope. We're in person for school, though. So, they're getting plenty interaction.